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Hi Girls,
Spring - Welcome back, glad you had a nice weekend with DH. Dont feel bad or that you betrayed Harry by saying lil Spring is your first :hug: With temping I have been doing that to Nicholas with heaps of people and I do sometimes feel guilty, but the fact is that I need to do what I have to get through the days and you are right, it probably wasnt the time. Harry will understand, he knows how much you love him and he also knows that it is a difficult situation. Wow only 5 sleeps, the last few days will drag!!!
Lynn - How you feeling? Are you still feeling in shock? I have been thinking about you all weekend too and I am just so happy for you, I told my mum tonight that you are UTD (you know how it is, I talk to everyone about you girls) and my mum was so excited LOL. She doesnt even know you but her reaction was amazing - I thought sheez I cant wait to see how excited she gets when its me :p Oh and I also love your ticker, so cute and colour! No kids this weekend, we have them the next 2 weekends though and strangely I am looking forward to seeing them.
Deb - Nachos... mmmmmmmmmm (she says drooling in a homer-ish way) my fave! Thursday is my "post coit" test :lol: I am really going to try to push him into IUI regardless of the results. He says if they swim well in CM IUI will not be all that helpful (not sure why but thats what he said) but I think surely it is worth a go anyway!
Bailey - LOL @ DH with the wine - cant really blame him huh? Besides we all know your only picking on him cause you cant have any ;)
Klee - Thanks again, it was really nice catching up... I am not sure if you will be on before you go away but if you are have the best time (im sooooo jealous!), and travel safely :hug:
Hi to everyone else.
Well I have had a pretty good weekend which is pretty nice for a change, they dont happen all that often so I will take them when I can. DH and I have decided that we are going to take our nursery down :crying: We had left it the way it was with the hope of getting pregnant straight away but as always in life things dont go according to plan, so we are going to put everything away. We also decided that seeing as we will find out the sex of the next baby we will set it up to be either a girls or boys nursery, whereas its a neutral nursery at the moment. I dont know when we will do it but I think it is going to be hard, there will most likely be tears, but I think we need to do it.
Hope you all enjoy your Sunday night - it's Monday tomorrow... oooh that was harsh huh? Sorry!
Love Mel
P.S. Michelle - OMG your ticker is flying, although I bet it doesnt seem so to you. You dont pop in here very often so just in case we dont hear from you before Alf makes his entrance into the big wide world, all the best with everything.
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Hey all,
Lynn - :happyforyou: Huge Congrats! YAY!
Hi to everyone else? How is everyone?
Been hectic here for the last few days.
Well i don't think we are pregnant this month, all the usual AF symptom are showing up :(
still 4 days till it's due though so :pray: i am wrong!
I am so afraid it's going to take 14mths to conceive again or that it will never happen!
I'll be back later to do some personals!
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Mel - I'm glad that you had a good weekend with DH. I can understand taking the nursery down. I have not been in my nursery for months now. It is just too painful. I just keep the door closed and walk past it like there is nothing there. We have some drawers that DH was sanding back and re-staining so it would be the same colour as the cot and change table and he never finished it before Cooper was born. He has some of the drawers in the shed that he has sanded back but the unit is sitting in our rumpus doing nothing. DH said to me yesterday that he is going to start working on it again. I said well at least you have a deadline now.
I am feeling ok. I am in a weird place at the moment though. I have been told that I am pg but I don't feel it. I guess once I have had my 7 week scan and I see a heartbeat I will believe it. It just doesn't feel real yet. That is so cute of your mum to get excited about me. Your turn is very very soon :pray:
I am happy with this ticker. I really wanted it to reflect Cooper as well. So when I found some stars, I thought that would be perfect.
