Trying to Conceive after Stillbirth/Late Loss/Recurrant Miscarriage October

:leap::leap::leap::hooray::hooray::hooray::cheer:: cheer: What else can I say, Fantastic news Sue!!!

Sue, what wonderful news!!! I just knew bub would be healthy. How lovely to see the baby, 12 week scans are great because you can see all of bub in one shot. Please let yourself celebrate now, go and do something fun!!!

Oh Lan, I was so glad to see your post, because I'm embarassed to say Alec and I still have not been intimate since we conceived... I'm not even sure why!!! At first I was sick, but now I'm not though in the evenings I'm exhausted. Last time we didn't until a few weeks into the second trimester either, but well before 18 weeks. Not sure what's holding me back. I feel extra guilty because a few weeks ago I said we could try for the weekend then it didn't happen, poor man!!! He has not put one gram of pressure on me though, lovely man. The funny thing is I've been dreaming about sex, so it's clearly been too long hehehe!!!!

Katie, I get so excited when I see a post from you, I keep expecting one that says you're having contractions. Soon enough though!!

I can't believe you're 9 weeks Helen, time just flies.

hi to all the other ladies!!

As for me, we have our morphology scan on Wednesday, I cannot believe it's time already. I've decided I don't want to know the sex, either way I think it will evoke complex emotions I'd rather not deal with on top of everything else. Besides, last time we found out but decided not to tell anyone, until we saw the in-laws and Alec used the word 'grandson' instead of grandchild. So he simply cannot be trusted!!!
I had a similar thing to Katie last night, hadn't felt bub move since early evening so started worrying, even though it's still so early. I think it did move but then as I was in and out of sleep I wasn't sure if I'd dreamt it. But I got out the doppler before work and there was heartbeat, along with a lot of odd noises that must have been bub moving. Then lots of kicks all day. I'm sure it's the start of much worry as lack of movement is how I found out last time, so I'm super sensitive to any quiet times, but there's no getting around it I suppose.

Canberra has a public holiday tomorrow, 'families and community day' timed to be on Melbourne Cup day, a little ironic I think!!! But it's great for us!!! ooh and the US election... very exciting...

Love Rozzie

hi girls!!
I have'nt been around this week, deliberately and also because i could'nt get onto this site. It would just not open up! Grrrr! regardless, you guys have all been in my thoughts and i tried tonight again and finally!
You have all said it has been quiet but i feel like there was heaps to read!
katie -you know i am still on that countdown train!!!!:p
rozzie -OHMIGOD! I am facinated by the US election...i was glued to foxtel last time and this time has been even better! We are in the US every 2 years and feel like it is our "2nd home" so we are very interested to see what will happen! will be thinking of you on wed!!!
sue - i share the :dance::dance::dance: for your scan! they are great results so i am sure it has lifted a bit of weight off those shoulders of yours which will be great for you! i am so glad things are going your way and in leaps and bounds!!!!
hammi - i got my Af yesterday and it has set off a heap of emotions! its horribly heavy but i am going with it anyway! i think it is in part due to the asprin i have been taking which the OB said would make them heavier. I also found out my friend who spent ALOT of years on IVF is 5 weeks with her 4th preg. (Last preg resulted in a healthy bubs, 2 before were miscarriages) Speaking to her always gives me a boost in my "REAL" world so i love having her there to share! Your big appointment is in a few days - how are you feeling? hope you are not pushing yourself too hard! its very exciting in a new place! we got a new couch delivered today and i can't stop looking at it!!!
hgirs -yay for no sickness, as good a sign as it is it would be nice for you to have a break too!
mrs robbo - i look forward to your results on the hormones as my friend i spoke about with hammi is taking a progesterone suppository (sp!!!!) as she just wanted that extra help down there. it has been on my mind also in regards to the prog as i have read alot about it in my endless googling!
tildy -dearest tildy! how are you going?????
laney - i think of you all the time!!! hope all is good for you and bubs again after the spotting! DH would go without for the rest of the preg if that was me! :) Hope you are hanging in there tho!!! I am always here for you as i have said!
cindee - how your busy little life going? i hope you are taking a break in there somewhere!
i'll write about me tomorrow night! just wanted to check in and say hi and that i had'nt forgotton you all!
xxxjo

Hi, ladies. Time for me to write a real post for once in a while!

Sue -- I'm so happy to hear about your scan. I know you were really worried about the NUPP results (or whatever they're called in English, I forget!) and it's great to hear that they were well into the low risk zone. I know it's really difficult dealing with the spotting, but I think it's a good thing that it happened right before your scan -- you got to see for yourself that the spotting didn't mean bubs wasn't okay. Try to keep that in mind if it happens again -- but I know it's so hard to be positive sometimes.

