TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth 2010

[Lemonade]

One more thing, after my last visit with my obs, I'm just not feeling 100% happy. I have complete confidence in her as a doctor but just have my doubts about her understanding of my situation. I think she may be way too busy to give us the caring we need.

If any of you are in Sydney, can you recommend a good obs? I think it may be a good idea for us to start exploring other docs.

Thanks
xxx

[cmeglles]

Ok so much to say!
Again charlie B and crumpet congrats! Yay- I am so happy for you and may I say a tad bit jealous.....

SusieQ- How awful to have to start all over again. Hopefully the procedure is pretty painless. I am thinking of you.

Lemonade- I can't give you any OB recommendations, but I can totally understand how you are feeling. Your OB really hasnt seemes to be on top of anything. How frustrating. I am not the most patient person and the fact that you still don't have all the results must be really frustrating. (The autopsy on my DS was delayed getting back to us too and I was really frustrated about it). Sending you good luck with the hunt and TTC.

Blessedatlast- It sounds like things are going better for you. I am also sending you a It sounds like this move is allowing for healing and provide a great new start. You are so strong to have gone through with it. Maybe something to consider in the future would be IUI.....just a thought. I know it is probably way to soon to start thinking of that sort of a thing right now. You are in my thoughts and I am sending you lots of Please feel free to PM me whenever!

Dory- How are you doing? Feeling any better about history repeating itself? It sounds like things are going really well for you. Wonderful!

Beata- Thanks for the hugs and encouragement. it is nice to hear from you now and again. Please keep popping in!

Tenibear- It sounds like work was good for you. I have been trying to work and keep myself busy to not be so focused and worried about ttc. It seems to be working and my outlook is healthier, but it does make me tired! Sounds like your co-workers are great distractions, but unfortunately not in a good way. Argh- I can totally understand how some people can be frustrating, but it never seems to last too long. I hope the same is for you.

angelicdragon- Hi, how is it going with you? Seems to be busy, and I hope it is a good thing.

Chez- So sorry that AF arrived, and that things have been so difficult. I hope you get some answers soon on your wacky cycles. More importantly I hope those answers lead to a BFP. I have no idea if you can ovulate 2 in a cycle!I hope that you can find time to schedule a holiday if you can! It was so wonderful to get away from it all- including worrying about TTC. I feel heaps better.

Hi to Aries, Teagz and anyone who might be lurking that I missed

AFM- rough week. My EDD went better than expected, but made this week kind of hard. Sorry I haven't written much. The vacation really was nice. Unfortunately the weather was pretty cold and windy so I didn't get in much beach time, but just leaving home and not worrying about work and TTC was really great. We were on holiday when I O. Today is CD28 and no sign of AF. I have had a few elevated temps mixed in with reg ones, and was hoping it might be a triphasic chart, but I haven't been doing them continuously. I did test today and got a BFN. I am better with it than in previous months, because I have tried to distract myself with work. I don't know.....I am pretty frustrated. I read a statistic somewhere that said that in the under 30 group 96% of couples get pregnant within 4 months. I guess again we are in the minority. It is also frustrating because with wrok/school and timing of TTC, if we don't suceed in the next 2 months I am really going to have to re-evaluate my planning for going back to med school. I am thinking about going and talking to a doctor- we have been doing everything right. What do you think? Am I just getting ahead of myself? I am also wondering if I have a luteal phase defect.....It is only 11-12 days usually for me, which seems right on the verge...sigh. Lots to think about.

Sending everyone lots of

[crumpet]

Crumpet congrats to you as well on your BFP Wonderful news to have 2 BFPs on the board so close together.

thanks hun!!!

Crumpet - sorry you haven't heard about the job. The market can be pretty tough at the moment. We have just interviewed for a vacancy in my area. We had several good applicants but we can't give the job to all of them unfortunately! And I am so pleased that you felt much better after your counselling session. Are you planning on going again?


AFM, it's been an emotional week for me. AF arrived on Sunday morning so I was able to get my day1 b/t done. You might remember a while ago I posted about being concerned that I was only O every 2nd month well it appears that is not the case. I seem to be Oing normally around day 12-15 and then the next month around day 5-6. And some cycles I am getting EWCM around day 4-6 and then the Fertility Monitor confirms O on day 12-15 without any EWCM. So this cycle I decided to do an OPK yesterday - strong test line, almost the same as the control line, and today - even darker test line so I am definitely Oing now. I will also use the Fertility Monitor to see if it thinks I am also O later in the cycle. The weird thing (if that isn't weird enough) is that my cycle lengths are all around 26-28 days long. Surely I am not O twice in one cycle? Or maybe the egg is growing and then it stops until mid cycle when it releases from the ovary? I have heard of IVF cycles where the egg just stops growing for a week so without any known reason. Bizarre. Anyway, my TCM is going to research it and I will talk to my FS when we see her in 2 weeks.

yeah im disappointed coz it seemed to be looking so good, but oh well like u say u cant employ everyone!!!
the councellor will do a phone session with me this week and see how that goes, then if i want i can go there if i prefer or she can come to me or we will keep up the phone sessions.....

sorry to hear ur having issues with O timing hun ,hope u can sort it out asap!

AFM - I had my docs appointment, all routine. I have done one bloodtest for HCG and will do another next week to make sure it's increasing normally. No results yet.
I'm starting to get worried cause I have NO symptoms at all!!

glad ot hear ur appt went well hun!!

Hi Ladies,
A big congratulations to Crumpet and CharlieB That is so awesome, I am so happy for you! (Even though I am a little jealous )

I am going ok. I moved twice in 4 days because the 1st place I moved into was DISGUSTING.. Really filthy and I was so unhappy there, so was my cat. I don't know what I was thinkng when I agreed to move in, I think I just wanted to get out of my current situatuion before I changed my mind! Anyway, I moved again and now I am a lot happier. Even though I HATE sharing.. I just can't afford to live on my own though.. It's so hard to break the habit of being in a relationship. Thinking, what am I going to have for dinner, instead of we.. It's hard to get used to and if I'm honest it was REALLY hard to let go of TTC.. I know it wasn't the right thing to do when our relationship was in trouble but still. I want a baby SO desperately and that is hard to let go of . I have gone off my herbs obviously, but I started spotting again so I might go back on them just for the mere fact of keeping the bleeding away. I will see how I go.. I am still doing my temps as I think it is good for me to try to see a pattern and let me know what is happening with my own body, even though I am not TTC.. Well ladies, thanks for listening, thanks for all your support.

thanks hun.....

my heart breaks for u hun it really does.....
i couldnt even begin to imagine how hard it must be for u right now....
big hugs for u....

Ok so much to say!
Again charlie B and crumpet congrats! Yay- I am so happy for you and may I say a tad bit jealous.....

AFM- rough week. My EDD went better than expected, but made this week kind of hard. Sorry I haven't written much. The vacation really was nice. Unfortunately the weather was pretty cold and windy so I didn't get in much beach time, but just leaving home and not worrying about work and TTC was really great. We were on holiday when I O. Today is CD28 and no sign of AF. I have had a few elevated temps mixed in with reg ones, and was hoping it might be a triphasic chart, but I haven't been doing them continuously. I did test today and got a BFN. I am better with it than in previous months, because I have tried to distract myself with work. I don't know.....I am pretty frustrated. I read a statistic somewhere that said that in the under 30 group 96% of couples get pregnant within 4 months. I guess again we are in the minority. It is also frustrating because with wrok/school and timing of TTC, if we don't suceed in the next 2 months I am really going to have to re-evaluate my planning for going back to med school. I am thinking about going and talking to a doctor- we have been doing everything right. What do you think? Am I just getting ahead of myself? I am also wondering if I have a luteal phase defect.....It is only 11-12 days usually for me, which seems right on the verge...sigh. Lots to think about.

Sending everyone lots of

thanks hun!!

sorry to hear about ur BFN.... hope u can get some answers soon...
and glad u had a great time, and that ur EDD wasnt a horrible day


AFM: not really much to tell unfortunatly.......
after my session on tuesday i have felt a million times better, and im so glad i did it.... i have a phone session with my councellor this week...
am off to my GP this morning for my bloods to confirm everything but my tests have been getting darker and darker so thats a good thing!

[Samcougar]

Hello lovely ladies,

A HUGE congratulations to CharlieB and Crumpet, what wonderfull news! It's so exciting to finally have some BFP's in here.

Well i'm just popping in to say hello, I'm finding it really hard to get on BB lately, we are so busy. anyway i will do my best to catch up soon.

My love to all
Bec

[toomanyshoes]

Well I'm jumping in here to try to keep myself on track!

Found out yesterday I'm having my 6th m/c. I'm still finding it impossible to have things investigated, I feel so silly, we're young, we already have children but now things just don't seem to be working.

So here's hoping being in here will keep me motivated to keep trying and get off my butt and see a Dr!

Hope its ok I'm joining in here

[CharlieB]

HI everyone,

hope you're all ok, it's been a bit quiet in here!

toomanyshoes - sorry you had to join this thread, I am really sorry for all your losses, and especially sorry that you are going through one now. I hope that when you have recovered you can get some answers

Dory - I was thinking of you on Tuesday - I hope everything is ok??

Lemonade - you must be well into the 2WW, have some !! I completely understand that you would want to look into some other OBs, I think it's a good move. If you don't feel that she can give you enough time in your next pregnancy then I think its wise to look around.

cmeglles - i hope you are feeling a bit better after your rough week last week. I really really hope its still an AF free zone as well?

blessed - I hope that you are going ok and are adapting to your new living arrangements. I imagine that sharing again woud be hard, but hopefully it gets easier with time

crumpet - have you had your phone appt yet? hope it was helpful. And I hope everything else is going smoothly.

sam - nice to hear from you!

Aries - huge for Wednesday.

AFM - not much to report, the little bean seems to be sticking for now, just taking things one day at a time.

Huge hello and hugs to everyone else I missed,
take care xx

[TeniBear]

I kinda got AF today... Well, I did, but it looks weird It's like dry blood is coming out, there's hardly any on the pad I have on, but when I wipe after the toilet, the loo paper gets soaked with dark, almost black, blood.

[TeniBear]

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