Trying to Conceive after Still Birth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss ~ February 2009

Oh Lan, I don't know much about temping but are you sure there isn't a chance? Does that downward spiral really mean that AF is on her way? :noaf: February is our month!

Beata, your MD sounds like such a tosser, no wonder you're feeling so stressed about going back to work. You need to keep stress levels at a minimum and be in tip top mental condition for your upcoming transfer sweets so is there a possibility you can ask for a transfer to another department or speak to your HR department about how you feel? Otherwise, I suggest you start looking for something asap and then you can still be entitled to maternity leave by the time bubs is ready to arrive! It's so important you be happy and peaceful so really consider your options hun.

Teagz, Jo (AL'sM) once said to me when I was ranting in jealousy about my SIL pregnancy, that if I'm a terrible person, then she is too. We have all been there sweets and the reaction has pretty much been the same across our thread when people close to us announce a pg. It's very hard to deal with when we so long for our own, especially after suffering the worst imaginable pain when we lost our babies. You will get there, and very soon too. Beata also said something I will never forget, and that is, when you get pg, there are probably others that will be green with envy about you. Chin up sweets, you're not a bad person, just human. It will all be ok, I promise.

Dee, it's so stressful isn't it. I analyse every single twitch and pain but can't make anything out. I just have bbs that feel like they are going to explode and some slight cramping. You're right though, we are just going to have to be patient as there is no way of feeling proper symptoms with the amount of drugs in our system *sigh*

Hi Megan, oh how I am :pray: this is your month dear friend.

Teagz and Megan, to answer your question, I don't do the I might be pg thing so I'll stop doing this or eating this.... I know it's silly but I just feel like I'm going to jinx myself or something. I rarely drink so I don't have to worry about that so I pretty much continue on as normal. I don't think it's a bad idea to act like your pg in the 2WW though, hey anything that keeps you healthy and potentially help baby if there is one in there is a great thing.

Noni, going back to the hospital is very hard. Sending you strength to get through it hun. I hope you get the answers you need from your doctor so you can TTC again and that the chance of it happening again is zero :pray:

Have a good night girls and a big hug and hello to everyone.

Hey girls, just dropping in to quickly ask... when charting, does your temp drop before or after you ovulate??

Beata, that situation sounds awful! I would definetly consider looking for another job now, like Diana said you may sneak in 12-months and be entitled to maternity leave. I know it would be tricky getting a new job and then falling pg, but that is life and it happens all the time. You shouldn't have to put up with your MD because he is seeing someone who did the wrong thing by your company and you. People like that make me so jolly mad :protest:

Hi Teagz, your temp increases after you ovulate, so once there is a spike you ovulated the day before. Are you using FF?

Jeez Beata your work sounds worse than mine. We are having serious drama's there atm with staff not getting on and the only thing that is keeping me there is the paid mat. leave we're offered. Thankfully there is one lovely lady that I work with so we try to stick together. I feel for you, it's horrible when you hate your job. :hug: I'll be thinking of you on monday

Berry, i don't have ff but if I miss out this cycle I think i might start one up! I only started taking my temp on CD14 of this cycle. CD14 it was sky high(37.2) then on CD 17 dropped (36.5) and it now rising again today on CD20 (36.9) I was just curious how it all works! Now I know that though judging by that spike on cd14 I'm almost positive I o'd on CD12/13. I should have started temping earlier, it's all quite interesting to see how our bodies work.
ETA, oh hang on I think i misunderstood your post :redface: So once your temp spikes does it stay up there till AF? Sorry for the stupid questions!

Teagz, you really need to know your temps throughout your cycle to tell, but 37.2 is high, so yes, there is a good chance you O'ed on CD13. You can join free for basic membership on FF. You may already know, but there are do's and don't's with temping, so worth understanding them so you track as accurately as possible, if that is what you want to do. Good-luck with it. It is interesting :D

Howdy All,

Beata - Thanks for checkin up on me.

Not much happening I am afraid. I have not been charting but we have been practising really hard :lol: I haven't been feeling "right" sore boobs, tummy cramps generally feeling off so against my better judgement I did a HPT and got a :bfn: :wall: I just wish I new where I was in my cycle its frustrating me so much. Anyways I am hoping that AF comes soon DH and I are going away for a weekend in a few weeks our first mini holiday in 2 years so hoping it will be the "right time" IYKWIM. Although I am secretly hoping that I am UTD again and that I am just testing too early.

Noni - best of luck hun, it is a difficult thing to go back to the hospital for an autopsy report sending you big :hug:

Teagz - Good luck with the temping - it all seems so complicated and daunting to me. I reckon unless you are trying to gender sway, then you should just DTD every day for the first 15 days after AF stops OR at least DTD very day from CD11 until 17 Thats what we did when I fell preggers with Niki. To be honest I think the more you do it the better chances anyway,.

