Tocarra, sorry to hear about your third loss, a very heartbreaking thing to go through. I agree with the girls that if you haven't already, it is definetly worth investigating why you may be miscarrying before TTC again, do you have a good OB? I'm glad you found us, welcome to our thread.
Tildy, I hope Kebab has been kicking away. Katie, nearly everyone I know who has had a baby says breastfeeding can be really hard at first. Sounds like you have had some great help. Enjoy your little girl.
Lan & Paula, good luck TTC this month, I'll be right behind you soon. TM, hope little one is growing nicely. Helen, hope your feeling well after the op.
Hi to everyone else. Have a great week.
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hi girls i'm new on this one i lost my little chloe on the 11-11-08 she was an ivf baby just wondering how long after your loss did people get their first period again? thanks in advance for any information.
Jo, I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking of you the past few days. I hope that Madison's EDD went as well as it possibly could have.
Tildy, I hope you have been doing well. Try to stay positive, you had a great scan.
dee81, I am so sorry to hear about Chloe. I think it took me about a month and a half to get my first period after I lost Shelby at 28 weeks. My cycle was close to normal after an early loss. Have they been able to find a reason for your loss?
Toccara50, I am so sorry for your loss. Make sure that you are ready before you try again. You will most likely be very nervous through your next pregnancy. Get as much information as you can to help you through it. We will also be here to help you.
Lan, My next scan is Jan.5 right now. The doctor really doesn't know if the baby is just big or if they had an error with my 6 week scan measurements. My cycles are long so right now it sounds like the baby is just big. The baby has measured a couple of days farther along with every scan. So that is really good so far. I can't really go by my dates because I had a loss at 5 weeks during the cycle before this pregnancy.
Katie, I can't wait for you to post some more pics of Anna.
TM, I will be thinking of you on Tuesday. I hope you have a great scan.
Last edited by Laney; December 9th, 2008 at 04:51 AM.
No I have not been tested and I am going to look for new OB because the one I have now is horrible all I have gotten from this OB is M/C is common in the first 6 to 12 weeks ... Yes this had been a very emotional year for me and DH and my body needs a good rest I waited at least 2 cycles each time but my cycles are short most of time I have two in one month and I have no idea when I "O" guess I'm just really fertile or something, I do really find comfort here with you girls because none of friend and no in my family has ever M/C before ...
Toccara, so sorry to hear of your losses you have had such a traumatic year. I don't know how it works in the US but try and find an OB who will do as comprehensive suite of tests. It may be that you can be treated fairly easily and have a normal and successful pregnancy. It is important you do this before you try again, try and explain to your husband that without the tests/treatment you may be risking losing another baby.
Hi Laney, my baby has measured 3-4 days ahead this time as well. It's probably just all the extra blood baby is getting because of the clexane!! Very good sign.
Dee, so sorry to hear about the loss of precious Chloe. It took me just over two months to have a proper period again, and we conceived on that cycle. Every woman is different of course. I hope you find some comfort from this forum.
Hi Tildy, so glad to hear Kebab was just a little twister!! The hospital sounds terrible though, locking pregnant women out, how awful!!!
TM, seeing the yolk sac at 5 weeks is a great sign, do you have any more HCG results yet?
Katie, I hope the BF is going well now. It sounds painful but we go through much pain for our babies don't we!!!
As for me, to answer Lan's Q it does feel a bit strange to be past 22 weeks. I'm a bit concerned because last wednesday the doctor told me to go off clexane, than BAM! on Sunday I had a migraine, which can be a symtpom of thickened blood. It wasn't oo bad but still, the visual aura and numb hand and everything. But I'm holding out, I have another ultrasound in 4 weeks which will check the blood flow and I think it's important that I found out whether I still need the clexane or not.
hey girls!
sorry i have'nt been around much, madisons EDD is today and i am really feeling it. I have to work today and not sure how i am going to get through it as we have a mgt member who does'nt know any of my history. I got woken up by DH and got in trouble for not coming in the shower with him and could'nt belive his selfishness or the fact that he has obvously fogotton. Its so hard to feel like i am the only one who actually still feels something and has more of a connection to these dates. My IVF friend lost her baby at 9 weeks on sat night and on sunday morning i woke up with anxiety pains in my chest. This day has been just looming over me since my friends came in with their baby Jack. I should have a baby due now and i am going into ANOTHER christmas with empty arms. I hate this and am so over it.
thanks for remembering Laney!it means alot!
will post personals another day when i am feeling less selfish myself! sorry girls!
xx
Oh Jo, I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time with all these horrible anniversaries. I think I would've punched DH in the face for nagging about having a shower together on Madison's EDD. Men do grieve and remember our angels differently though. I totally know what you mean and how you feel about being over facing Christmas with empty arms. It's like, you get to 17wks and get thrown back to the start. You try again and make it to 22wks and chucked right back to the start. And all that time you had a living, kicking baby in your tummy then suddenly they're gone and there's no physical evidence of them left on your body or in what should be their room. I know Jo and I am sorry. HUGS!
Here's another weirdo thing I caught myself doing this morning - staring at another girl's pregnant tummy and wishing like crazy that I were her then feeling for myself that I haven't even started getting there yet. But Katie's right, last month was practice, I have started.
