Judy,

I am so so sorry for your losses. Life is just so cruel and unfair sometimes. As I read your post, I cried. The first few lines was similar to what I could write about Cooper. I lost Cooper last November at 37 weeks to a cord accident. He was born with the cord tightly around his neck twice. Like you, it took us a long time to conceive Cooper - 2 years. We thought it was a miracle that we were pregnant and he was going to be our miracle bubba................but it wasn't meant to be. Every day I miss him and every day I still cry for him.

The comment you received from the sonographer was a appaulling! No matter how many children you have, losing one is too many. Unfortunately there are so many insensitive people out there and I'm sure you have come across a few of them, as we all have.

When I lost Cooper I found this site and started posting in the TTC after Stillbirth thread. The girls I have met in there are some of my closest friends now. I have only known them for 6 months but it feels like I have known them a lifetime. I guess my new life started when I lost Cooper so I have known them for the whole of this life. They are wonderful, beautiful and supportive woman who have also lost their precious and perfect bubbas and know exactly how you are feeling, what you are thinking and most importantly can tell you that you are normal. I know some days I just didn't feel normal but they would let me know that I was.

I wish you a short TTC journey. It is going to be a scary, bumpy and frustrating journey but we are here to guide you and help you.

Take care of yourself, best wishes