Jo - thanks Jo. Fingers crossed for you that this is your month! I can understand the fear of TTC taking forever. When we started TTC after Cooper, I said to DH, I can't do this for 2 years again. It took us 5 months but this time we had a plan and the dr knew the problem and could treat it. The 5 months to conceive this time felt longer than the 2 years. I hope so much that you fall very very soon. :pray:
Spring - I'm so glad that you had a nice weekend with DH. Wow 5 sleeps to go - that will fly by! I can't believe that is all. I bet Frank and Vinnie are excited too!!!! Harry will understand why you said that lil Spring is your first. We all have to do what is right for us at the time and to sometimes protect ourselves. You did what was best and protected your emotions. When are you having another scan? How are the movements going?
Deb - can I ask a dumb question? What is NLP?
Bailey - how are you feeling? How is the m/s going?
Tommysmum - I hope your m/s has eased off a bit.
Klee - when do you go on your big trip. From Mel's post it must be soon. Have a fantastic time. I hope you can pop in before you leave.
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Neuro linguistic programming Lynn... :hug:
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mel - thanks so much to you and DH for saturday night, it was so good to sit and chat and not be thinking that you are being judged for what you are saying. it felt so comfortable just being around you two, it wasn't just the two margaritas! lol. i just wanted to say also how much I loved Nicholas' hand and foot casts.
well i will do personals later, but yes its very soon am heading off on thursday, its all very last minute we only had it confirmed on thursday. its works out quite well as we'll be celebrating my birthday whilst over there. I will try and check in from day to day but please if there is any news about anything lynn or mel you will have to email me separately. still feeling a little guilty about the whole trip as i doubt it would have been offered had Phoebe made it.
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Klee - regardless of why they asked you to go on the trip, I think you should enjoy it. Don't feel guilty, think of it as your last big holiday for a while because when you get back I hope you announce your bfp! That is great that you will be celebrating your birthday while away. Have you planned anything special? Will you be with family at that stage? I will definitely email you if there is any news :)
Mel - you didn't Klee hooked on those margaritas did you?!?!?!?! LOL!!!! I will definitely be having a celebratory margarita with you next year when we are holding our bubbas in our arms (after expressing of course! ;) )
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no nothing planned for it, dp and i might be apart for the actual day, but thats okay because i will be with my sister and her girls on the day.
lynn - i have to tell you, that was my first drink since may/june last year, i fell off the wagon, or should i say mel pushed me!, just kidding
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LOL!!!! :lol: that sounds like me. A few months ago DH took me out to dinner and he ordered me a glass a wine. I was only half way through it and I felt so light headed!!!! I hadn't had a drink since March last year so I guess my body was not used. I couldn't stop laughing at how quickly it had effected me and DH said that was it, no more drinking for me!!! :D
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Thanks Mel :hug: I am a regular lurker, just not poster!!! The countdown is on ......
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Hi Girls - Just typed everything and lost it and now I dont know if I can remember everything I wrote, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
Klee - It is true I pushed you off the wagon, but I am sorry, it had to be done :p I am glad you guys felt comfy and had a nice time. Next time we will have to skip the margaritas though cause we will both be UTD :pray: I agree with Lynn, whatever reason they are sending you o/s just go with it. Like I said to you on Saturday, even if they are sending you because of Phoebe I dont think for one second they would even bother if you werent a valued employee. Whatever the reasons it will be good for you guys to see your family and also its hard when your birthday comes around, at least I know some of us girls have found it hard, so it might be nice for you to have that distraction of being away. What date is your birthday? I will have to send you a message, thats if you have international roaming on your phone but if not email will do.
Lynn - Its not me that got Klee hooked, its that the guy at the restaurant makes them so darn good :doh: The drawers will be a good distraction for DH while waiting for Hope's arrival. I dont blame you for not feeling UTD yet, its almost like yeah ok Ill take your word for it LOL. But you are, and you will holding him/her in your arms before you know it :hug: Also another reason we are thinking of taking the nursery down is cause we are thinking of moving in August when our lease is up to a 4 bedroom house so we will have to take it down then anyway. And who knows maybe we are jinxing ourselves! We have decided we are not going to use the same Sesame Street wall decorations we had, we are going to give them away if anyone wants them and other than that maybe just put them in a cupboard or something. DH said that his mate and his wife (you know the ones) might want them but I am not sure how I feel about giving Nicholas' things to them!
