Hi girls, especially DD (since we shared the experience a month apart and knows my journey).
I don't know if you remember me but I just wanted to wish everyone extra special luck this month. It has proven to be a great month for me, but I have really good vibes about Feb/March for everyone so "get jiggy with it".
For those who don't know, I lost my little girl at 23 weeks to an IC in Sept 08. It was the most devastating experience of my life. I have also lost both of my parents and am only 27, so its been a particularly rough trot.
But, I have great news.
We found two lines late last night! I cannot believe it and I really mean that. You have no idea how much of a shock this is! I had NO symptoms, NO sore boobs, nothing! The only reason I did the test was because I bough the OTK and they have a free Preg Test inside them. So I thought I would amuse myself (I even did it at 6pm, 7 days before my period was due, as if I would ever see two lines at that time!!!). I even made an appointment with the fertility specialist for April 21 because I KNEW that this month wasn't the month for us and we had been trying for 5 months (4 excluding the first cycle after loss).
Anyhow, Its still very early days and Im not due for my period for another 6 days. DH and I refuse to believe it till another 8 or so days and a blood test. (have done three, all are positive but very faint).
As you all know, from our experiences - its important not to tell family and friends too early for fear of something happening. But I wanted to tell someone and why would I be concerned to share it with you girls when we've all been there together?
So there it is - you all know before our family and friends! LOL
I wish you all so much luck, to go through what we have been through I think we all need to remind ourselves how strong and resilient we all are. Women are amazing!
Joselyn
I remember you hun and your story. I am so excited for you conrgats hun I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.
Teagz
I doubt you will OD on cranberry but if you start looking like a cranberry then you know you have taken too much. I think the label suggests 1 capsule 3 times a day, I just take on in the morning along with the other 3. I am not going to say anything yet but lets hope so for you hun x
Megan
TBH I hadn't given it a thought, I just want to get to 9 months DH pretty much pays for everything now as it is so in that respect it won't make much of a difference. I plan to remain a SAHM for as long as I can. I would like to see if I can get into something I can do from home though just to give me something to do and a little $$extra$$ on the side.
Beata I am right there with you. lets hope your pregnancy dance works hoping your focusing your dancing more to the horizontal mumbo though
Am still in shock but am thankful beyond all belief. If I were talking to someone about my experiences I would say that TTC under the same circumstances as this (i.e having two losses already) is frightening, and there is a deep seeded belief that it will never happen for you. So when it does, its such a shock! I don't think I would give advice to someone about how to deal with the disappointment of TTC, nor would I suggest that it happened this month because I did anything special - I just don't think that's the case. Its just a biological function that we have no control over - and that's the hardest part about it.
DH and I obviously have our anxieties but have agreed together that we'll tackle every situation as it arises. Not a day earlier.
Just to clarify Nae, have you already seen two lines? I'm not up to speed in this room
All the best, Jasmine.
P.S Thats my real name but I go by Joselyn because I got worried peole might know me by putting two and two together about my history...
Hey Jas,
Do you mind if I call you that??
Nah no two lines for me yet but I am hopeful, if not this time - then next time or the time after that. I am just enjoying DH's company alot at the moment, its actually the closest we've been emotionally as well in months which is really nice.
Jas I don't think there is a word to describe the fear of TTC and Pregnancy after going through what we've all been through.
I don't know about offering advice but I certainly enjoy bouncing ideas off other ladies who are also TTC and what works for them. Of course its luck of the draw when it does work out but it never hurts to try new things - life is not a guarantee but think of all the fun we have
Yeah the room can be hard to keep up with - and names I can never remember what anyones real name is
I hope its all uneventful for you hun (the pregnancy that is), you deserve all the happiness in the world.
Nae x x
Sorry I don't have alot of time for personals today as am soooo busy at work but had to respond to a few of our UTD friends!
Teagz OMG a line is a line sweets so you are UTD I know you don't want to get your hopes up but I think secretly you can. Well done! WHOO HOO
Jasmine! I am so happy and excited for you CONGRATULATIONS! Absolutely fabulous news. I pray you have an uneventful 9 months and take a beautiful happy and healthy baby home. You deserve it hun.
