TTC after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the 1st Trimester

Hey everyone,

Lynn - Big :hugs: to you. I totally understand why this has upset you so much, I remember we were just talking about how hard it is the other day. I think you have every right to be angry, life is unfair! I wish I could explain to you why you didnt get Cooper but all these other people get their babies without any problems, but I cant and I ask myself the same questions every day. All I can do for you is let you know you are not alone, if you need someone to vent to you know where I am :hug:

Spring - I am so pleased that lil Spring is doing such a good job in there :confetti: Sounds like everything is going along perfectly, as it will continue to until you hold him/her in your arms.

Deb - Sending anti-eggie vibes your way... until Thursday anyway. I hope you are feeling ok today.

Hi to Nat, Bailey, Michelle and everyone else.

Not a bad day today, went to see Norbit and it was reasonably funny but Mrs Norbit really did gross me out a little (or a lot). The only problem I had today is that the agency called me and said the job I was booked for tomorrow has been cancelled and she doesnt think she can get me any work this week but will try for next week. That is after I got a call from another agency this morning offering work but turned it down because I was booked! I will ring them tomorrow and see if they still need me. I did get a p@@@ed off at first but then though oh well I guess that is the risk of temp work. The main thing is that I really dont think its a good idea for me to sit around by myself at home cause all I do is think, and ultimately spend the day crying.

Bye for now, Mel

P.S. One more :hug: to you Lynn, I hope you are ok.

Hi all

Spring That is wonderful news on little spring :confetti: Im so happy for the both of you, it has put a smile on my face for the first time today. thank you. Its funny how we look at everything the next time round, but it makes us more in control. Once again biggest congrates and big hugs to you.

Deb I do hope DH gets home soon for that eggie. Im sending prays for your angel boys birthday, Im sorry its late, life has been one big blure at the moment. I know that those who have passed can hear all we say, so a big hello to all our angel babies and I hope your all playing nice.

Bailey Great news on getting it together!!!:dance: Sorry but is this why you are of to bail...for a honeymoon? I havnt caught up on posts yet but will try to very soon.

Lynn & Mel Sorry I havnt caught up on post just skimmed through, I will have a read and catch up but I hope you are both well.


I took DS to see GN today, which Im so glad I did, since sunday she has gone down very fast, she now can only keep her eyes open for a short time and not talk for long but DS told her all things he wanted to say said even though he is so so sad he sort of feels happy in his heart.........I had/have tears running down my cheek. I left after 2h as I think she had started to die......I was with my GF when he passed and it was very much the same, I didnt want DS to see that. Im waiting to hear from my mum as she is over there but I think the next call will to be to say she has passed.......Iam very sad but I know she was ready and I would not like to see her like this for long. I asked her to watch over our angel babies and she smiled and said "that would be fine" she has seven children so if anyone could she would be the one.

I will post later, Im going to clean up and.......maybe head off to bed.

Goodnight to you beautiful women, all my love and hugs and sweetdreams. Nat xxxx:grouphug:

Oh Nat - I am so sorry. This is an incredibly emotional time. I will light a candle for your Grandma as soon as I get off here. I am sending you lots of love and hugs :hug:

Lynn: Sending you lots of love and hugs too sweet woman. It is really tough. When I see women smoking and drinking with pregnant bellies I often feel angry. Angry that they just don't realise how it can all be taken away in a second... Angry tht they just don't get the fragility of life... This new little baby is a reminder of all you have lost. How you are feeling Lynn is so very normal. Cry and feel just what it is you are feeling... Let it all out and know that it's okay. :hugs:

Everyone else Hi to you all.

On an almost embarassing note.. . Latest opk update - lighter than this afternoon so I am thinking I just may be lucky enough to hold onto that eggy for another 36 hours (pleaaaasssse!!!!) Keep the vibes comming I think they are working!!!!

Dream: My deepest comfort and love goes out to you honey. What an emotional time. I was with DH's grandfather when he passed away last year and in some ways I found it to help the grieving process. I am so glad that your darling little boy got to say what he wanted to say. It must have been so hard but trust me, he will thank you for that opportunity as he grows into a young man.

I am not sure where today has taken your family, but if you do drop in and read this post, just know that you and your family are in my thoughts. :hugs:

Luv Spring.

Dear Girls,

Ive just popped in to let you know my dear grandmother passed away at 10.35am this morning, I was not at her side but got there very soon after and was able to see her before they took her body. Im very blessed to be able to be there so soon after and also that I was able to be with my grandfather when he passed. The nice thing is my sister was there so both her and I have been with our grandparents when they passed. she went peacefully and Im now so ......well not sure if happy is the word but she is no longer in pain and is with her darling husband it that special place.

