Trying to Conceive after Still Birth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss ~ February 2009

[Joselyn]

Thanks NaeNae, I appreciate your well wishes. xx

Am still in shock but am thankful beyond all belief. If I were talking to someone about my experiences I would say that TTC under the same circumstances as this (i.e having two losses already) is frightening, and there is a deep seeded belief that it will never happen for you. So when it does, its such a shock! I don't think I would give advice to someone about how to deal with the disappointment of TTC, nor would I suggest that it happened this month because I did anything special - I just don't think that's the case. Its just a biological function that we have no control over - and that's the hardest part about it.

DH and I obviously have our anxieties but have agreed together that we'll tackle every situation as it arises. Not a day earlier.

Just to clarify Nae, have you already seen two lines? I'm not up to speed in this room

All the best, Jasmine.

P.S Thats my real name but I go by Joselyn because I got worried peole might know me by putting two and two together about my history...

[NaeNae]

Hey Jas,
Do you mind if I call you that??
Nah no two lines for me yet but I am hopeful, if not this time - then next time or the time after that. I am just enjoying DH's company alot at the moment, its actually the closest we've been emotionally as well in months which is really nice.
Jas I don't think there is a word to describe the fear of TTC and Pregnancy after going through what we've all been through.
I don't know about offering advice but I certainly enjoy bouncing ideas off other ladies who are also TTC and what works for them. Of course its luck of the draw when it does work out but it never hurts to try new things - life is not a guarantee but think of all the fun we have
Yeah the room can be hard to keep up with - and names I can never remember what anyones real name is
I hope its all uneventful for you hun (the pregnancy that is), you deserve all the happiness in the world.
Nae x x

[dd0207]

Hello girls

Sorry I don't have alot of time for personals today as am soooo busy at work but had to respond to a few of our UTD friends!

Teagz OMG a line is a line sweets so you are UTD I know you don't want to get your hopes up but I think secretly you can. Well done! WHOO HOO

Jasmine! I am so happy and excited for you CONGRATULATIONS! Absolutely fabulous news. I pray you have an uneventful 9 months and take a beautiful happy and healthy baby home. You deserve it hun.

Lan, I am so very sorry February wasn't your month dear friend. Hope you're ok

Beata, how is the first day back at work? Remember to talk to HR or someone if it gets too much for you. You must stay peaceful for your transfer in a few months hun! Good luck at the doctor tomorrow, hope you get fabulous news about your wonderfully healed uterus

I will try to log on tonight to catch up a little better.

[Joselyn]

Hey Nae, yep, you can call me Jas.

Sorry if I sounded like I was not the advice giving/taking type - definitely not me. Am a very open person. I was just worried to be the girl who finally falls pregnant and then tells everyone its as easy as "eating cheese", or "I just didn't worry this month and it happened" etc...

But I can say something straight off the bat - I was using the maybe baby and it was far too complex. My sister kept insisting I use the OPKs but I said I spent $90 on maybe baby so I was sure it would be better. In the end I gave up (because she usually is right about everything) and tried the OPKs... and yep, sure enough, they worked. Thats about the only thing I did differently. Oh and exercise. My GP said we needed endorphins to balance the checmicals or something like that, so I started training again. That is about the only thing I can say I did differently...

Anyhow, enough about me.

I agree entirely about spending time with DH. I love my husband so much and sometimes when I felt like I had nothing good in my life I just had to remind myself how fortunate I was to have such a great friend in him. I often wonder how difficult it would have been if I had an unsupportive companion.

DD - fingers crossed for you - I won't bother you with questions but will look forward to an update.

Love Jasy xxx

[Berry1]

Congratulations Joselyn, that is such fabulous news . You have been through a rough time and really deserve peace, happiness and joy. I really pray that this pg goes smoothly for you. Very exciting

Teagz, I want to congratulate you, let us know when you get a nice tbold 2nd line

Nae Nae, I really hope you get a BFP as well

Beata, I didn't realise you were getting a transer, sorry I missed that. That is good news, I am glad that you don't have to put up with your current environment for that much longer. I hope it happens soon.

