I'm a bit new to everyone's background so this is just an honest drop on what you have typed, I don't want to add to your pain but.... there seems to be SHED LOADS going on in your life with lots of family members dipping in and out (not deliberately) of your emotional reserves (god knows there must be not much left xxx)- and I will play Devil's Advocate here and say ...who is the priority???
That sounds really harsh (and hate me if you want to xxx) but much as you want to support your big sister through her divorce, and whatever if going on with your twin, stick them on the backburner. Easier said than done, I know.... I know I sound awful but I am scared that you will be making decisions based on the effect on other people and not from the focus on YOU+DH=BUBS.
I think I may have spoken out of turn but I am worried you will put TTC on hold because of your combined family situation and not because you (in your heart of hearts) want to - going back to counselling and throwing the WHOLE lot into the pot would put things into perspective.
Oh I am so outspoken and probably wrong and I don't know the full story but I think there is too much in the mix for you to make the decision that TTC is the thing to wait, without working it through with someone more professional.
Big, big, hugs
Alex
xxxxx
Obv, the offer of mine and Spring's 'muscle' still stands xxxxx
Alex, thank you. I have to say that first. I will understand that you are new to this thread and what you are saying..................but thank you. I know I need to put myself first but I have always found that hard. I have the best mum and dad in the world but they are going through so much right now and are torn and are trying be there for me and my big sister. Obviously what I am going through you can't predict or expect what my big sister is going through with her divorce. But me being me, want my parents to put all their energy into my big sister because they can help her....................they can't help me to some degree. They can help me to some degree through the grieving but they can't fix it............they can help my sister. And my big sister is just beautiful, I love her so much and I want my parents to help her as do I.
Please don't think that you have spoken out of line, I appreciate everything that my friends say, including you. My big sister wishes the world upon upon me as I do upon her.
I know I need to put myself first but I have always found that hard. I have the best mum and dad in the world but they are going through so much right now and are torn and are trying be there for me and my big sister. Obviously what I am going through you can't predict or expect what my big sister is going through with her divorce. But me being me, want my parents to put all their energy into my big sister because they can help her....................they can't help me to some degree. They can help me to some degree through the grieving but they can't fix it............they can help my sister. And my big sister is just beautiful, I love her so much and I want my parents to help her as do I.
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