Lan, I am so very sorry February wasn't your month dear friend. Hope you're ok
Beata, how is the first day back at work? Remember to talk to HR or someone if it gets too much for you. You must stay peaceful for your transfer in a few months hun! Good luck at the doctor tomorrow, hope you get fabulous news about your wonderfully healed uterus
I will try to log on tonight to catch up a little better.
Sorry if I sounded like I was not the advice giving/taking type - definitely not me. Am a very open person. I was just worried to be the girl who finally falls pregnant and then tells everyone its as easy as "eating cheese", or "I just didn't worry this month and it happened" etc...
But I can say something straight off the bat - I was using the maybe baby and it was far too complex. My sister kept insisting I use the OPKs but I said I spent $90 on maybe baby so I was sure it would be better. In the end I gave up (because she usually is right about everything) and tried the OPKs... and yep, sure enough, they worked. Thats about the only thing I did differently. Oh and exercise. My GP said we needed endorphins to balance the checmicals or something like that, so I started training again. That is about the only thing I can say I did differently...
Anyhow, enough about me.
I agree entirely about spending time with DH. I love my husband so much and sometimes when I felt like I had nothing good in my life I just had to remind myself how fortunate I was to have such a great friend in him. I often wonder how difficult it would have been if I had an unsupportive companion.
DD - fingers crossed for you - I won't bother you with questions but will look forward to an update.
Congratulations Joselyn, that is such fabulous news . You have been through a rough time and really deserve peace, happiness and joy. I really pray that this pg goes smoothly for you. Very exciting
Teagz, I want to congratulate you, let us know when you get a nice tbold 2nd line
Nae Nae, I really hope you get a BFP as well
Beata, I didn't realise you were getting a transer, sorry I missed that. That is good news, I am glad that you don't have to put up with your current environment for that much longer. I hope it happens soon.
Hello to everyone else. I hope its raining BFP's too this month
hi ladies, i'm soooo excited well i don't know if that's the right word mybe relieved is better. we just came back form the hospital to hear about what they found happened with our little boy. i have been sad and nerbous the whole week and had a good few cries yesterda and this morning. and worse i feel like i can't just ring people and start talking about it and i got an email from a girl i worked with asking how the pregnancy is going i haven't been able to respond.but i'll get to it i guess. anyhoo i was so nervous and teary at the waiting room just dredding it. waht if they said it was something i did? what if they don't know? what if i can't have babies? all sorts. but they said with the swab they took from me after the delivery they found some bacteria.ureaplasma he called it which caused chorioamnionitis. basically an infection in the uterus caused by bugs that live in the vagina normally and sometimes but very rarely get out of hand. i was embarrassed but i had to ask and they said it's not a cleanliness thing and unlikely to happen again and i should have a normal pregnancy next time. just bad luck. but i'm sooo glad we can be normal again although i have to go to the hospital's high risk clinic and monitored closely, but it's nothing physical and we can try again when ever we want. we had a fight so i think we missed this month lol.
Hi everyone just quickly ducking in to say to Mummy2be, that I had this infection too, although they couldn't culture mine to know what exactly caused the chorio. My story got a little more complicated though because they couldn't give me a definitive answer whether it was the infection that caused the labour to start or if I had Incompetent cervix which let the infection in! When I presented to the hospital I was 4cm already without having any real labour, so I had a stitch placed this pregnancy as a precaution. You are right the chances of it happening again are very remote (although we would prefer it to be never) and you will get to have your little bub, glad they will watch you closely.