Bailey - How is Faith treating you? M/S still threatening to set in? Oh and thanks for the article, I got it today.
Jo - Dont give up just yet, there is still 4 more days to go. I have everything crossed for you.
Spring - Actually you would be a good person to advise us on the nursery situation. I know you had to pack up your nursery when you moved, and didnt set it up again when you moved in where you are. How did you cope with that? In your opinion is it a good thing to pack it up or would you have coped better all this time with it there? I keep wondering what if it is too scary to set it up again when the time comes. I said to DH that to pack it all up just seems so final and he just gave me a big hug and said but Mel it is final, he isnt coming back :(
Hi to everyone else.
Not much from me tonight, except that I love this finishing at 3pm business its great. Oh and I am having an early night tonight. Had trouble sleeping last night, last time I checked the clock it was 3.41am! And then at about 5am I was woken up by DH HEADBUTTING ME!!!!! He was trying to cuddle up to me (apparently :rolleyes:) and misjudged and headbutted me right on the bridge of my nose... what the...???? I am starting to think I am a battered wife and just dont know it - will be sleeping with one eye open tonight let me tell you LOL.
Ciao for now, Mel
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Hiya
Glad to hear you are all doing well - I just wanted to say that we packed our nursery up the day I got home from the hospital and we have put it all into storage. We found that everything was so difficult that we wanted to get it all done straight away so that we could start to grieve without a constant reminder of what should have been.
I found that I too could not walk past the room without remembering what it looked like inside so we bought new furniture (single bed, bedside table, etc.) and have it set up as a spare room. Not sure if this helped, but we found it was the thing to do for us.
Spring - hope you had a good time in Canberra and that it was not too cold for you. Let me know if you saw a good meeting place between sydney and canberra.
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Hi girls,
Mel - :cry: I had not yet had a chance to set up the room for Asha, we were renovating (our house was only 2 bedrooms and with her on the way we needed a new room) so I am glad in away that I didn't have to pack anything up. But a few weeks ago I found a huge bag of baby stuff that we had started buying for her. there was a little set of baby pj's I had bought when we had just found out we were pregnant that say 'Daddy loves me' all over them, and that made me really sad. I put them away for just her, I wouldn't use them again, but finding them kind of felt final too. I know what you mean. I cannot imagine how hard it would be. Maybe store his things instead of giving them away, because I think it would be hard to use for your next baby, but maybe it will be easier for the one after?? I am not sure. It would be hard if you gave them away and then regretted it.:hug:
Lynn - Proper MS this morning, even gagged a few times :) And sore (o)'s too today! Ouch! What about you? I have a docs appointment just with my GP next week and she will probably send me for a scan. NLP is a thing where they can sort of train your brain to think about things differently. It kind of sounds a little out there, but it worked for me when I had trouble sleeping when I was pregnant with Asha. it teaches you to think of something pleasant (i think they call it an anchor) when you are stressed or anxious. I am probably a little of the mark, but it is along those lines anyway. I am going to start it as soon as I have told everyone about being UTD, so I will let you know if it helps.
Spring - Nice to have you back. Only a few more days til DH back....how are you going to handle having to share the remote?
Klee - I hope you and Mel had a great time out on the turp's cos hopefully that will be the last drink you two will be able to have for a while. Where are you off to?
JLK - Hey, don't give up yet, I was convinced AF was coming. The symptoms are all so similar. It ain't over yet. Fingers crossed for you.
Flowerchild - I am so into Mexican too at the moment....mmmmmmmm. I might look into hypnobirthing too. I just want to give myself every chance to feel relaxed and secure. I just don't know how I am going to make it otherwise.
