Thanks for the advice ladies (I appreciate you being blunt, Mel) - before she left work she asked me to visit her in the hospital once the baby was born and I told her that I could not do that as it would be the same hospital / ward that I lost Thomas. I do not want to go back to the place that has such bad memories. Thinking about things now you have put it into perspective we did have a big talk before and I told her how happy I was for her but sad for me - I am sure she will understand. I will wait until she comes to work and then say hello. Thanks again.

Mel - I am so sorry that images are coming back to you and it is hard. I am still waking in the night with new memories that scare me until I realise they are all over and I am not going through them again. There is nothing I can do to ease the pain but please take care and talk to your DH about how you are feeling.

Spring - Hope you enjoy your early night.

Flowerchild - Hope you are doing okay - how are you feeling?

T.