Rozzie -- I think it's a really good thing that you have the doppler. I haven't started feeling regular movement yet, but when I bought mine I figured it will come to good use once I am feeling movement and maybe have one of those worried days where I don't feel as much. Since the lack of movement is so emotionally charged for you, I'm glad you have a way of putting your mind at ease. Exciting about your morphology scan in two days! Mine is in one week, and I'm getting really anxious, but in a good way! I can't wait to see what bubs looks like in week 20 and get some pictures to tuck away. I am waffling about asking them about the gender. DH still says no, as we decided that with Beiron, but this time I wonder if it could be a good thing to know; to help me bond with the baby, since I'm still in very robotic-medical-scientific mode about the pregnancy. But I have a feeling I'll just go with the flow and let DH steer me on this one.

Speaking of the U.S. election, I'm so stoked! I sent in my absentee ballot a few weeks ago (and since I say I'm stoked, I guess you know who I've voted for, or if you've looked at my blog :) ). DH and I are such political nerds that we've taken Wednesday morning off of work so that we can stay up and watch the incoming returns on CNN. The first polls close at midnight Swedish time I think, but things won't really start happening until the east coast starts rolling in at about 2 am our time. So I better take a nap tomorrow afternoon, but like I said, we took Wednesday morning off of work and all our coworkers think we're funny. :)

Katie -- there must be so many emotions for you right now. Anxious to meet your little girl, but maybe even a bit nervous? I would be! Imagine if you could go back to December and give yourself a big hug and tell her things will eventually be better. That's kind of what it's like for us, knowing that you've made it and will have your little baby soon.

Helen -- my web browser doesn't update the tickers properly, so yours said you were 7+5. That didn't sound right, so I refreshed and saw 9+3! Wow, things move fast! How are you feeling?

Lan -- Good luck with your move! Don't let it keep you from your new start to TTC; a close friend of mine who had a hard time getting pregnant told me once that everyone tries to wait for the "right time" in their life to have a baby, but that some of us know that it will never be the right time if you keep waiting for things to be perfect. I didn't fully understand her until after losing Beiron.

DH and I seem to be quite the opposite about sex. Normally we have very little of it, so TTC was a seriously concentrated and scheduled effort (not that we didn't have FUN, it's just that it had to be very planned). But when I'm pregnant we seem to want more of it than usual. Then again that might be because we're not allowed (the doc finally said no more until after the morphology scan). So even though I had a huge bleed and fairly painful cramps every time we had sex, it's kind of tough to stay away! And I am having some pretty vivid dreams... :redface: Although I've been having pretty vivid nightmares about babies and things as well, so I think there's a lot of emotions coming out in my dreams. A friend of mine who has had two super normal and uncomplicated pregnancies told me that she did actually bleed so much after sex once that the mattress got a huge stain, and the doctor told her that that was perfectly normal. So it's kind of crazy, how much bleeding they mean when they say you can bleed after sex.

Hmm, now people are coming in and asking me to work. Dangit. Guess I'll have to get back to you guys later!

Hi Jo! You posted while I was working on mine. *hugs* for dealing with everything around AF. Will you be TTC next month?

Hi Ladies,

Tildy, I get very vivid/strange dreams when I am pregnant too. I have one just about every night. They are usually about babies or sex. All those hormones going crazy I guess. My DH thinks it's funny that I have some crazy dream to tell him about every morning.

Rozzie, Do not feel embarassed about not being intimate during pregnancy. My DH and I did the same thing for months during my pregnancy with Shelby. The doctor told me that my loss had nothing to do with sex but I was worried that it had something to do with why we lost Parker. The doctors couldn't tell me what happened to Parker so why couldn't it have had something to do with all of the sex. I know that it is fine to do during pregnancy but I still have fears even now. I figure that it will happen whe I feel comfortable/relaxed about it.

It is interesting to read how excited people are about the US election. There is a lot of excitement here in the US for this election too. A buzz that we haven't had in a long time.
Good luck on your scan!

Sue, I am so happy to hear that your scan went well. I love seeing the baby at that time. They wiggle around so much. We were able to get a video of Parker at 12 weeks, it was so exciting.

Jo, Thank you for thinking of me. It is so helpful to have women to chat with that have been through the same situation. I really can't talk to anyone else about pregnancy right now. Most people just don't fully understand.
I was always extra emotional when my AF came. The hormone change made me do depressed for a week or two. Have you talked to your DH at all about TTC?

Hammi, I feel a little better knowing that a lot of other women are dealing with the same issue. My DH and I know that avoiding sex isn't going to help the outcome of our pregnancy either. That doesn't mean that the little voice in my head will let me relax about it right now. I am not going to rush anything. I have too much to worry about without having a little bleeding. The most important thing to me and my DH is bringing this little baby home.