Big Howdy to - Berry1, dd0207, dee81, Hammi, and everyone I have missed

Morning Girls! I'll do some proper personals today :)

NaeNae, it might be to early for a HPT yet. Perhaps give it another week and if AF hasn't arive do another one. HOpefully all that practising achieved something! ;)
We were 'practising' from cd05 to cd15, then my thrush got to bad. Ugh. I've ordered from fast-tract so hopefully that helps it, i can't wait til it gets here!!

Berry, the temping is getting me a bit worried, actually. All my temps are hovering around the 37 mark? weird. I'm so sorry that you're feeling unwell :hug: I'm not sure whether the flu can stop you conceiving, I wouldn't think so?

I will be back later, DF wants me to watch a movie with him!

Teagz - I am sure you have already tried this but have you tried that canaston (sp?) stuff? its a tablet and cream combo?? It might also be worth trying our some branerry capsuals Blackmores has these, dunno if it would help out for thrush but could aid in preventing UTI's one of the last things you want when TTC.

I love cranberry juice and can't get enough of it I use to get UTI's a bit when I was younger and got addicted to Cranny juice then- I also take these (cranny tablets) + Silica Compound which is safe during pregnancy (helps with connective tissue) as well as the BM - Pregnancy Supps. There is little between these and the preconception ones so I figured I might as well finish off those an see how we went.

Ok,take 2 at personals.

NaeNae, I think I might try those cranbury tabs. I won't overdose on anything will I? I'm taking blackmores preg gold and fishoil, and I'm going to start taking that fast-tract because after all the antibiotics I've been on I think I really need a good boost of good bacteria. The joys of being a woman hey. I've never had a UTI, thank god... but my mum used to get them alot.

As for my green eyed monster moment, I don't feel like that towards any of you girls in here. I think I'm jealous for that fact that she still gets to have that "pregnancy incocence" and not for the actual fact that she is pregnant... if that makes sense.

Beata, I agree with Berry I'm affraid. Or, at the very least don't let these people get to you once your IVF starts (you need to be a lady of leisure) and once you get your 12 weeks mat leave, put in your notice ;) Everything with me is fiiiine. Yep, the big 21 next monday! And my part-tay is next weekend. I'm actually looking forward to it a bit now, considering it was forced on me! Apparently all my fam is putting in to get a an SLR digi camera. Woot! Can't wait!

And Berry, wishing you all the luck in the world this month!

DD & Dee, Still hoping for you guys!! Add to our preg mumma's group :pray:

Dee, I LOVE guitar hero. Df won't let me buy it though, damn him! :doh:

Theresa, how is everything with you? You're almost 12 weeks!! Time flies!

AFM, My plan to keep my hopes to the ground started to waver today. Well, I was pretty much sure I was out of the running after that weird bleeding but today my BB's feel a little tender... and well, I did a preg test and I got the faintest faintest positive line, I thought I was imagining it, until I had a look in the sun, and there is definately a tiney sliver of a line there. Eek! Down hopes, down!!! **WHIPS**

Oh my gosh Teagz, a faint line is a very good sign, but I don't want to get your hopes up either as the disappointment would be awful, but I am very excited for you. When are you going to test again? I'm glad that your DF / family are organising the party for you, your 21st is a big deal, so really enjoy it! Very spoilt getting the digital camera, will be good for when your little one comes along. Really hoping 'this is it' for your Teagz :pray:

Wouldn't it be great if we got a load of BFP's this month. :bluedust: :bluedust: :bluedust: And for Dee & Diana :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesgirl:

On a serious note (sorry) is anyone else getting worried about having bubs and not working and the worsening economic climate? DH and I were talking about it today and it will certainly change things for us having a baby around now, but I don't want to wait any longer due to my age and wanting more than one. I might have to go back to work though, which I have never wanted the pressure to do. Anyone else feeling like this?

Berry, I don't want to return to work either after we have a bubs. Df is on a pretty good wage and we'll be able to live comfortably but we won't really be able to acheive much extra iykwim.. we want to eventually get a bigger house and more land. But yeah, I definately don't want to feel pressured into going back to work either, I want to be able to do it when I'm ready to.
And, as for my next test, AF is due in 6 days. I'm not getting my hopes up, I am not getting my hopes up, I am not getting my hopes up!!

Teagz! A line is a line, you've got a BFP!!! If your AF isn't due for another six days it's still early days, that's why the line is faint. Congrats my dear!!!

My AF is definitely here. BUMMER but I'm being an adult about it this month and not throwing a tantrum.

Megan. I don't think being sick affects your fertility directly. Sperm and eggs take four months to mature so the ones you're going to be matching up this cycle have been brewing since Dec - they'll be OK. What CD are you now? Good luck to you!!!

Diana, when do you test???

Beata, you have a heart of gold. You do have many more obstacles than I, but don't rule out your chance of a naturally conceived baby. Sue thought she could only conceive with IVF and we were mourning the loss of her latest frozen embryo when she conceived naturally. Now she's 30wks. Miracles do happen, and you certainly deserve one!

xoxox

Aargh, no congrats! I want a nice solid, dark, thick line first!!!

Lan, I'm on CD13 today, O hasn't happened yet, but I am very well prepared this month :D. Sorry that AF has arrived for you, darn it! It will happen for you hun.

