TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth
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I hope so much that this month is YOUR month.
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Looks like I am the first of the new thread, hope that means good luck
Cheryl, I am so sorry you got a BFN , I can completely understand you feeling fed-up with everything. But please hang in there hun. You have achieved a pg before naturally and you can achieve it again. Things are so recent for you, your body will regulate again, it can take a few cycles until it 'goes back to normal'
I was reading in one thread about acupuncture and I have read about how it can assist in conceiving and how it is highly recommended to those going through IVF. It was funny, these women were having this conversation about it about 9-mths ago and looking at their tickers a lot of them are now pg or just had a baby, so it must have worked for a lot of them. Anyway, I have decided to give this ago myself. I am going to book in a session starting next cycle incase I don't get a BFP this month. I'm really starting to think that I won't, feeling very grumpy this afternoon, so think AF is on the way. Has anyone else tried AP before? Cheryl, is this something you have concidered?
I hope everyone is well. Beata / Dee, any dates booked in? I really hope you girls get your BFP soon. to all.
Cheryl, I'm so sorry honey . I know how it feels when you look at this 'my life depends on it' pee stick and after good several minutes when the second line doesn't appear, your heart just sinks. Like Megan said, your body might still be out of whack but please don't give up on that dream of yours hun, as like they say, if you don't try, you won't get. I know how terribly disappointing it all is, I tested myself the last couple of cycles as I swear I was light headed and queazy a week or so after I O'd, only to discover it was all in my head. But with every disappointment, it makes me try even more, as I know I will get there one day, and so will you my love. Please don't ever give up hun, because that precious BFP we'll all after might just be around the corner .
Megan, I really hope AF stays away this time hun , but if the witch shows her ugly head, I will be cheering you on next month. I think we'll all might get our BFPs in July!!!!!!
I have tried AP a few years ago but it was for my migranes and it really helped me I remember. In terms of IVF and AP, I actually rang a lady a few weeks ago (who came highly recommended by my FS) and asked her if it was a good idea of trying it around the time of my FET. She told me that she mainly saw women who have tried several cycles with no success, and told me to give it a miss this time, but come and see her if I wasn't getting anywhere with my cycles. She was nice enough to say that she hopes to never see me!!
My FS said to only try AP if I was really anxious and stressed about the cycle but I can't see how it would hurt to give it a go anyway. Let me know how you go hun, I might even give it a go myself. I remember the lady saying to me that I sounded very positive about my FET (I must have been having a good day lol) and staying relaxed (I know it's hard to do) and most importantly positive, was the key to it all.
Dee, I hope all is well with you hun, always thinking of you x
Bec, what have you been up to hun?
Diana, how is it all going sweets? I hope work is not too full on these days..
Well it's been very quiet in here lately, I think all our lovely mummies have joined another thread! Good on you guys, I wish you all the very best. I think it's only a handful of us trying in here, lots of babydust and stickyvibes to us all .
I will hopefully have my transfer with my next cycle now, I am on CD8 and will practice in a few days to pinpoint my O time (they told me to use clearblue brand as it's the one they use). The IVF nurse told me to call her on the first day of my AF this month (should be around 23 June) and then I have to call them when I detect O, and then they will tell me when to come in for my transfer. I would guess it will be around 10 July. They wait a few days after O to put the embie in. I have decided to just relax and go with the flow, what ever will be will be. I think I will be OK if I don't get my BFP with my FET, I will just organise for a full stim. cycle asap.
Hi Beata, I really hope AF stays away as well, but just haven't felt confident at all this month. AF is due from tomorrow, so I am sure I'll know by the end of the week. No signs either way at this stage. I'm just hoping that if I'm not pg, my LP has lengthend. I booked in for AP on Saturday, so I'll let you all know how I go. I'm a bit confused as to why the AP you were recommended said to call her if you have a few failed attempts? If AP helps during IVF / FET etc, why wouldn't you try it from the beginning? Gosh, not long now how until your FET, I will be praying so hard for you to get a BFP first go. You have been such a wonderful support to so many women that I pray you get your long awaited baby first attempt
Dee, how are you going hun. Still thinking of you
Bec, hope you are going ok as well.
Lan, you too if your still lurking. really hope you have your BFP.
It has been very quiet in here lately. I guess that is a good thing, means there are lots of us who are now preggas, and not a lot of new people, which is great, IYKWIM.
Megan, the reason why the AP lady didn't think I needed the treatment, is because I had no trouble conceiving on my first attempt. She said that if I had gone through several failed cycles, I could come and see her then. She told me that she generally only sees women who have gone through a few failed cycles and were emotionally and physically very stressed and run down. Apparently with IVF, AP only helps if you keep having failed cycles and are very stressed and anxious as that really lowers your chances in conceiving through IVF, so the treatment balances you out and really helps you to relax. So, my strategy is that if this FET cycle is unsuccessful (please God let it be successful) , and then I do a fresh stimulated cycle and that's unsuccessful, then I will try AP. I should be well and truly stressed and spent by then (please God don't let it come to this!). I am now more worried that if I do get pg with this transfer, how will I go through the 8 1/2 months of being pg and continually worry that something might go wrong? Oh hun, when does all the worry end ??????