Katie, It feel like these last two weeks are taking forever. Your pregnancy flew by for me but now it is in slow motion. Where is she already? I am excited to see her picture.

Everything is going okay here. I only had a tiny bit of pink and it went away. I am starting to feel pretty sick. I feel great when I wake up but by noon I can't eat a thing. I have a strange taste in my mouth all day long. It makes most food taste bad to me. My emotions have been pretty difficult for me the past week or so. I have been very short with people, which is not like me. I feel like the depression might be getting a hold of me again. I just haven't been able to keep up with the positive thinking. Everytime I see my ticker I do a count down to the 18 week scan. I can't even imagine how that day is going to go.

Hello everyone,

Thank you all for your well wishes. I am still coming down from cloud 9. I got home yesterday and totally crashed....

My DH and I as well haven't been intimate since we conceived. I think I am the nervous one about it, as I seem to bleed easy enough and am a bit scared that I will freak out even more.

Rozzie - Good luck for your morphology scan tomorrow. I will await your good news and tell me what it entails. My DH and I have discussed finding out the sex and we have decided to find out (if we can). I think personally we would like to personalise our bubs growing inside.

Katie - You must be getting impatient waiting!!!! I am hoping for your good news soon.

Jo - I hope you are well, and hoping you will tell us soon how you are going. I am also on asprin and I think this is the reason I am getting this pink spotting here and there..... I think the Ob said last time that if the placenta moves and connects, that this can cause bleeding and with my blood thinner it makes it much more likely.

Tildy - Glad all is going well with you. Don't stay up too late watching the elections... he he he

Laney - Glad things are going well with you also..... I am similar with m/s, I find that by night time, I do suffer a bit, especially if I have to cook and smell all the foods. Brushing teeth is horrendous... I am really struggling with that.

Big hello's to Lan, Helen, Cindee and Paula - hope all is going well.

xxx Sue xxx

Ladies - I am hearing you all, about the sex thing!! Thought I was the only one that shied away from it! I am terrified of introducing bacteria that could cause another infection! I am going to ask the OB on Thurs about it, I am sure he will say 'You are just being paranoid!' Besides the fear I have completely lost ANY sex drive as well so even just the thought is annoying, poor DH! Talk about paranoia, this is my third day now of feeling 'well', I don't feel one ounce like I am pregnant, I am worried something has happened and I just don't know it yet:(

Hello ladies

I can't believe how little time I have these days to catch up on what everyone is doing.

Sue: I was so excited to see your scan went well. It seems that whevever anyone has a scan or a test or something i feel as nervous as if it was me. I didn't have time to post last night, but had a quick check to make sure all was ok. You are so in new territory now and really have good reason to be over the moon.

Rozzie: is your scan tomorrow? I'm confused because I had to catch up on so many posts. I'll be thinking of you and looking forward to checking in for some good news tomorrow night.

Laney: congrats about the nausea :) and I hope you can get some relief from feeling so down. When you have so much to deal with it is understandable to feel like you do. Just try and be kind to yourself and rest when you need to.

Helen: hang in there and try not to stress (I know that is impossible but it makes me feel less useless to suggest it to you!!) We're all willing you on to a happy and healthy pregnancy. When is your next check up?

Re the sex thing... I am not PG and my DH is not getting any!! I have no excuse other than being incredibly tired and trying to juggle being a working mum. I better get my act into gear or the whole ttc thing could take awhile!!

Hi to everyone else. Sorry I know I've missed most of you, but that's not to say I'm not thinking of you all. Have to rush off and get DS dinner!!

love
Paula
xox

No Katie today... maybe it's starting. Woooh!

Oh I had to snigger to read that so many of us aren't getting any action in the bedroom. Heeee.

Sue, I'm super excited for you. Rozzie's right, the 12wk scan is great because you can see bub from head to bum (usually with feet in the air!). Have you bought yourself to present to celebrate the great results?

Rozzie, good luck with your scan today. Can't wait to hear about it. I was thinking that won't want to know the gender next time either but DH does. I'll just go out on a limb and say that I think you've got a girl in there :-)

Tildy, good to hear from you.... you horny thing :-) Big election day for you today. I'm holding my breath. I don't like it when they predict a big win because it may jinx everything!!!

Jo, oh wow, The Cycle starts. Mine is due in about three days. I hope that we get pregnant together like Rozzie and Tildy. It's debilitating when it's heavy though. I hope you're taking good care of yourself, your conception process starts now! Having said that I've been busting every muscle in my body with my move. We're still not done but new home is starting to look like a home now. I unpacked Hamish's stuff and put them into The Baby Room to get used to the idea. Of course I had to cry all over his things but I like going in there and opening the drawers to see little jumpsuits.