Good luck
Helen
hi helen,
i had never heard of this before but an answer was great. yeah we wish it would never happen. they said i will not get a stitch because my cervix looks fine and i had labour pains for a while which makes them think it's not the cervix. nonetheless i will have a swab between 12 and 16 weeks to check if the infection doesn't come back etc. i will probabbly have them check twice just to be n the safe side. also i asked that my cervix be checked as well at 12 weeks just to check on how it's progressing and maybe at 14 and 16 weeks etc. imagine that all you need is antibiotics! that sounds crazy that you can lose a baby when it can be sorted out easily like that.my bbs are sore! hmmm i thought we bded like four and three days before !
i'm so happy you hav another bubby on the way
I am glad that you have got some answers as to what happened. I can imagine how stressful it was for you leading up to that appointment. It's awful that these 'rare' events happen, but it sounds like it is highly unlikely to happen to you again and they will obviously monitor you, so that is great news. Exciting that you can start ttc again with peace of mind. Happy for you
Mummy2be, I'm so glad you've got an answer from the doc. I have read of bacteria getting into the uterus which can cause miscarriage, although it's pretty rare. Good luck with your TTC and I pray that you get your BFP soon
Diana and Dee, praying like crazy every day for you guys Diana, you only have 2 more days to go!!! That is sooooooo exciting hun!!!
Megan, have you O'd yet??? I hope you've been a very busy little bunny Let's pray hard for a very sticky egg for you
Teagz, sounds like your work is not much better than mine!!! We have this really nosey and rude woman in accounts and she's been with us for 6 months. Well, she came in and started running the whole place!!!! She's just an accounts payable person, and she started telling our sales reps what they could and couldn't spend the company's money on, changed some people's chairs around as the 'decor' was all wrong, and basically bossed everyone at work. Well, you don't boss a bull (that be me...). I told her to shove her bossing ways up her bum one day and she doesn't talk to me now (THANK GOD). When I told her that I was having my op, she told me not to get my hopes up. The BIATCH!!!!!!!!!!
Any more signs for possible BFP hun??
Nae, how are you going? Do you think you're UTD?? I pray you are
AFM, I went to see my FS today and he told me to go for an U/S end of April early May. Because I have to go between CD5 and CD9, I made the app. on 8 May. I then go and see him again on 19 May to discuss the transfer. I think I will have my transfer in early June...can't wait!!!! He also told me that the frozen blastie is more advanced than what little Josh was as it was frozen a day later, so this one is a really good one. Guess what number embryo Joshua was????? Number 9. That's my birthday and my lucky number. Can you believe it? It gave me goose bumps......
Big hello to our mummas and lots of sticky vibes and baby dust to all our TTC lovelies.
Hi everyone, I just wanted to say thank you for your well wishes etc... its so nice to be able to hear it considering everyone in my family and circle of friends has no idea!
Nae - good luck for this month. If its a BFP then I say its got something to do with the moon this month... what do you think? It just feels like a special month. End of Summer, darker nights, time for soup that kind of think I love the transition of seasons...
Teags - That sux about the BFN - how can those things get it so wrong! I did 4 tests to make sure I was really positive - and even still I won't believe it till I actually miss my period. I had heard of checmical pregnancies so I won't jump for joy till Sunday. Have to stay grounded he he.
Diana - I don't know if you caved in yet with the early testing. Don' t be too hard on yourself if you have and if you haven't, well done! Bottom line is, if you test early and its neg, its not accurate yet so don't waste your hearts precious hopes... (says a girl who tested 7 days early!) Its killing me - its making it take so long to get to the day my AF was due! Ohh what if it still comes
beata70 - thank you for having a dance for me! I feel like giving you a big mum hug you girls all rock.
All the best to the other girls and thanks again for all your best wishes! Next step is missing the actual period (there is another negative to testing early girls... you still have to wait anyway to be sure).
Next step after that is to make it to the first appt, then to 12 weeks, then the stitch at 14 weeks, then 20 weeks, and then 26 weeks. Then I will accept this pregnancy LOL
Two lines!
conrgats hun I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.
DH pretty much pays for everything now as it is so in that respect it won't make much of a difference. I plan to remain a SAHM for as long as I can. I would like to see if I can get into something I can do from home though just to give me something to do and a little $$extra$$ on the side.
I am right there with you. lets hope your pregnancy dance works hoping your focusing your dancing more to the horizontal mumbo though 
Thanks
. You have been through a rough time and really deserve peace, happiness and joy. I really pray that this pg goes smoothly for you. Very exciting 
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