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    Teni - go you saucy vixen - make the most of it.

    AFM - going to the counsellor was awesome, so glad I did it. And sorry about my sig in the last post... i know they allowed now, but I don't usually leave them in, so sorry if I upset anyone. I have since edited it.

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    Sweety (Dory) I was pleased to see it and see how far along you were. Week 28 is a biggen for me, so i will certainly breath easier for you now that is nearly over. It was good too see your angels there too.
    Thanks for your shoulder hun.

    CD 2 now and AF is blazin' having a dvd day with dh, popcorn and choc. xoxo

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    Hi ladies

    Gigi - sorry to hear that you have had a few down days recently. You were sounding so happy and peppy, particularly after your boogie session. BTW what a nice thing to do to give the guitar pick away - you truly are an amazingly generous lady Hope you are feeling better very soon. And just a quick question from me, now that you are back in Australia are you considering IVF? I can't remember whether you have tried it or not. Sorry to ask and feel free to tell me to butt out if you want!

    Dory - so glad that you enjoy your counselling sessions. And while I missed your ticker, 28 weeks is fantastic. You have come so far. I will be thinking of you this week and your angel's EDD. I realised myself that my angel's EDD isn't far away.

    Samcougar - hope you are doing well hun.

    Teni - go Teni and Scott - make the most of that precious EWCM!

    ChrisW - hope you are doing ok and glad that your DS is feeling better. It's hard when little ones are sick.

    Hi to Powelly, Lemonade, SuzieQ, Beata, crumpet, cmeglles and everyone else.

    AFM, still no sign of AF. The clomid has really stuffed up this cycle for me and I am not very happy about it. Apparently this is a reasonably common side affect. I have some Primolut that my FS gave me before she left for her conference to bring on AF but I really don't want to take it. My TCM is trying out some herbs on me but still nothing. I have had cramps on and off for 2 weeks now and my cervix has moved into a high position so maybe she is on her way. I think the cervix is high and therefore open when AF is about to happen. Is that right?

    Anyway, DH and I have been talking more about our options and depending on what the FS says when she comes back we might do another IVF cycle, or we might move onto to finding an egg donor. While I would love to have a child that is genetically mine, I am a nurturer and know I will love any baby, particularly one I have carried and given birth to. I went to a friend's baby shower yesterday morning and was surrounded (ok, maybe not) by 4 young babies. I actually coped with it much better than I thought I would. One of the ladies who I had only just met let me hold her beautiful baby girl who is 6 weeks old. She was gorgeous and in between fidgets, and yawns and stretches and wind burps and smiles, she slept for almost an hour in my arms. My arms were sore from holding and rocking her but it was the best soreness I have felt for a long time. I was in love! That experience has cemented my mind that one day I will be a mum, even it is not with my own eggs. I can't imagine my life without a precious bundle. And DH is so supportive. He wants me to be happy and desperately wants a baby too, and if an egg donor is the only way to achieve that then he is completely onboard. It is a relief on one hand to know that there is another option, but a little stressful as well as I don't have any sisters, or any close friends that are the 'right' age. But that is another path to investigate.

    Anyway, enough rambling from me. I hope everyone is well and keeping warm. It was -4 here this morning when I went to work!
    oxo

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    Hello lovely ladies,

    Chez- Sorry to hear that clomid stuffed up your cycle, and i can understand you not wanting to bring on AF I'm not sure about the position of the cervix when AF is due so i'm not very much help sorry. I'm so glad the baby shower went well, I had one a couple of months ago and i think i did really well altho i couldn't bring myself to hold one of the girls bubbas when they asked me. So i think you are a truly amazing lady and i hope you soon get your own little bundle of joy.

    Gigi- Sorry AF arrived, but Movies, Popcorn and Choccies are definatly the way to go

    Dory- I'm glad going to the counceller helped you, i think it may be a road we may take as well depending on how we are feeling about this pg. 28 weeks wow that has just flown by (well for us anyway) I hope everything is going well for you.