Hi's and hugs to Laney, Cindee, Paula and the lovely (and hopefully labouring) Katie.

Lan - sorry to disappoint but no labour yet! DH had to study all day yesterday so I had limited access to the laptop. It sounds like you are settling into your new home and it is nice that you have made a place for Hamish as well. I had only bought a couple of items for Nathaniel, one sits in his memorial box as it was the first outfit I bought and the others are going to be used by this bub. It is nice to know they are going to get used. Good luck with your TTC and don't tire yourself out too much - you need your energy!

Rozzie - good luck with your scan today. I can't wait to hear the good news. I know it will be nerve wracking but try to focus on the wondeful feeling when you see your baby's heartbeat. :hug:

I have had to laugh about all you admitting the lack of action - I am exactly the same and for exactly the same reasons. DH and I agreed early on that we would rather go basically without than worry ourselves if I was to have a bleed. I think it is pretty normal that we have all made this decision considering the heartbreak we have all experienced. I think the only people who would think we are all crazy are those who haven't been where we have. I know that it is all safe etc, but it is as much about state of mind. It shows we have very understanding partners!

Ok must rush, so hi to everyone else not ignoring you but have to rush off to an Ob appointment. I hope you are all well and belly rubs and baby dust to everyone. :hug:

Hi ladies,

scan went great!!! the sonographer said everything couldn't have been any better. The measurements were all a few days ahead, it was moving the whole time, she said it's a very happy baby!!! She looked at the blood flow and it was perfect, which was a big relief. I asked if they would normally do that at the commercial places and she said no, I would have liked to have been able to compare the results from the last pregnancy but it's not possible. Unfortunately the doctor was in Norway so we didn't see him, but they checked the blood test results and they were all fine, including iron which surprised me as I'm soooooooo tired... I guess it's just a more stressful pregnancy which makes me tired.

She asked if we wanted to know the sex and we said no... but on a frontal shot there appeared to be a very obvious something between the legs, and it looked to be a pair of somethings!! So it may have been the umbilical cord, but I'd be surprised if bub turned out to be a girl!!!

We're having another scan at 22 weeks, which is good, it will be nice reassurance.

Sorry for the lack of personals, of course I worked myself up and now I'm exhausted. Will write more later.

Love Rozzie

Can anyone tell me how to post pics? I'd like to post the pics of the lower limbs and see if you ladies can see what we see!!!! :redface:

Hi Rozzie - congrats on your scan! So lovely to hear that you have a happy wriggling baby in there. You need to post pics in the gallery - but I have no idea how that is done. Congrats once again - love hearing good news.

All is good with me - the ob appointment went well and he also ordered a foetal heartrate monitoring which also went well. DH was worried for a while but it actually ended up giving us some much needed reassurance.

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Hi ladies, check out my pics, let me know what you think of the lower limbs shot!!!

Hi Rozzie,

What fantastic news :dance::dance::dance:

I am so glad the scan went well.

I couldnt open the pictures to take a look, said their was an error.

But I am sure you are right. So happy for you.

xxx Sue xxx

Rozzie great news on your scan! Can't get the link to work, not sure if it's my computer or not, connectivity has been low here today. Can't wait to have a look!

Wow, what does everyone think about the new American President??? Esp those in or from the States. I feel sad that Barack's Grandmother passed away without seeing his victory:( She must have been so proud.

I have an OB appt tomorrow to get a 2nd opinion on Cooper's autopsy results and the plan for this pregnancy. I hope I don't get too emotional, I need to keep a clear head and not forget all my questions, which reminds I must go write them down!! I'm also really hoping he gives me a quick peek at bubs, but not sure if he will or not. It seems I may have spoken too soon about the ms, have been getting a bit again in the arvo/nights, and wicked indigestion tonight.

Hi to all hope you are all well, Cindee haven't heard from you for a while, are you OK??

Hi Ladies,

Rozzie, It is great to hear that you scan went so well. I can't wait to hear that this bub is a couple days ahead. I am pretty sure that it is the cord in your limb shot. That would be a pretty big penis for such a tiny little bub. I wouldn't count a girl out completely. The fact that you thought you saw something plus a cord might be a better indication of a boy. I just want to let you know that when I asked to know what sex Shelby was I was so sure it was a boy when she started looking because of the cord. After a minute of looking you could really tell it was a girl but the tech had to look pretty hard to know for sure.


As for me...my appt with the high-risk doctor is on Friday. I made the appt extra early so I don't have too much time to worry. It also helps me avoid terrible traffic in the AM. I hate going there. I have only gone there before because of problems, never good news. I am going to start my list of questions so I don't forget anything. I really hope they do a quick ultrasound but I doubt they will. Nothing happens quickly there even with an appt.