I really hope AF stays away sweets, good luck with the AP app. and let me know how you feel afterwards.
Diana, sending you the biggest hugs I can muster, please take it easy and I hope all works itself out soon. Just please try to relax as much as possible hun & keep that positive thinking going!!!
Possums, thanks for your encouragement hun!!! Wishing you much success too, I hope you get your much wanted BFP soon.
Hi to everyone else, bring on the long weekend!!
Stickyvibes and lots of babydust to us all TTC!!!! Bring it on I say!!!!!!!
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Hi all, I've been in Tassie for a week! Went for a holiday with a girlfriend and my 3yo and her 1yo. It was pretty good but I'm glad to be back. I really missed DH. But was disappointed to come home to a messy house. Even Eliana's crayon that was in the middle of the floor was still there. He'd just stepped over it for a whole week. LOL.
Berry, I'm so sad for you and Jasmine. Glad you've got through the results though and that they think it wont happen again. Even knowing that it must be hard thinking about being pregnant again... for me, having a baby die has made me feel a lot more vulnerable.
Cheryl, sorry to hear about your mixed results. I hope you can get the energy and strength to return to full time work. I'm dreading going back to work.
B, glad you have some potential dates. Good luck with the O testing while you are waiting! This is just all about waiting isn't it?
I'm having trouble catching up on everyone's news from the week. So, sorry if I missed anyone. Baby dust to all.
AFM, I was in Tassie without DH for most of my fertile days. Stupid stupid. Didn't think of it when I booked. We BDed last night when I got home and I got the temp rise today so probably not early enough but there's always hope.
Hi Bec, good to hear from you. I'm glad you had a good time in Tassy. I can completely relate to DH leaving a mess while I am away and stepping around things, annoying isn't it I really hope you caught O this month, if it was just before the temp rise you certainly have a chance.
Beata, I can understand the thinking about the AP. I think being positive is really important as well and its good to see that you are very optimistic, you have no reason not to be, if it worked last time first go, it can happen again in July
AFM, AF arrived today, which wasn't a big surprise. I am starting to get a little concerned though given it has now been 6-months trying. I'm glad to be seeing the AP soon. I am starting to wonder if I should get more testing done. Feeling a little despaired at the moment, I think frustrated & disappointed more than anything, but trying to be positive that it will happen one of these months.
Wishing everyone a lovely and peaceful long weekend
Megan, I'm sorry the ugly witch arrived. It's such a hopeless feeling isn't it, but at the same time it's good to look forward to the next cycle which very well might be the ONE!
I have a good feeling about the combination of the herbs you're now taking and trying AP, I think there is a lot of anxiety that goes on with TTC and I think the AP would definitely help heaps with that.
I now have a friend back at work who is 17 weeks pg after her first successful IVF cycle (she had a blastie put back in like me) and she started seeing an AP for about 5 weeks or so before the IVF treatment. She then had a session the day before and on the day of her egg collection, and then on the morning of her embryo transfer. I aksed her what made her see the AP as she's never had IVF treatment before, but she told me that she was very anxious just before the treatment and also had some kidney problems a little while ago. She said that she felt really calm during the IVF cycle and she really thought it was the AP sessions. She didn't think she conceived because as they were about to do the embie transfer, her grandfather passed away and she was an absolute mess. But, she did get pg and really thought AP helped heaps. So I say hun, give it a red hot go 'cos I really think there is something in it!
I'm really starting to freak out about the transfer now, and have decided to try AP after my FET in an effort to calm my nerves down, and if I get my BFP I might continue the treatment to stay as calm as possible. I now think I might be a complete mess worrying at every corner that something might go wrong
Bec, so glad you had a nice holiday hun, we all need it sometimes hey? And don't worry about missing out on your fertile days, you might have caught a sticky one!! for you sweets.
I am currently waiting for O and am testing with the clearblue thingie, a practice run for THE cycle later this month. I haven't O'd yet, I'm on CD11. I had some egg white CM about 3 days ago (sorry TMI!), but no O pain so far. I actually have no idea of when I actually O (my cycle is apprx. 28 - 29 days) I just always assumed it's day 14 or 15 of my cycle....????? Anyway, it will be nice to find out with this testing.
BTW, I keep forgetting to ask you, where abouts do you live? I'm in Apendale Gardens
Cheryl, how are you going hun? I'm for a nice BFP for you in your next cycle, don't give up hope hun, hang in there!
Diana, I hope you're feeling better hun, and resting up nicely. Sending you lots of hugs and positive healing energy
Dee and Lan, what are you up to lovelies? Sending you both bucket loads of and
Hello to everyone else out there, and big hugs to all.
Berry, sorry it didn't happen for you this month. Maybe you could decide how many months to keep trying before getting further testing. If you decided 3 months, say, it might make it easier to not worry about it. And hopefully you'd be pregnant before the time you decided anyway.
B, good luck with the clear blue. I have a 28 day cycle but ovulate on day 17. Apparently heaps of women with 28 day cycles don't ovulate on day 14 so it's definitely worth checking. I've never used an ovulation tester, just charting, but I've been thinking about it.
