Oh yes sorry, I knew you were getting your fibroid out, silly me. A few months is not so long to wait (I imagine it feels like a lifetime for you though). Not long now before you get it removed and I am sure the procedure will go perfectly and then you can start TTC again. Same for me, my BB are not sore before AF anymore either! The only time they got sore was when I was on meds. How weird.
My lining is always between 7-9mm around O time so he says it's fine. Oh I don't know... or maybe I do - I am such a drama queen.
Thanks for the pep talk, my FS thinks I shouldn't waste any time either as I might be trying for months then back to this point. From my last post to now, I have made a decision. I am going to try IVF. I want to give myself the best chance and with my erratic cycles ATM , I don't think it's going to happen that easily if I leave it up to nature.
I hope your friend at work gets her little miracle soon. It's nice to have someone close to talk to I imagine. I only talk to you girlies in here about all this stuff and I thank God for the day I found you all.
Morning Lovey's! How frikken hot is it?
Diana, I don't think you're being a drama queen at all! I've been waiting only 4 and a bit weeks for AF to arive and I'm already antzy about it not becoming regular, I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling. I really do hope that IVF works for you first shot You'll have to keep us update on everything
Beata, Thankyou for the wishes Where did you go for your holidays? I'm with ya on the registry office! I'm mum's only daughter as well and she'd be devistated if we did that as well. We had planned to get married in October this year but have decided to move it back as DF doesn't want me stressing out organising a wedding while we're TTC or while I'm preg (although I can't seem to get it through his head that it would be nice to have something happy & positive to look forward to that is actually guaranteed to happen iykwim, but he won't budge!). When I told mum the look on her face almost killed me And we're only moving it back!
Zachary's Mom, It will happen! I feel it in me waters! Don't be to hard on yourself either
AFM, I'm getting some dull cramping so hopefully AF is only a week or so away!
Last edited by helle; January 10th, 2009 at 11:10 AM.
Beata -- I hear what you are saying about being scared of the pressure of a wedding. I moved to Sweden to be with my DH in 2002, under an express promise that he intended to marry me -- not uprooting my life for someone if they don't intend to make it forever! He knew that I desperately wanted to be proposed to more than anything, but he's also a Swedish boy (bah!) and he also knew that I had a super complicated inner conflict about the wedding and even the proposal. I weighed 115 kg when I first came here, and though I desperately wanted that proposal, I couldn't imagine it being what I wanted to be if I felt fat and ugly and undesirable when I got it. I also couldn't imagine being able to enjoy my wedding given that I shy away from attention, could very well get a full-blown panic attack with all those people looking at me, and could imagine myself getting irritated and angry at all the people telling me I was pretty when I felt it was a lie.
So by the time I'd lost 40 kg and had been with DH for 5 years, I started getting antsy and angry with him for not proposing. I was all like "I'm ready now, dammit!" but... well, he was still a Swedish boy! Stupid ultra-modern gender-equal un-chivalrous anti-marriage culture! So my proposal ended up being him responding to me bawling my eyes out one night and asking him what the hell he was waiting for. I'm trying to train him, but at the time I had to settle for picking out my own ring, showing him where he could buy it, and just hoping he would take the initiative to actually purchase it in the year and a half between our engagement and our wedding.
It sucks that you have to wait a few months after the fibroid surgery, I know that that will feel like a long time. But! You have an explanation for your loss, and that is hopefully a comforting fresh start for your next pregnancy.
Teagz -- no fun waiting for the first AF, is it? Mine was 5 weeks after the D&C, and I returned immediately to my normal 26-day cycle (at least for the one cycle before I got pregnant again). I can't remember exactly how long I bled, but I think it was somewhere between light to spotting for about 2 weeks. I had cramping and back pain for 3 weeks though, which freaked me out. I know you're nervous that things won't go back to their regular rhythm, but it's so normal for the first one to take a while, so there's definitely no cause for concern yet -- even if I understand your impatience. How frikkin' hot is it, btw? Here it's about +2 C, so all the weird ice-snow we got a few days ago is melting in just the right way to make the roads and sidewalks death-defyingly frictionless.