    Teni- Fingerscrossed for you hun, I really hope this is your month.

    Hello to everyone i missed, i hope you are traveling along well.

    well AFM What a week, Blood tests, Drs Appointments etc, etc. The Dr says that i'm going really well and everything looks good, so fingerscrossed we have a sticky bubba on board.

    My love to all

    Bec ooxx

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    Samcougar- I hope you have a sticky one too hun. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best. I am sure this one is here to stay.

    Chezza- No, hun you are not putting your nose where it doesn't belong LOL. Of course you can ask. I just don't want my answer to offend. We have decided not to do IVF. It is not right for me and it is something we don't want to do. Not that it means we don't want a bub enough, there are so many reasons. I have huge respect for IVF and what has given my friends here, just not for me. Thank you for asking hun and thanks for doing so in a loving way. Not everyone can understand why we don't do IVF, we have chosen a different path, no less expensive that is for sure and the stresses are different but still very present but it is our path nonetheless. We expected ( a small part of us) that it will take longer. Anyway...it has certainly been a long wait, a sacrifice we are willing to make.
    I am sorry you are struggling with your cycle so much. Just to confuse you ever more, my cervix is quite high and then through period, very low and open. I wish I could help you more. I hope the TCM can help it along.
    You very brave and strong lady for venturing the baby shower as you did. As much as it hurts sometimes, holding my nephews and smelling them can be the best drug and the worst in the world. They smell so so so good. I bathed my youngest nephew the other day and he is just starting to take other things in around him...starting. He just looked at me the whole time. Well i cried like a silly aunty and sang him songs...what else can you do for such a devoted audience. God they are miracles.
    I think it is tremendous that you can recognise the mother you are and want to be. To consider an egg donor is a big and possibly wonderful step. With each decision like this our growth is super huge. You are a wonderful mummy hun and i bet however it comes, your next chance for another bubba is not far away. Did you read the post Dusty wrote about her egg donor experience. It is in her blog if you haven't. it was a lovely way to look at it and so so true. It has brought her a beautiful miracle. I understand that you say you have no sisters or friends the right age and that is something else to consider. I don't think you will struggle with that.

    Thinking of you sweety.

    Love to all xoxoxHM

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    Chez - oh sweetie, thankyou. I ended up getting a new toilet yesterday. Not quite how I expected to be spending the 1st anniversary of Amelia's EDD. But it's nice to have a properly working loo again. For me, being biologically related is not crucial. I am adopted, and from a child's perspective I have always felt loved and nutured and no different from my brother, who is my parents biological child. In fact I reckon if you ask my brother, I was "treasured" more than he was. I know it can be hard to get your head around the concepts of egg donation, but I agree with you. You are a mother and will be a mother again and you will nuture your child, irrespective of how your child comes into the world. I just loved the way you retold the story of the baby shower. I had a similar experience with my friends baby, holding him for hours and feeling so tired ans sore but so fulfilled afterwards. It really is a feeling to hold on to isn't it? Hope your cycle sorts its self out...

    Gi- thankyou! I love the mental picture I have of you drinking in the sweet aroma of your nephew.

    Hiya to everyone else. Just a quick one from me today. Take care.

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    Hello lovely ladies. I have been MIA lately but I have been lurking, reading and thinking of you all.

    I have recovered from the chicken pox but as predicted DS got it just as I looked well enough to leave the house! He is over the worst of it but still has lots of crusty spots poor little mite. On CD2 at the moment. I O'd right in the middle of the worst of the CP...of all the poorly timed luck. I also had the most EWCM I think I ever had this cycle as well....hmmm. Well FX for July for all of us TTC'ers!!

    It looks like we will be away on holiday in Sicily when I will be O'ing. Sounds great right....except we will be sharing a villa with inlaws and SIL and DS will be sleeping in our room. It is going to have to be some very quiet sexy time.

    Some days it overwhelms me that I am back on the TTC rollercoaster when I shouldn't be.

    Thinking of you all.