I just want you girls to know how much I have appreciated all your kind words, wonderful support and advice that you have given me, this has helped me to be strong and deal with this part of life, something Im not sure without knowing you were here if I would be able to do. So thank you all from the bottom of my heart.....words are never enough.

One this note im putting DS to bed and maybe a bath and a little night cap will help me sleep. I hope you are all well and may god be with you and your loved ones tonight.

Sweetdreams you wonderful women.

Luv Nat xxx

Dear dream,

My deepest condolences to you my sweet heart. I understand the relief you mentioned. No one wants to see someone they love in pain. You seem to have such a wonderful perspective which just emphasises my opinion of you that you are truly amazing.

I know how difficult the next few days leading up to the funeral can be. Please know that anytime you need you can call on all of us for all the strength, love and support we can possibly muster.

It is not goodbye remember, just see you later.

With love and sympathy :hugs:

Spring

Oh Nat, I am so very sorry for your family about your grandmothers passing :hug: I hope she finds peace with her loving husband and she can now watch over all of your little :angel: She must have been a great woman as you seem to love her dearly and I am sure they are safe in her hands. I hope your DS is doing ok.

You are all in my thoughts :hugs:

Love Mel

:hello: to everyone else.

Spring, have you broken the good news to anyone yet? Man, it must be bursting out of you by now :D

Nat - I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your grandmother. I hope she is now at peace and painfree. She can now be reunited with her loved ones including her husband and your precious angels. I am thinking of you, DH, DS and your family.

Take care :hug:

luv & hugs
Lynn
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dream, I am so sorry to hear that your nan passed away, but I completely understand when you say that you are relieved that she is no longer suffering. I am glad that your little guy got to see her and tell her what he wanted her to know, I am positive that he will later come to cherish that time that he had with her and be grateful to you for letting him do that. I am so sorry.
:hugs: to you and your family.

Nat - :hug: My thoughts are with you and your family. A peaceful passing is a blessing few realise. I hope you and DS (and the rest of the family) are doing OK.

Dream: Once again, my sweet, I hope that a calm descends upon your family today. Big cuddles, huggles and love

Mel: I haven't told anyone yet because DH wants to do it together on the weekend. First of all we have to decide if we are going to tell my MIL. I think DH realises that she can't be trusted to keep her gob shut but it all seems insignificant after what Dream has been through in the last day or so. I think Friday night once DH is home we will call my parents, sister and best friend and then think about the MIL a little more. Other than that, trying to wait as long as possible before the bump becomes too obvious.

I hope everyone else is well

Love Spring

HI Nat big big hugs my love... :hugs: I am sending my prayers and love to you and your family. As Michelle says a peaceful passing is a beautiful blessing and now she is with her husband. You enjoy that nightcap and may you dream beautiful dreams of your grandma... :hug:

Hi everyone,
I am just coming in to let you know that I probably won't be "in" tomorrow - I have to leave home at 7.30am to get to Brisbane in time to pick up DH at 9.30am. We are all very excited! I am exhausted - and I know DH is going to be as well!!! :cryinglaugh:

On the opk front.... no positive yet :dance: thank goodness!!!!! So, :pray: that this is the month for me and for everyone in here who deserve :bfp:.

Talk soon... nighty night.

Ohh Flowerchild that is fantastic about the OPK's. You get your jiggy on girl ;) Watch out DH, Jet lag or not :bd:

Drive safely

Luv Spring

Deb - thats great - the anti-eggie vibes worked :clap: Now we will start sending through the "come-on" eggie vibes :pray: We dont want to hear from you tomorrow, you will be very "busy" ;)

Spring - It is a tough one about MIL, is there any way she will find out if you dont tell her? I mean does anyone else have contact with her? I bet you cant wait to tell your mum and sis, they are gonna be stoked :)

Hey Mel: I know that if I tell my M & D, Sis and Best friend that it would not go any further. I am absolutely sure that they would respect our wishes and not tell a soul, so there is no way she can find out. Even if somehow she did, I wouldn't care. The reason I don't want to tell her is because of her previous behaviour and the fact that I haven't spoken to her since before Christmas.

DH feels differently so we are going to have to compromise :rolleyes:

Anyway honey, I hope you are well. I think of you constantly. It is past my bedtime so sweet dreams and over and out from me.

Luv Spring

Goodnight and sweet dreams to you and lil Spring :asleep:

...oh and of course Frank and Vinnie :)

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