Dory, your comments are always so on the mark. I was completely in shock. In my last post I probably wrote down about 0.1% of what was actually going through my brain.
Gigi thank you for your concern sweetie. Ah, where to start with answering your questions. My daughter was born premature due to complexities surrounding the twin. Well this is what they think happened. We found out at the 12 week scan that there was a second sac/foetus which probably stopped developing around the 6/7 week mark. They said the body usually absorbs this and I may get some bleeding. I did get some bleeding at the 13 week mark and then it stopped unfortunately it started again at 17 weeks and never stopped. Bubs was doing well though and I was told that some people just bleed through preg. We had numerous scans and nobody could tell us why I was bleeding other than the twin reabsorbtion. Anyway, I went into pre-term labour due to an infection. They can't tell me what sort of infection it was other than they could find no 'bad' bacteria. The consultant's explantion was that sometimes with the bleeding, the good bacteria have a nice warm environ in which to grow and multiply and they overwhelm the system. It is the only explanation I have but at least it is an explanation and something which they believe will not happen again. I had a manual extraction of placenta and then 2 further ERPC's for retained products 4 months later. Probably the last one caused the damage as the consultant did tell me he had to get a bit agressive in order to remove the last of the RP's which were firmly attached to the wall. He was the one that mentioned Asherman's to me. The stats say that 40% of Asherman's cases develop from D&C's 2-4 weeks after delivery. Wish I was in the other 60%!
No other D&C's. Had an emerg c-section for DS as he was undiagnosed footling breech. Anyway, that is another story. But my periods returned after bfeeding fine so I suspect that didn't cause any problems. I think any scarring would have shown up on the u/s with my daughter when my uterus got bigger.
Anyway, I am in the best of hands here. I am seeing what is called an A-lister (the asherman's group rate surgeons) here in London (DH and I have been here since 2001 - how time flies!). I am going privately so I can get immediate treatment though luckily my DH has private insurance through work. There is only one A-lister in Oz and he is in Sydney so a long expensive way from Perth so I am hoping I can be treated successfully here. The other good thing about my A-lister is that he worked in Perth for a year so knows people who could perhaps assist in my recovery. Don't know, will have to see what happens, hopefully if I need two or more surgeries I can get them all done here before Xmas. Otherwise we may have to rethink our timing on coming home. So everything in my life is completely up in the air at the moment. At DH's insistence, I am trying not to stress out too much as I just have to wait until surgery. There is a fantastic international and UK asherman's community which are an incredible support. I have learned so much just in the last few days from reading others experiences. I can only hope I can provide an inspirational story for others. Fingers crossed.
I hope that answers everything Gigi. I definitely feel calmer after my extensive research. It is just out of my hands now and I have to hope this surgeon is as good as everyone says he is.
At the moment I am on a different path and as you can imagine talking/reading about TTC would be a bit much for me. Oh how I wish for a TWW now!! But I will pop in from time to time to make sure you are all doing OK. I will definitely be stalking Dory for her birth announcement. I will let you know how I get on though....maybe a few days later though after I have processed it and am no longer in shock!!!!
Good luck all....and I wish with all my heart that if or when I do return that none of you are here and you are all in the preg thread. Lots of babydust.
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