Dee, I'm sorry for the loss of little Chloe. It took me about 6wks to get my periods back after I had my baby but the first 2 or 3 cycles were strange. I think my body was still regulating itself.
Toccara, welcome and I'm sorry that you've had such a rough year. Did you say that you get two periods in one month? In one of the books I was reading it said that your cycle should consist of no longer than 17 days before ovulation and at least 12 days after. If you're getting two periods in one month, your cycles are too short and indicative of hormonal imbalance? I'd ask for that to be check out. You can start by charting your temps.
Paula, I can't remember how to post the link to Fertility Friend but I have been banned from charting so would you like to join me in exile ;-)
Must do some work.
Oh, before I go. Hugs to you, Katie, as you battle with b/f. I don't know what that's like but I know how much it hurts when the milk comes in and I do remember reading Baby Love and not being able to figure out the whole b/f part!
Jo - thinking of you today on Madison's EDD. These days are hard and you have had so many in the last few days. I hope you were able to take a moment to remember your beautiful daughter and know that she is not forgotten - she is held in many of our hearts. Be kind to yourself and if your DH does seem to forget - then remind him! Sending you hugs and support
Dee, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of beautiful Chloe, an incredible difficult thing to go through at 28-weeks. Glad you found us here.
Jo, you have been through a rough time lately, I hope you are getting through this time ok. Sweet Madison will always be in your heart, I'm sure it will get easier with time.
Paula, fingers crossed for January for both of us and you to Lan.
Helen, good to see that little baby in your ticker growing!
Hi to everyone else.
Last edited by Berry1; January 10th, 2009 at 03:28 AM.
Jo, I know how difficult it is when your DH doesn't remember important dates. They really do remember our angels in a different way. I have had to remind my DH about each one. I refuse to agonize over these days alone.
hgirs, It is great to hear that your scan went well.
MrsRobbo, I know that it is very difficult to wait to TTC. It was very painful for me to not be pregnant anymore after my losses. It is very important that you feel your body is ready first.
dee81, During my pregnancy with Shelby she had low fluid that started around 20 weeks. I was checked a few times for leaking fluid but it ended up that there were blood clots in the placenta. She was not getting enough oxygen and nutrients to grow properly.
Rozzie, How are you feeling? Has your headache gone yet? Your body might need a little time to adjust to the changes. I didn't feel well for a couple of weeks when I started the LMW heparin.
I am trying to stay positive. I really want to believe the aspirin and heparin are doing their job. I just want to hear that this bub is measuring 2 weeks ahead at my next scan.
Hi, to everyone that I have missed.
I am still moving forward one day at a time. I am trying really hard to only use the doppler once a day or less. My placenta is low and in front so it is getting a bit difficult to find the HB at home. I don't have the best doppler and the placenta is starting to get loud. I only get the swoosh of the placenta somedays. I am usually tempted to keep listening until I find the HB which can take a while at this stage. I think it will get a little easier in the next couple of weeks as the baby gets bigger.
TM, I am so sorry that this has happened to you again. I know that it is very difficult when life is so unfair but try to stay positive for the future. I will be thinking of you.
I'm sorry TM. You are right, it just sucks, there's no reason why you have to go through this and no justification for the pain you have to feel. I'm just really sorry.
I am so sorry I have been AWOL for quite a few days. Had a friend down from the country and was shopping, shopping, shopping. But you guys have been so busy!!! it will take me ages to catch up.....
I am so tired!!!!! and work has been so so busy.....
First, I am so sorry tempus moriendi, my heart goes out to you. Please treat yourself kindly and look after yourself.
Jo I am so thinking of you
Helen - Yippee about the great scan. I am so so happy for you....
Welcome Dee, Darcy and Tocarra. I look forward to getting to know you.
Katie - Hoping B/F is getting better. I am still so thrilled for you. I tell everyone about you.
Hi to Megan, Rozzie, Paula, Lan and Laney - hope you are all doing well.
Well its our 3rd wedding anniversary today and we are going out to dinner at the Summit at Mount Lofty (in the Adelaide Hills) and I am so looking forward to it. I think I am even going to splurge and have 1 glass of Rose'. I think I deserve it for all the stressing I have done lately. My brother & sister-in-law announced their pregnancy yesterday and they are only 6 weeks behind me, which makes me kind of nervous, but also very thrilled that there will be 2 cousins very close in age.
TM - You are right, things shouldn't be this damn hard, I am so sorry sending you the biggest hugs.
Sue - I hope you have a nice anniversary, a glass of rose sounds lovely I think 1 glass would go straight to my head now!
... Yes this had been a very emotional year for me and DH and my body needs a good rest I waited at least 2 cycles each time but my cycles are short most of time I have two in one month and I have no idea when I "O" guess I'm just really fertile or something, I do really find comfort here with you girls because none of friend and no in my family has ever M/C before ...
you have had such a traumatic year. I don't know how it works in the US but try and find an OB who will do as comprehensive suite of tests. It may be that you can be treated fairly easily and have a normal and successful pregnancy. It is important you do this before you try again, try and explain to your husband that without the tests/treatment you may be risking losing another baby.
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