Well we just got home, totally exhausted but it was so nice to have some time away together. I have read through all the posts but will wait to do personals in the morning so that I can make sure I get everyone.
I'll update you on the MIL situation, Friday's call was a disaster. She refused to admit that not calling for 6 months was wrong, and said she would not be saying sorry for upsetting me because she had done nothing wrong. Even on Harry's 6 month birthday, she couldn't get off her high horse long enough to be sorry that I was upset, regardless of whether she thought she had done anything wrong.
She is pathetic really, spent most of it screaming at me about how nice a person she is ... yeah, go figure. I didn't raise my voice once, I was very respectful but also said what I wanted to say. She was acting like a spoilt little child and I kept telling her, if you continue to scream at me I will be hanging up the phone. She is so used to getting her own way that when I refused to give in to her, or to fight back, she got her knickers in a knot. DH heard the whole conversation, and said that I had done my best to resolve the situation and that it was up to her to grow the heck up and realise how stupid she is being. He said he was very proud of me for keeping my cool and not telling her to get F'ed.To be honest though, after the way she spoke to me and the way she conducted herself, I almost pity the fact that she is the way she is.
I basically said to her, look lets just agree to disagree and move foward, I am upset and disapointed but I am willing to move forward and start afresh. Well that wasn't good enough for her, and she kept trying to pick at me, she had the nerve to tell me that she thought I needed to see a counsellor, I just replied to her ' I have a wonderful husband, family and friends who are looking out for me so I would prefer if you didn't try to provide advice on things that you have no idea about.' She even told me 'I know how you feel, I have lost people close to me', That is when I almost lost my cool, I said to her you have no idea, you will never have any idea how I feel so don't be stupid enough to pretend, that is insulting to me and to your son....
It really got heated when I told her to stop bring Matt into this situation. She has been calling him bawling her eyes out to him. She even told him that my email was abusive. Now you girls saw my email, I don't think anyone would think it was abusive. If you want abusive honey, I'll give it to you!!!!!! It is weird though, when I was speaking to her she swore black and blue that she hadn't read the email, a liar to boot!!!. Anyway, when I told her to stop trying to get Matt involved she screamed at me 'You can't tell me not to call my son', I said, that I didn't say that and that what I said was that not to involve him in petty childish issues as he has more important things to worry about (he has been losing sleep over this). Anyway, she than promptly said that nothing was more important that her being upset and it all became clear to me, she is a pathetic cow who doesn't consider anyone else than herself.
She concluded the conversation by asking which hotel we were staying in Adeliade because she wanted to tell all Matt's cousins, I told her that we were going away to have a break and if we wanted to catch up with family we would contact them ourselves and that it wasn't her place to be organising our weekend. She once again got angry that I wouldn't tell he the name of the hotel but I really don't care. DH didn't want all and sundry fronting up a the hotel anyway.
The last thing that has been making me really angry is a conversation she had with DH a few nights ago that started this whole saga. DH's dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer about a year ago, and in August of last year, DH flew to Melbourne to look after his dad for a few days when he was having a really important operation. My stupid MIL gave DH the biggest guilt trip about being in Melbourne for three whole days and not seeing her (they are divorced). She bought it up just totally out of the blue...... He was there because his Dad had cancer you stupid cow!!!!! How dare she give him a guilt trip for wanting to take care of his Dad. It is just really bothering me, I want to ring her and tell her to wake up to herself, but I really think she is slightly insane and can not be reasoned with.
Anyway, I just realised this post is becoming a novel so I will stop whinging now. Any advice on what to do about her is welcome. I just want to forget about her but DH is upset that it has all gone sour. Don't get me wrong, he knows his mum is at fault, but I want at least get rid of the tension for his sake. He is such a sweetie, he said the other night, boy I hope I am adopted. I have been raised to always show respect to people and not to stoop to their level, but this woman is testing my paitence and I am about to loose it all togther and tell her she is not welcome in our home, I am so close to cutting all ties. I am going to call my Mum and tell her the whole story tomorrow night, Mum is a very calm person who always gives great advice but after telling her what has happened, I think even she will want to tell my MIL to jump off a cliff.
Anyway, I'll pop in in the morning to do personals.
Thanks for listening girls, I really needed to get it all out.
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