I live in Footscray. Not very close, but want to hang out sometime?
I'm off to bed for an early night I think. We just got home and it's freezing. Hopping in bed is definitely the best idea. Went to the local footy in Macedon today and it was so cold! And drizzly. Ugh.
Beata, I hope AF didn't show up today and that you have a little bubba in there. Praying that AF doesn't show . At least you have the transfer coming up very quickly in case she does.
Thanks for checking up on me! AF still hasn't shown, today is day 29. I am however displaying signs of disturbing aggression and violent tenderncies which usually means AF is on her way very soon. I seriously have been so horrible today at work (my poor work mates!). I woke up in a crappy mood & now I've cracked it with my DF (for no apparent reason). I'd say it will come tomorrow but it's very odd for me to have a long cycle like this. I think I've only had a 30 or 31 day cycle once in my 39 years. I'm either UTD (doubt it very much) or I'm subconciously stressed about my FET and the AF is just late. I'll let you know tomorrow if it decides to show. If I'm not UTD, I wish it would hurry up as I'd like to get this cycle going!!!
Oh, and I have a blocked ear, one of my friends at work is sick ATM so I'm praying I didn't catch his cold.....
Hope everyone is well , big hugs to all & I'll do more persies later.
So Beata, what's happening? Did AF arrive yet? When I fell pg I was really cranky and moody towards the end of my cycle, so I didn't even begin to expect that was I UTD, so you never know... And I have no idea what was going on with the liquid that you discovered in the shower. That didn't happen to me after I lost Ryan, just very sore BBs that eventually went, not in size though which isn't such a good thing...
If AF has arrived, at least you know you are one step closer to your FET. Either way, it's good news.
No update from me, just waiting, waiting, waiting....
Still no AF hun, although I have a pretty big headache ATM which usualy is a sure sign of AF on her merry way I got a bit crampy this afternoon, but still no sign of it. I bet it will turn up in the middle of the night which is usually the case! Yeah, the leaky nippies were very stange indeed. Before I left the hospital after I lost Joshua, they gave me some tablets to take to stop the milk from coming. My BB were slightly bigger when I was pg but they were never really sore or anything like that. So I thought maybe the leaking was a delayed reaction from my loss maybe? Dunno hun, just can't explain it.
I really hope AF decides to show up soon for you hun, I truly hope and pray for a little miracle for you very soon
Hi to everyone else, will catch up with you all soon..
Butterfly Forever - I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter, welcome to BB and good luck on the TTC path.. Hope you get a BFP soon That is so great that you are amember of the ICU fundraising group!
Berry - I already had a stitch with the twins.. It was found my cervix had shortened at 19wks so I was admitted straight away.. I am just hoping that if I need a stitch next time around it will be placed earlier, so hopefully will be successful
AFM - I don't know what is going on.. After a nice 4 day AF I got her again on Saturday after only about 1 week! She seems to be gone again now, but I was really hoping my cycles were starting to regulate.. Apparently not! I have decided to buy some OPK's. I am getting them from lullaby conceptions as they are relatively cheap and since my cycles are everywhere i will have to test everyday.. Has anyone used them??
Hello to everyone else, I am off to TAFE now 2 subjects and 2 assessments
Blessed, annoying about AF. I really hope things regulate for you & you catch the next egg
Cheryl, so good to have you back! Glad you had a good holiday, you so needed it. Also great news about AF & I also pray that you did catch that egg, I'm sure the holiday has done the world of good, praying things happen for you this month
ButterflyForever, it took me 6-months to conceive this time & 3-months the first time. I was getting a bit worried the second time as my lutuel phase was short some months. I ended up trying accupuncture after reading some great things about it (can help regulate your cycle, increases blood circulation & I'm sure other great things I don't know about ) anyway, I conceived after the first month, so who knows if it helped, but I do believe its worth trying. Good-luck to you hun, it is hard trying again after a loss, I really pray you are blessed with a BFP really soon.
Beata, thinking of you tomorrow
Bec, hope you are doing well.
Praying you all get your BFP's soon - you all deserve it so much :
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TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth
, I can completely understand you feeling fed-up with everything. But please hang in there hun. You have achieved a pg before naturally and you can achieve it again. Things are so recent for you, your body will regulate again, it can take a few cycles until it 'goes back to normal'
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lol) and staying relaxed (I know it's hard to do) and most importantly positive, was the key to it all. 
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I really hope you caught O this month, if it was just before the temp rise you certainly have a chance.
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which isn't such a good thing...
Either way, it's good news.
I got a bit crampy this afternoon, but still no sign of it. I bet it will turn up in the middle of the night which is usually the case! Yeah, the leaky nippies were very stange indeed. Before I left the hospital after I lost Joshua, they gave me some tablets to take to stop the milk from coming. My BB were slightly bigger when I was pg but they were never really sore or anything like that. So I thought maybe the leaking was a delayed reaction from my loss maybe? Dunno hun, just can't explain it.
That is so great that you are amember of the ICU fundraising group!
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