Hi Judy,

I also am so very sorry for the loss of your precious, very loved babies. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have to say that it is hard to read your words and know how much pain there is behind them. I am sorry.

I also lost my little girl exactly one year ago to a cord accident. I was in labour, there was no signs of distress, we had a heartbeat one minute, it was lost on the monitor and 4 minutes later I delivered her dead. The cord around her neck.

I have had people say to me "at least you have 2 children, some people can't have any" or 'at least you have one of each" and other similar comments also. When people say these things it saddens me deeply because I love Lucia with the same passion as my other children, and by saying this they negate that she was just as important to me. I have had the courage at times to say this to a few people hoping to 'educate' them but most times I'm too shocked to comment.

I want to wish you all the best for the next part of your journey and hope that you find the support here that you need. I'm glad you have found somewhere to fit in here

With love,
Lynnette x