Hello to everyone else too:hello:
Well as I said above, I am starting to feel sick..woo hoo. I have never been so happy to be dry retching with my head in the toilet bowl. Yay. I want to tell my mum so much, but I am too scared that something will happen and I will worry her. She has been so amazing since we lost Asha, doing everything for us and she is still so upset about it all, I just don;t want her to worry knowing that I am worried IYKWIM. I think I will wait til I have a scan.
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Mel - I forgot to add, you need to get to bed and rest over the next few days as you will be very busy on wednesday night :D
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Oh Mel - that sounded so "final" when i read that DH said that NIcholas is "not coming back". It would have been so sad i know...i teared up - could just imagine how it felt. But at the same time it is not going to be easy whatever you decide. Whilst a difficult task, packing up Nicholas' room is not a bad thing - it is just getting ready and prepared for what is to come. But i think once it is done it will be a huge relief and a new start (i know something that will be hard to let go of).
We didn't have anything set up -was going to do it when i got home from hospital (only had basic stuff ready eg: clothes washed, nappies out, capsule...the cot was one you could dismantle in a second so my sister took that away whilst i was in hospital - it wasn't even up yet.) So when i got home there was no reminder (just some mini nappies - very cute) that were already opened...that is it ! :hugs:
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Mel: I have to admit, packing up Harry's nursery was one of the hardest days for me. It was so final. I spent most of it on the floor holding his things sobbing. That was back in January so I think I might have been a bit more together if I did it now. I am not unpacking the nursery this time. My Mum and Dad and Best mate are going to set it up while I am hospital, I just can face doing it. It is such a symbolic thing having to unpack everything. Althoug it gave me so much comfort going into Harry's nursery and talking to him after losing Harry, I just want someone else to set it up for me this time. I think if you pack it up when you are moving then that might be a good idea, it is a reason for doing it and if you get to your new place and decide that you want to unpack it then you can. There are no rules about how to deal with this, you just do what feels right for you and DH at the time.
Anyway, my Mum and Dad are here so I will just be quick. Only 4 sleeps now until DH is home and not a moment too soon. Mum said to say hi to you all. Although she has never met you she says she feels like she knows you and said she is so grateful that I have come to know you all. Mel, she said to tell you that she was sending you extra special *good luck* vibes this month.
Well Nighty Ni
Big Love
Spring.
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Bailey - didn't see you there (i missed more posts as usual) ! - i would have thought that you told your mum already...can't wait till you do - she will be so happy for you (and why wouldn't she).
Get that MS into you love - it is so much fun isn't it ! THankfully mine has settled the last few days - not so bad...i do however find it hard to face dinner but once i have a bite i am ok and can continue.
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Hey Tommysmum - Yeah, must admit, happy to be feeling sick. It is different to last time though, but the same as when I was pregnant with DS. So it has been strange. I am trying to take that as a good sign. Aaaarrrggghhh! I just want to wish this year away :) I wish I could wake up and the baby is here and OK, lol. It is such a shame that I am so scared to be pregnant, I just wish I could enjoy this.
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Oooh, look at my ticker, I just noticed that baby is speeding! Almost crashing into the sign now! Go baby....race home!
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very cute ticker - and those last 2 weeks have flown - already 6 weeks - woohoo !! I am sure you will gain more confidence as the pgncy goes on....it is like 2 steps forward and 1 step back -but progress is progress !
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Thanks to everyone for sharing your thoughts about your babies nursery. I guess it is a tough one huh? To be honest, I have really disassociated the nursery with Nicholas. Believe it or not we hang our washing on the clothes horse in there. I have always been able to go in there, on occasions I have sat in the rocking chair and cried my eyes out but overall I feel ok in there. I guess it is just now that the topic of packing everything up has come up it just feels weird you know. The thing is my parents are probably going to be staying with us for a few weeks (which will really cramp the TTC thing :rolleyes: but what can ya do) in just under a month and we have nowhere for them to stay long term because with the kids the rooms are all taken up. So DH and I thought maybe it was time we bit the bullet and just packed everything up. We havent been successful in getting UTD anyway and we will be moving hopefully. I think I will need to leave it to DH to do it though, I just dont think I am strong enough. Maybe my sister or someone could come and help him, I dunno.