Hello to everyone else. I hope its raining BFP's too this month

[Laney]

Hi Ladies,
My scan today went great. Our little guy is in the 50th percentile and growing well. It is really hard to believe after everything that we have been through. I am still waiting for that one scan where he isn't growing. I see my high risk doctor next week and have another growth scan done there.
I am feeling a bit better. I have been having terrible pains from everything stretching out. I have been house bound for a week or so now. I guess the pain should ease up in a few weeks, or so my doctor tells me. As long as I don't try to do too much I feel pretty good. My DH has been doing the cleaning and shopping, it's a nice break.


Congratulations on the BFP's in here. I hope there is another big wave of them like last time.

[Miss.B]

Hi girls,

Last night the internet was shocking and I kept crashing on BB as well so this will be ultra quick and I'll do persies tonight.

Joselyn, big congratulations on your BFP !! I hope you enjoy a nice, long boring and trouble free pregnancy. I'm so glad your stay here was so short! Good luck in your new journey and I pray all goes well for you .

Laney, great news on your scan!! Woo hoo!!! Please continue to take it easy.

Well, off to work for me, agrrrrrrr!!!

B xxx

[NaeNae]

Jasy Huni
nobody in here would think that about you, I promise. we're a pretty cool group of women and we've all been through the trials of trying to become pregnant and lossing babies. Our stories are all different but we all share the same goal to become mummies to earth bound babies Your such a sweet girl, I am glad the OPK worked for you .

Beata
yeah it did the same to me I have a lot of problems with the BB website when I am at home because we can only get dial up where we are. Even when there are only a few users on I can have problems How you travelling anyways?

Laney
Great to hear from you - remember to keep your pelvis tilted up to keep that downward pressure off you're doing a great job and it will all be worth it at the end.

Berry
Whats going on with you chickie ?? hope your well.

DD *nae waves*
Whats goss??


AFM - I have a day off today DH woke me up this morning to make sure I was not going out anywhere other than the PO to pick up one of his uni books. He made me get out all of NIki's things and put them near the door incase I need to leave the farm though the forecast wind gusts for this area is upto 80km, we're in a fairly open and hilly area not many trees/bush and also not much grass but its best to be prepared for a fight if we need too.
Aside from all the smoke giving me a headache I am feeling really sick today. I had my morning juice and all the vitamins and my coffee but couldn't eat the toasted ham cheese sandwich I just want to barf. Yesterday I was having lots of dizzy spells which was pleasent. I am beginning to think that I am UTD or that something is really wrong with me. Not going to test though until the end of next week to give AF time to come (if she comes)
Been doing 25 min on the treadmill 4 times a week and I feel great about it my fat butt still looks fat but I think its toning up YAY
Thats it from me for now.

be back l8r x x x x

[helle]

Nae, Oooh I do hope that you are UTD! All those seem like good signs to me

Joslyn, concgrats on your BFP!!!!!

Laney, Well done on your ultrasound, it's so good to hear that everything is going well

DD & Dee, sending you big stickyvibes!

Well girls, I did another HPT this morning and it was a BFN.

[NaeNae]

Teagz - just give it time lets hope its just too early

[dd0207]

Oh Teagz, not sure what to say hun. Test again in a few more days. Am praying very hard today's stick was faulty

Laney WOO HOO for a great scan You and baby are doing so beautifully. Now rest up and let DH spoil you!

Nae, ohhh the symptoms sound promising hun. Everything is crossed! I hope your home, and in particular you and DH are nice and safe. Must be very worrying to be close to the tragic fires.

Beata, how was work yesterday? Hope you're doing ok and thinking of you always.

Jasmine, YAY again! Please keep me updated on your progress. Am invested in you!

Hiya Megan. How's the lovin' marathon going? What CD are you on so I can keep track?

Dee, how are you sweets? Feel "anything" yet? So praying for your BFP!

AFM, I still have a few days before my blood test and am soooo tempted to POAS but am too scared! Should I?

All my love x

[dee81]

morning girls
teagz i really hope that you have a sticky one their and nae you two wouldn't it be great if we all got bfp this month.
diana not feeling anything i really don't know my gut feeling changes from day to day that i am or not. i so hope so but if not well we will try again.diana when do you test, i test on monday. but i will probably poas sat or sun. also have you been feeling anything different.
well hubby has gone crabbing and prawning last night and can't wait for him to get home today yum fresh crab and prawns i love it.
big hugs to all you lovely ladies

[helle]

Well, in all honesty DD& Dee, if I'm not UTD i'm going to be incredibly incredibly shocked because my BB's are killing me and I have a tender feeling in my lower abdoman. But I can't help but think I'm in for a very rude shock! I'm not doing any more HPT until AF is late, you girls need to be my rock because I cave rather easily! Over the span of the weekend I think I did about 5 tests Naughty! And only one was positive. I've made a pact with myself as well that if we're not lucky I'm going to stop TTC for a month or so to get this thrush sorted out with my naturopath, the stuff she gives me for it is a big no no if pg and she advises not to TTC while you're on it.

DD, If I were you I would have done 10 by now! ROLF.

[NaeNae]

Well, in all honesty DD& Dee, if I'm not UTD i'm going to be incredibly incredibly shocked because my BB's are killing me and I have a tender feeling in my lower abdoman. But I can't help but think I'm in for a very rude shock! I'm not doing any more HPT until AF is late, you girls need to be my rock because I cave rather easily! Over the span of the weekend I think I did about 5 tests Naughty! And only one was positive. I've made a pact with myself as well that if we're not lucky I'm going to stop TTC for a month or so to get this thrush sorted out with my naturopath, the stuff she gives me for it is a big no no if pg and she advises not to TTC while you're on it.

DD, If I were you I would have done 10 by now! ROLF.

hahahahahaha teagz you and me both - I went through 3 in 24hrs. So lets make a pack NO TESTING AT ALL UNTIL NEXT FRIDAY (13th March) That give us both 10 days to AF or no AF.

[NaeNae]

well hubby has gone crabbing and prawning last night and can't wait for him to get home today yum fresh crab and prawns i love it.

YOU SUCK kidding!!!
I am just jealous I love crabs and prawns oh so jealous you have no idea

[helle]

NaeNae, You are so on! First person to test... loses XD

Dee, Yummm, love crab! My mum makes the best crab curry!

[Zachary's Mom]

Hi Ladies

Just popping in to say hello. I hope you are all keeping well.

There is just so much to catch up on that I am going to have to just say hi to everyone, sending lotsa to all of you on the TTC journey.

How are all you pg mum's to be?

I am doing quite well. Haven't had too much m/s and just a fair amount of heartburn. I am waiting for my next scan on the 12th March - I can't wait!!!!

I hope you are all well and I can't wait to see some more BFP's!!! I will be praying for you all.

Love
Theresa xxxxx

[Berry1]

Hi Girls,

All the best for your scan Theresa.

Teagz, so sorry about the BFN. I am so against testing early as it can be a bigger let down when you build yourself up & get a BFN then it is with AF arriving, well it is for me. I really hope its a false alarm.

Diana, based on the above, I don't suggest testing too early, particulary with all you have been through, wait until you know you'll get a BFP if you are pg. I am on CD15 today and no O yet, so still at it I really thought it happened yesterday, but no rise in temp this morning. It may be wonder if it can take 2-days for your temp to rise? Still praying for you and Dee I want to hear two BIG BFP's soon girls.

Nae, I really hope you are UTD hun, that would be wonderful

Laney, so glad to hear you had such a great scan, that's great news. Good that you only have to wait another week for the next one. Sounds like you have a lovely strong boy growing in there

Beata, hope your first few days at work have been ok. It can be hard going back after what you have been through, thinking of you

How are you Lan, thinking of you sweetie

hello to everyone else.