Diana -- congratulations on making your decision; it must not be easy. But even though I'm sure IVF can be a difficult road, we can look at it this way: doing IVF doesn't hurt your chances of conceiving naturally later, right? So you're just giving yourself an extra possible road to what you want.
Oh, and on the topic of "Stop worrying, or else we'll never get pregnant!" I took that up with my grief counselor during the summer while we were TTC. I told her that you read that in a lot of places -- that being stressed or worried hurts your chances of getting pregnant, which just made me more stressed and worried! So she rolled her eyes -- not at me, but at the people who say that -- and she told me this: first, there's no evidence that that's actually true. Secondly, even if it were true, she questioned whether or not it would be responsible to tell people that, because the people that are affected by the problem are going to be exactly the type of people who, like me, will only worry MORE once they get that information! And I can add to the anecdotal evidence that it's not true -- it took us 8 cycles to get pregnant with Beiron, but I got pregnant with Kebab on our 2nd cycle of trying. And guess which time I was more worried and stressed and obsessed?
Theresa -- I know you'll HATE it if I say "6 months is not a long time." Of course it is, to you, emotionally, but as far as time for TTC it's not cause for concern yet. I know it feels weird that it's taking longer this time. But if it were me, I would keep charting in order to feel like I have information, but keep DTD as if you weren't charting. Just have sex 3 times a week throughout your cycle. That's what I did anyway -- the charting helped with my geeky love of numbers and info, but I realized that knowing when I O'd wasn't going to get me pregnant, but rather, making sure there were swimmers in there waiting for it.
CD11 for Lan? That means it's time to get to it, soldier! Hmm, what a strange relationship we all have, when you think about it... imagine that I would know so much about the privates and sex lives of a bunch of women on another side of the planet.
Last edited by Tildy; January 10th, 2009 at 07:41 PM.
Can't believe the weekend is almost over, back to work on Monday...yuck ! where has the time gone ???
Diana love, you are so not a drama queen !! I'd be so frasturated too, if my cycles were all over the place. All you want is for the cycles to be regular again, it's not really too much to ask for, is it hun ? I know IVF can be a bit daunting, but like you've said, give yourself the best possible chance at conceiving that beautiful baby. If you continue to wait, it can take a while or not, who knows. But if you are going to try IVF, good luck hun, I hope it's a very, very short journey for you. In the mean time, go for gold when you know you're ovulating and have fun at it !! he he. Even though there is that slightest chance my DF and I could get pregnant naturally ( very remote chance, in fact, as his count is very low ), I'd still do IVF. I might be 45 by then if I leave it to nature !!
Teagz_88, we went to Lorne on the Great Ocean Road, 2 hours away from Melbourne. It was great there, we've gone 3 years in a row now. We actually planned to go to sunny QLD late January 09, but when we found out we were pregnant in June 08, I knew I'd be heavily pregnant and I couln'd see myself getting on a plane or suffer in a car ! Well, things didn't go to plan unfortunately, so off to Lorne it was again.
My mum was really on my case about getting married last year, but we decided to try for a baby instead, and she then didn't mind as she so wanted a grandchild ! Joshua is her first grandchild, he's just in heaven
I hope your cycles get back to noraml again real soon !
Tildy, so sorry your DH is such a Swidish boy ! I was also dropping suble hints for my DF as he just got his divorce finalized in late 2007 and I wanted to make sure he was in this relationship for the long haul. He did get my ring all by himself though, although he had an idea of what I liked. After we lost Joshua, I said to my DF, lets get married and then at least that is done, and then we can focus all our attention on getting our beautiful bub. So you never know, I might be a married woman soon !
Hi to all you other lovely ladies, I hope all is well with everyone
You'll have to keep us update on everything 
Where did you go for your holidays? I'm with ya on the registry office! I'm mum's only daughter as well and she'd be devistated if we did that as well. We had planned to get married in October this year but have decided to move it back as DF doesn't want me stressing out organising a wedding while we're TTC or while I'm preg (although I can't seem to get it through his head that it would be nice to have something happy & positive to look forward to that is actually guaranteed to happen iykwim, but he won't budge!). When I told mum the look on her face almost killed me 
And we're only moving it back!
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