Hello everyone, i know i've been on and off here, but just thought i would pop my head in.....
Ahurani, just wanted to say big hugs i was having the same dilemma about when to try for another baby. i know everyone is different, some people need to be pregnant or have a baby to get through that first year, but for me personally.....i didn't want to have a baby or be close around J's birthday. I kind of wanted that time to be all about him, and for our focus to be on him....BUT that's just how we feel....i know there are others who want different. so hope this helps a little.....hope you can start trying pretty soon, it's nice when OB's go out of their way to help you, im glad you have one you really like
Lady-Tess - OH MY GOSH!!!! what an effing rude and clueless HCN. and what gives her the right to call you up anyway and berate you, even if your boy was alive? i'd like to say put in a complaint or something, but i know with things like this it's easier just to let them go. i had problems with the funeral parlor lady and an urn i ordered for J. she treated me so rude, and everyone was so fired up about it, but seriously i was just not emotionally able to do anything with it....so sorry you've gone through that.
Tashy, im not sure whats happening as i can't read your link, but i just wanted to say im so sorry for whatever it is, and huge huge hugs!
Skybie, im sorry as well for what you've gone through it's just not fair big hugs to you too xxx
EmilyJames, i know what you feel about insensitive people as well, i have a friend who is due in December, and when she announced on FB she was having a boy, she sent me an sms saying 'It's a boy!!! ' and that was it.....no 'im sorry, this must be hard,' etc, just a huge slap in the face....grrr some people just really don't get it, do they?
Kateo, im so sorry, it is really hard isn't it.....another friend was pg, and turned up to pre school last week with her 6 day old little boy....man it really sucked seeing her holding her little boy who was living and breathing and happy....i mean, i was happy for her, cause i know she was worried after what happened to me, but still....i wish i could have been a part of that, you know? and the day after a few people asked me how i was and knew it must have been hard, and i thought, 'was i that obvious??'
and to everyone else i've missed, hope everyone is going well....
well for me, im terrified, BUT me and DH decided that i should come off the pill as of today....im soooo scared! but as i said to DH i just can't get another baby out of my head. i've started going to a support group, so im getting some counselling and stuff....it's just going to be a very scary journey.
Last edited by mummydreamer; June 5th, 2011 at 08:33 AM.
i was having the same dilemma about when to try for another baby. i know everyone is different, some people need to be pregnant or have a baby to get through that first year, but for me personally.....i didn't want to have a baby or be close around J's birthday. I kind of wanted that time to be all about him, and for our focus to be on him....BUT that's just how we feel....i know there are others who want different. so hope this helps a little.....hope you can start trying pretty soon, it's nice when OB's go out of their way to help you, im glad you have one you really like
big hugs to you too xxx
hope everyone is going well....
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