hi everyone i had my NT scan today, i burst into tears half an hour before i got there.
the last big scan i had was last year when i found out hopes heart stopped beating so i was a bit of a mess. the ultrasound lady was really nice she described everything to me in detail and i got a disk to bring home. im happier now atm because i can see nothing is physically wrong now i just have to get through the next few months.
Cindee that is wonderful news about your scan. And don't worry about bursting into tears, I am sure most of us have or will do that at some point. The 12 week scan can be so scary as it is still too early for movement etc. You must be feeling over the moon to get a good result!
Rozzie - it sounds like you are having a really tough time emotionally with your family. If you honestly don't think that counselling would help, then don't feel pressured. SIDS do have parent supporters which are people who have gone through a similar loss and are matched to you - that might be more appropriate if you needed someone to talk to. I personally have found a subsequent pregnancy support group run through my hospital to have been of benefit. Take care and be kind to yourself. Do you think your siblings understand why you haven't been contacting them and were they supportive after Edwards' death? It is such a tough time and there really is no right or wrong for anyone.
Hi to all - will need to scroll back to see what I need to respond to. My cleaning is continuing...though I think it is better described as a major overhaul! I have so many piles of junk to throw out. I think once it is out of the unit, the place won't look quite so atrocious. DH is amused at my insistence that I need to clear our every cupboard. I am feeling really good physically, very few aches and pains. We are heading out for dinner tonight with my SIL and her boyfriend. I think this is our last official engagement - we have a clear calendar now and plan to do very little bar last minute organising. Our laptop died this week, so I am now typing on a brand new one. It really was an expense we could have done without, but neither of us could live without a computer at home.
Hope you are all well - any news to report?
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Cindee - Great news about your scan, yippee!! Glad you had someone nice to do it.
Katie - I was just looking at your ticker, and it bought back memories of when I went into labour with Corey. I was 37 + 6wks, I was booked in for an ECV the next day, but he just couldn't wait! So very close to where you are now!!!
hi guys!
well, it has been a long few days. Have had a really busy time at at work and i am so tired.
katie - you remind me so much of me when i was pregnant with Josh and Em. I turned our little house upside down and was bent over inside our little cupboards checking everything and cleaning out. I should have been resting but there i was on a mission! Nesting is such a furious thing!!! But awesome!
cindee - so glad your ultrasound went ok!! its such a mini piece of mind and hope it has bought you some comfort!
rozzie - i get what you mean about the counselling. Sometimes you can hit a wall with it and feel as though no matter how many times you speak to them about it it still won't change how you feel. I believe it can help but it does'nt help things for everyone. You can only try as an option. I think it is easy for people to tell us to go to counselling without realising how much more is behind our feelings. While from some people i think it is an extra support offer whereas others in my experience i feel like they are just palming off the support they could give, to someone else to do. As for SIDS - I know bonnie babes have parents as counsellors who have had losses?!?
syran - was hoping you had been able to post so will wait on any news!
hgirs -MS -a good thing remember no matter how bad it makes you feel! Good signs! rest up as much as you can!!! take care!
hammi - i felt very much the same moving to the house we are in now. i should have been making a nursery in this house for Jack but had lost him before we moved in. It still makes me so sad that that room is still so bare as it was the whole reason we moved, to get another bedroom. I am sure Hamish was squeezing his way in between you both!
paula - there is no way i can take time off unfortuneatly!Its just not an option. Unless i quit and unfortuneately for that idea i could'nt stand mopping around thinking i could have been off with a baby instead. Ethan sounds like a sweetheart! They are such beautiful thoughts.
laney -how are you going? hope your ok!!
tildy - any news on your job? i agree on your thoughts on telling people also. Its a catch 22 for us though -its just another thing we have to worry about the reactions for and then deal with our own feelings after! grrr! I had a reg customer who does know about both babies, ask me if i was pregnant yet, today. She has been very sympathetic in the right way until then! i don't think people understand either how hard it is to have that dream of a baby and then actually do the ttc part after!!!
i hope i have'nt missed anyone! we have all been such busy writers lately! which is great!!!
take care! Gotta keep planning joshs party that will be held 3 weeks AFTER his birthday cos he has a useless mum!
x jo
I ate too much for lunch and now my tummy really hurts. Heee.
Paula, I think we'll end up getting pregnant at the same time if I'm lucky. It took us about five months to get pregnant the first time but that ended in a miscarriage, then Hamish was a happy little accident. Mind you, I didn't pay attention to ovulation, CM or temps the first time around so maybe we'll get pregnant quicker this time. Fingers cross. I am very excited to think that we'll be TTC-ing this time next cycle.
My pre-conception counselling is on 7 Nov. I've actually no idea what I'll say or do. Hopefully the Obs will have advice for us else it'll be a very quiet counsel! Did you prepare questions or anything when you had yours, Katie?
Cindee, congrats on your scan. Another milestone surpassed! Good on you and your little bub. I'm not surprised you cried. We all seem to take turns crying, and why not, after all we've been through.
Rozzie, I'm sad that you're doing it tough. But I guess your mind and your heart will deal with your emotions when you're ready. A tragedy like what we've all endured really defines your relationships with people, doesn't it? Some people really come through with their support and understanding and some just floor you in their tactlessness and absolute lack of thought. I'm kind of cringing thinking of what some people may say to you when you start wearing your maternity uniform.
What theme are you going with for Josh's birthday, Jo? You did Dora for Em's didn't you? Try to take it easy on yourself, kids find surprisingly simple things entertaining. Don't wear yourself out... I want you to start TTC-ing with Paula and I... after you have your talk with DH.
Helen, yay for M/S. Have you always had M/S with your pregnancies. I'm hoping to be lucky like Katie and get nothing with my next pregnancy. I was so sick with Hamish. I'm usually a food vacumn but I completely stopped eating for about three months. So debilitating!
Helen - Yeah for m/s, it is a good sign. I found I was feeling nausea's when I was tired, if I get plenty of sleep, I am OK. I heard that sucking on fruit tingles works..... Have you booked in for a scan???
Rozzie - I am thinking of you and your family situation. I wish I could wave a wand and fix it all for you. I agree your body will know when it is right and I had counselling after the 3rd m/c and found it really didnt help me either. I think if you found someone who has had a similar experience it could possibly help. By the way, I hope you are right about your feelings on me with the NT Scan. Getting nervous.
Cindee - Congratulations on a good scan..... I know exactly how you feel, my last angel was found out at the 12 week NT Scan and I must admit I am nervous about going on 3/10.
Katie - I think you sound like you are nesting - thats for sure.... he he he. Your house must be looking spotless....
Jo - I can't believe a customer would say that, especially knowing your situation..... How are you feeling about TTC, have you spoken to DH about it???
Lan - Wow not long until pre-conception appointment. I look forward to hearing what the specialist has to say.
Hello to Laney & Paula - hoping you both are doing well.
Well with me, I am just getting nervous about the NT Scan and hoping bubs is still all OK. I am feeling every stretch and cramp and start to worry. Though DH said last night when laying in bed, that my belly has popped even more.
Had a girl at work ask me today about when I was going back to IVF (still havent revealed), because they are all expecting me to go back in Nov. I lied!!! I can't believe I did that as normally I would cave in and tell. But I need to hold this a little longer until after the scan.
DH and I also bought a bassinette!!! It was a tough to do, and I hope that we havent jinxed ourselves.... It was on Ebay and it was such a good buy. Apparently she only used it for her last bubs for around 5 months and there is nothing wrong with it. DH picked it up and it is perfect and so sturdy to ones I have seen in the shops.
Sue - My scan is booked for the 24 nov, but I am hoping the OB I am going to see for a 2nd opinion will do a quick one, that's in a fortnight. Fingers crossed.
How is everyone else doing? I had a shocker this arvo, picked up Corey from Daycare, gave him my keys to unlock the door, he pressed the button twice but I didn't really pay attention. Strapped him in, he threw the keys on the floor on the other side, so I shut the door went around the other side to get the keys and...... The bloody car is locked! I couldn't believe it he must have pressed the open then the shut button! DH was 40min away, so had to ring RACQ to come and get the door open, which took about 15 mins, he was in the car for 25min, thank God I was in the shade and it wasn't a hot day. I feel like such an idiot! Have learnt my lesson.
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im happier now atm because i can see nothing is physically wrong now i just have to get through the next few months.
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