Hi my beautiful friends,

Nae hun, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!!! You've got the signs of pg, and it might just be !! I so :pray: it is. It might be too early to get a positive, as you've said yourself, you don't know exactly where you are in your cycle. Let it be, let it be!!!!!!! Maybe my pg dance worked last nite ???!!!! LOL

Teagz, I think you might be UTD!!!!!! I don't want to jinx you by congratulating you, but I think this is it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A faint line is still a line!!!!!! Woo hoo!!!!!!!! OMG, we could have 2 BFPs now (you & Nae) and then another two with Diana and Dee, and OMG, maybe Magan too!!!!! OMG, it could be raining BFPs this month!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!
I so did this BFP dance yesterday, my DF said I was mad mad mad! (oh well, I already knew that!) lol

Lan, big hugs hun. Don't worry, maybe you can make a preggo 'twosome' soon too???? Diana and Dee, Teagz and Nae, and you and Megan!!!!! Yeepee (sorry, too much red cordial today ;) )

Diana and Dee, still praying very hard every day. Now DF thinks I'm possesed as apparently I say my prayers tad too loud in bed, while he's trying to sleep......Everything is always tightly crossed for you two :pray::crossfingers::goodluck:

Megan, this economic crises does scare me, but like you, I can't wait any longer because of my age, and also I would like two more bubs. Fortunatelly, DF is on an excellet salary (although, there are no guarrantees anywhere...) and he always said it would be up to me if I wanted to stay home indefinitely after bubs were born, or go back to work part time if I wanted too. If I had Joshua last month, I would have stayed home 12 months and then tried for another baby straight away, and then I don't think I would go to work for a while :redface:. I've never considered not working after kids, as I am waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too independent, but i think I could do it for a while. I am also extremely lucky as mum lives 2 minutes down the road, and she can't wait to babysit all day long, every day......

Well, today I was sooky la la all day long. DF had to drag me by me ear to go out for lunch. I started to pout and pull faces and stomp my feet as soon as I woke up yesterday, so this morning he anticipated me being a 'horror' all day. And I was. Oh well, I can feel sorry for myself, can't I????? Thanks all you lovelies for your comments about my work. It is a horrible place, but I've decided if I am like this a month before my transfer, I will quit. I don't want my transfer to be compromised in ANY way. So, let's see girls....I've decided that I can't gamble with my health, so won't stay there if I'm still miserable after I came back next week...

Hi to you lovely mummas and sending you all big hugs!!! :grouphug:

For my other lovelies TTC, millions of buckets of babydust to you all, and super duper sticky vibes too xxxxxxxx

Hope everyone has a good week next week :D

Love always B xxxx

Hi girls, especially DD (since we shared the experience a month apart and knows my journey).

I don't know if you remember me but I just wanted to wish everyone extra special luck this month. It has proven to be a great month for me, but I have really good vibes about Feb/March for everyone so "get jiggy with it".

For those who don't know, I lost my little girl at 23 weeks to an IC in Sept 08. It was the most devastating experience of my life. I have also lost both of my parents and am only 27, so its been a particularly rough trot.

But, I have great news.

We found two lines late last night! I cannot believe it and I really mean that. You have no idea how much of a shock this is! I had NO symptoms, NO sore boobs, nothing! The only reason I did the test was because I bough the OTK and they have a free Preg Test inside them. So I thought I would amuse myself (I even did it at 6pm, 7 days before my period was due, as if I would ever see two lines at that time!!!). I even made an appointment with the fertility specialist for April 21 because I KNEW that this month wasn't the month for us and we had been trying for 5 months (4 excluding the first cycle after loss).

Anyhow, Its still very early days and Im not due for my period for another 6 days. DH and I refuse to believe it till another 8 or so days and a blood test. (have done three, all are positive but very faint).

As you all know, from our experiences - its important not to tell family and friends too early for fear of something happening. But I wanted to tell someone and why would I be concerned to share it with you girls when we've all been there together?

So there it is - you all know before our family and friends! LOL

I wish you all so much luck, to go through what we have been through I think we all need to remind ourselves how strong and resilient we all are. Women are amazing!

Love Joselyn xxx

Joselyn :hug:
I remember you hun and your story. I am so excited for you :dance: conrgats hun I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.

Teagz
I doubt you will OD on cranberry but if you start looking like a cranberry then you know you have taken too much. I think the label suggests 1 capsule 3 times a day, I just take on in the morning along with the other 3. :dance: I am not going to say anything yet but :dance:lets hope so for you hun x

Megan:redface:
TBH I hadn't given it a thought, I just want to get to 9 months :lol: DH pretty much pays for everything now as it is so in that respect it won't make much of a difference. I plan to remain a SAHM for as long as I can. I would like to see if I can get into something I can do from home though just to give me something to do and a little $$extra$$ on the side.

Beata
:pray: I am right there with you. lets hope your pregnancy dance works hoping your focusing your dancing more to the horizontal mumbo though :lol: