Hi ladies - I am only away for a couple of days and we are onto a new thread already. I will try to keep up but apologise if I miss anyone out - I have read all the posts and are thinking of you all.
Tommysmom - I hope you are okay today and picking up Thomas's ashes was okay. To be honest I have not managed to go and fetch my Thomas's ashes and we are probably not going to bring them home. We want to spread his ashes at the childrens cemetary - I feel that way he can play with the other children (just my opinion). I think you are all very brave for taking your babies home!
Spring - That is good news about maternity leave, and it is good to hear you doing so well. I think it is a great idea to get everyone together in Sydney - could be very rewarding in many ways.
Lynn - It is good to hear the IUI went well and I have my fingers crossed in this 2ww that it has all worked.
Mel - It sounds like the counsellor really helped you and DH - that is such good news that it was worth it.
Bailey - I could never get OPK's to show a positive result (except when I used one as a HPT!!). Maybe you should go for a bt or just DTD every second night until either the symptoms kick in or AF arrives.
I have had a rather difficult week and feel really selfish for feeling down - my friend at work was pregnant the same time as me and my EDD was 5may and she gave birth on 11may. I am so happy for her and her daughter is gorgeous and healthy - but I was so upset as it bought back what I do not have. I hate feeling like this and try so hard to not let it show when everyone is excited - I guess it will get better soon but I am dreading seeing the bub for the first time in a few days. How do I get out of it without hurting my friends feelings and appearing really selfish??
Hi to everyone I have missed - I hope you are doing okay.
Tess
Tommysmum - How did you go with picking up Tommy's ashes? I hope you are ok.
Lynn - It was good to see you today. You look so skinny!! I am with you on the wait, that little porker better not let us down this month.
Mel - It is great to hear that the counseller was good and that DH got something out of it too. Wow, and he'll be a published poet too. I actually get that newsletter sent to me, so I am excited to see it there. It really is such a beatiful poem. How are you feeling now that you have spoken to the FS and have got a plan?
Tess - It is hard to see friends babies. My friend had a daughter a few weeks before we lost Asha and I just threw myself into it. I thought that since I couldn't avoid it forever, I just dove right in. But that is me, I completely understand that you don't want to see your friends baby. I think that you should just be honest with her and tell her how you are feeling and why. If she is a true friend, she will understand.
Hi to everyone
Well, a few of us went to the S&K's meeting today and as usual it was hard. There was new people there, which is so sad. I always feel a little down for the rest of the day, but I know that tomorrow I will feel better for having been.
Im not even sure if I could catch up with all thats going on in here! Ive been out for so long, I have missed all of you so much and do think about how you are all going every day.
Firstly DEB Oh My God you have no idea how happy I was to hear. I am going to be very positive for you and know that in seven or so months giveor take......that babe will be here and that is just the best news! so the scan is soon from what I have read mind you not to much I just want to post. How are you feeling I know I know dumb question but I do hope you are doing ok. Hows the rest of your clan?
Spring Is that tummy growing? I just want to see you and rub it Iknow how painful people are doing that BUT!!! Are you well? not working to hard I hope.
Bailey I hope all is well at your camp I do need to read and catch up Im coming in blind.
Mel How you going. Sounds like things are looking up for....and where can we read DH poem, I would love to read it.
Chelle Im not sure if you are around but Im so very sorry for your angel baby....I know words cant change things but know Im praying for you all at this time and hope the sun shines on you soon, my love is with you xxx
Lynn How are you today....on that lounge taking it very easy? I hope so!
To everyone else Im going to go back but not to far otherwise I will never catch up so please dont think Im rude. I hope your are well.
Well Ive just had DH BIG 40th and DS 9th birthday...and Im shattered to say the least. Life is pretty much go go go and now look forwqrd to our big holiday in Sept. Bailey I may need your help very soon can you let Lynn know if I can get your email so I can talk direct with you otherwise get mine off her I dont mind that either....sounds dumb but you know what I mean! Im going to post and try to read a little. Talk soon
Lynn - Unfortunately the up hasnt lasted long DH said something last night about Nicholas' birth that I didnt know, hadnt thought about more to the point, and although it didnt bother me too much I just cant get the "imagined" image out of my head and its bringing me down I wont elaborate on here for fear of distressing people. Also I think the TWW has started to get to me this month, I feel so tense and cant stop wondering did it or did it not work. Oh well I will get over it How are you feeling? Are you still relaxed and positive?
Tess - That's a really tough situation Tess, I have had people around me having babies since I lost Nicholas and have done the "right" thing by them and gone to visit and everything and in the end I dont think I did the "right" thing by me. I hope you dont mind if I am blunt, but I am going to be anyway... you need to do what makes you comfortable, you are a mother grieving the loss of her son, and you must protect yourself. If you friend is a good and true friend she will understand that you are not ready to see her little girl. Maybe you could just speak to her and tell her how happy you are that everything went well and that one day you will definitely meet her bub, but that at the moment you are still hurting so much because of Thomas and you just dont think you can do it. Tell her that as soon as you feel strong enough, and you cant say when that is, you would love to meet her daughter. Whatever decision you make, make sure you are doing what is best for you... best of luck with it all
Jo - Hopefully those iron tablets work quick smart and you can get back on the TTC train asap.
Hi to everyone else.
Mel
Last edited by Mel1977; May 16th, 2007 at 08:14 PM.
Tommysmum: I hope you are ok after today, big hugs to you babe :hugs:
Tess: Don't feel selfish about your friend's baby at all. I am sure she will understand if you don't want to see her baby just yet. That is a totally normal reaction. If she is a true friend, she will make you feel welcome to come and see her and bub at any time you feel up to it but she will also not feel offended if you choose to stay away. Just don't put yourself in a position which is going to upset. I hope you are ok.
Mel: Wow, the lady from the SIDS group sounds amazing. What an inspiring person to come into your home and offer so much of herself. I am glad that it helped you and DH and how proud must you feel that the poem Dh wrote will be in their newsletter.
Bailey: I understand your frustration babe, those OPK's are weird things. I think you have more than covered all bases IYKWIM. When are you going to do a HPT? I hope this 534 week wait isn't driving you insane.
Lynn: How you feeling, taking life easy babe? Well day one of the TWW down so look out BFP here you come.
Well I have been ok. Just tired and a bit cranky. I just want DH home and it is so close that it feels like so far away. I am going to go to be really early tonight, watch House and go to sleep so hopefully I have some more energy tomorrow.
Big hugs to everyone else, I hope you are all well.
Hi Mel, I am sorry babe we must have been posting at the same time. I am really sorry that you are feeling upset again. If you need to chat just let me know. I know what it feels like to have images going over and over in your head, there are a few images from Harry's birth that haunt me so if you want to share I am here. I am sending some huge :hugs: your way.
How are you feeling I know I know dumb question but I do hope you are doing ok. Hows the rest of your clan?
New here- I hope it's the right thread
DH said something last night about Nicholas' birth that I didnt know, hadnt thought about more to the point, and although it didnt bother me too much I just cant get the "imagined" image out of my head and its bringing me down 
I wont elaborate on here for fear of distressing people. Also I think the TWW has started to get to me this month, I feel so tense and cant stop wondering did it or did it not work. Oh well I will get over it 
How are you feeling? Are you still relaxed and positive? 
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