Bailey - I can imagine how hard it was when you found Asha's things, those pjs sound adorable and its just heartbreaking when you think of those things :( That is a really good thought you know, maybe we will just store the things that we want to change. Maybe we will want to use them if we have a 3rd bub. Bring on the m/s by the way! Cant wait for it myself - crazy chick I am! Your into Mexican at the moment? Well you need to get your butt down to Melbourne because as we all know I was Mexican in a past life :p Oh and I agree with Tommysmum your mum would be over the moon (not that I know her but you know...).
Tommysmum - I am so sorry I made you teary :hug: But you are right, whatever we decide it will be a hard decision. Those little nappies are so cute arent they? We had everything done. All clothes washed and put away in the drawers, we have a little change table caddy that is stocked with nappies and wipes and powder, and we have our baby bag packed. I havent touched any of it, I just couldnt. It probably sounds weird that we had done so much but Nicholas was born on 5 Sept and I was booked in to be induced on 22 Sept and wasnt finishing work until the week before so we had to be prepared - or so we thought anyway.
Spring - That is a great idea to get your parents and girlfriend to set everything up for you while you are in hospital. I keep thinking that, what if we pack it all up and then I dont have to strength to set it up again. But I never thought of that, someone we trust could do it for us. I remember when you were packing up Harry's thing and I remember how hard it was for you :hugs: And it was only a few months since he was gone too, gosh that would have been hard. I dont think I would have been able to do it that soon, you are such a strong person. I know alot of it is necessity but really we are ALL such strong women for living our lives each day.
Tess - Wow Tess that must have been so hard packing up your nursery the very day you got home from hospital. I understand why you felt you needed to, but my god that would have been heart wrenching. You will be able to set up a nursery next time and only pack it up when bubs needs a bedroom instead of a nursery!
Anyway, guess I had better go to bed - as Bailey pointed out it will be a busy night Wednesday night, and also we only meant to not DTD for a couple of nights beforehand so looks like its DHs lucky night! And I guess now that I have admitted I am on antidepressants (which I am currently weaning off of for the 2nd time, hopefully for good this time - fingers crossed) I can also admit that they take away most, if not all, of my sex drive :crying: So poor DH isnt getting it as regularly as he is used to LOL.
Well on that note - goodnight.
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Oh no Bailey - Dont need to go to bed early tonight! Just worked out that we cant DTD because FS said abstain for 2-3 night prior to Wednesday - OMG my poor DH hasnt had it for quite a few nights :( I just told him that situation, poor bugger :p
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Happy 7 month Birthday Miss Asha and Happy 9 month Birthday Mr Nicholas
May you both send big hugs and kisses down to your mummy and daddy as i know they are sending them up to you. Big kisses and cuddles from me. XXXOOO
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Mel - hope you and DH are doing ok today. To me the months just fly past yet it just feels like yesterday that we lost our babies. Those nappies are very cute - you forget how small a newborn is....so cuddly and precious. Whatever and whenever you decide to do with NIcolas' room will be the right decision at the right time. Thinking of you (and poor DH missing out - he must feel like my DH at the moment). LOL
Bailey - hope you and DH are doing ok to day too. As i said with Mel, can't believe how fast this year has gone. All the years fly by and even though we think 40 is a hell of a long time it is not in the scheme of things. THinking of you both...
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Happy 7 months Asha and Happy 9 months Nicholas, thinking of you both, mel and bailey and your respective families
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Happy 7 month Birthday Asha. May you watch over your mummy and daddy today.
Happy 9 month Birthday Nicholas. Today will be tough for your mummy and daddy but I know that you will guide them through
Have a fun day today angels
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Mel - thinking of you today :hug: I know it will be a tough day but we are all here to support you through.
I was just as organised as you. I had finished work at 34 weeks because my feet were massive and it was too painful to walk around work. The week before we had Cooper I had washed all his clothes, his towels, the bed, change table mat.........everything. I even short-sheeted the bed. We had the car seat in the car and this was all done at 36 weeks. I guess I was just excited and wanted to be organised. I wouldn't be giving anything away. Even if you want to decorate the nursery different this time, I would still keep all of Nicholas' things. I think you would regret it if you did. I remember when I was in the hospital and I told my mum to go home and get rid of everything in the room. She didn't and I am actually glad she didn't. I guess it was just how I felt at the time. I won't be doing anything this time around. Once I hear the cry of bubs then I will send my mum to my house to wash every thing. I just want to do things differently this time. I don't want to be organised. I'm not even going to buy anything until he/she is born.
Not long now until your big test! Hope you survived last night without being headbutted!!
Bailey - your bub is speeding! Before you know it you will have that bubba in your arms :hug: I have no symptoms what so ever! I am a bit worried about that to be honest :cry: I have a bt on Thursday to check my hcg levels so hopefully they are rising nicely.
Spring - hope you are having fun with your mum & dad. Are you working this week? How long are they here for?
Hope everyone else is well :hug:
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Happy 9 month birthday little Nicholas. I know you're are up there looking after all of your little friends.
Mel - I really do think you should pack Nicholas' things away for now but hold onto them, you just never know how you feel about them later. If you decide later that you can't use them or don't want them, then you could pass them on. I think if I have a girl this time, I will use some of the things we had bought for Asha, but we did put aside some things just for her. But I guess I won't know until the time comes. It's quite a big thing isn't it?
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It is a big decision on what to do with things that we bought for our angels. My mum said to me if Cooper was here and I had another baby would I hand the things down to the next baby. I said yes. This is the way that I look at it. Everything was bought for Cooper and now he is handing it over to his brother or sister. I guess we just need to do what is right for each of us. There is no right or wrong, but you just need to be comfortable with your decision and at the end of the day, you can always change your mind.
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mel - i agree with lynn, bailey and tommysmum, just keep a hold of the stuff, you just never know how you might feel when your next one is here. as for the nursery its always going to be Nicholas' nursery no matter how much you change it, i mean that in a way that yeah you can pack things up, but the memories are always going to be there, i guess its a bit like how you've explained how you are emotionally, you may not show it on the outside but you feel it on the inside. does that make sense? it does in my head
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~ HAPPY 7 MONTH BIRTHDAY ASH ~
Big :hug: to you Bailey and your family. Hope you are ok, I have been thinking about you. I hope Faith was looking after you :)
Love Mel
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Hi Girls - Thank you so much for all of the well wishes today, you gals are the best :grouphug:
Spring - How are you and lil Spring? Meant to say last night (how rude of me!) thank you so much to your Mum for her extra special vibes - I need all the vibes I can get. Hope you are enjoying your time with them.
Lynn - OMG, I had short sheeted the cot too! And I have to admit it is still untouched, I hope it doesnt sound grubby but in the whole 9 months I havent taken them off and washed them :redface: And I agree with you, I have thought the same thing about Nicholas' things being handed down even had he been ok. We will be keeping the clothes and toys we had bought. I just think I want a new theme next time. I think I want a boy or girl theme. Mind you I don't wanna jump the gun, I actually have to get UTD before I worry about that, for now I will focus on the current nursery not the future one. How are you feeling today? I read your post to Bailey about not having pg symptoms and I just wanted to say try not to worry too much, the only symptoms I had with Nicholas was tiredness apart from that I wouldnt have known. Oh well I guess no AF was a symptoms too but you know. It is gonna be a long wait for your u/s but I just know that everything is gonna be fine :hug:
Tommysmum - Our poor DHs, the burden they must bear :rolleyes:
Klee - Yeah I know what what you mean, and you are right the memories will always be there. That is the reason why we cant bring ourselves to put one of the kids in there. It will remain a room for the clothes horse, and if my parents come to stay in a few weeks they will have a room. Two more sleeps :dance:
Bailey - I think it is nice that you have some things just for Asha, you can put them away and they can be keepsakes for you to keep forever. Things that Faith wont be able to cover in drool and snot LOL :p The main thing that was especially for Nicholas was a Geelong Football Club bib that my Mum bought when I was pg (DH is a big fan) and it was his so he was cremated with it. The other things that are specifically his are the toys he was given by people when he was born. I couldnt part with them at the time of the funeral so I kept them because they touched his skin. I will never give them to any of our children, even if they get put away I dont mind but they are his and I will keep them safe and they can be cremated with me when I die so that I can take them to him. Sounds corny I know, and I might change my mind in the future but for now thats what I want.
Deb - You have been quiet lately, I hope everything is ok and that you are just really exhausted because Col is zapping all of your energy.
Hi to everyone else.
Love Mel
~ Thinking of you today my beautiful boy, and every other day ~
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Dear Mel & DH
Thinking of you both today.Im sure Nicholas is watching over his mummy and daddy and sending you all his love.:hug:
Dear Bailey & DH,
Also thinking of you and Asha today. Your angel is looking down and sending lots of love to.:hug:
May you feel the tender breeze of your angels wings on your lips sometime today, and know they are safe and well. Thinking of you all today .
All my love Nat xxxx
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Mel - It's not corny, its beautiful. I hope you are doing ok today. I have been fine. I think that the lead up to the 6 month was hard, but now it just feels like any other day, not really any happier or sadder than yesterday was or tomorrow will be. I think maybe the year will be hard though. Well, rest up tonight, you have a busy day and noght tomorrow.
:bd: + :sperm: + :fertilise: + :doctor: + :crossfingers: = :bfp:
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Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and wishes today. It really helps.
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LOL @ your piccies :cryinglaugh:
I agree - some months are tough admittedly, but in a way today felt like any other day. I thought about him alot more than usual but I havent been really down like I have usually. Glad you were ok today :)
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Then again, maybe I have lost it, I just posted a thread in the Labour and Borth section to see if anyone out there has had VBAC after 2 caesareans. Lol, not sure if I am woman ebough, but I wouldn't mind looking into it anyway.....crazy...who me?
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That's not crazy at all - I can totally understand thinking about natural birth. Although I delivered Nicholas "naturally" I would love to experience a natural birth with a healthy baby passed into my arms at the end. I am just too terrified to even contemplate it, and my OB for a couple of reasons has recommended s caesar next time. Although I did read a referral letter from an OB to the surgeon I am working for at the moment and it said that the patient had previously had a caesarian and they were now trialling a vaginal delivery. Admittedly she only had one though. Anyway, now I am babbling - basically I just wanted to say I dont think you are crazy :D
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Thanks Mel, I think because I have only just had a c-section, they will really try to talk me out of it because of the spacing between the 2, but I thought I would just look into it. I am sure I will be way too scared to do it anyway. With Asha, they were trying to make me go for VBAC, but there was no way I could have done it, I kept saying to my mum while they were waiting for me to decide(DH was away) what if during the labour I forget she has died? That was all I could think about, I just didn't want to forget that she had died and expect for her to come out screaming. And, like we have discussed before, I just wanted it all over and done with, I could not have done it. It really does depend on size of baby for me too though, DS was 5.5kg - yes, you read that right,
12lb 2oz and Asha was already 2.8 kg at only 33 weeks. Lol, I have massive kids, which is strange, neither DH or me are large.
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Wow you do rare them big - Nicholas was 2.5kgs at 36w1d. Admittedly he his growth had slowed in the last couple of weeks because of the clot but still I cant believe Asha was 2.8kgs! And dont get me wrong, I didnt chose natural birth for Nicholas. I wanted a caesar but they made me have him vaginally. They wouldnt even entertain the idea of a caesar and I wasnt strong enough at that point to push for it.
I hope you get the answers you want, and no matter how you decide to give birth to Faith you are still a wonderful mother who is doing what is best for herself and her baby :hug:
