Thanks ladies - I am still VERY early days - 4wks 3days so still have to get it all confirmed with the GP. I was so excited that I could not wait to tell you all - EDD 26jan08.
I hope this baby gets to miss the 2007 birth date though - IYKWIM.
Glad your lunch went well yesterday I am so envious - wish there were more people in the ACT. Still it is good to be able to talk to you in BB.
Can I stick around until i at least get the all okay from the GP? I have my appointment on Thursday so will hopefully get bt done then.
congratulations again Tess, wuch wonderful news
lol 5 hour lunch, even after the multiple pages of posts you still had something to talk about, fantastic, am a little jealous too
FYI - Ladies, my mum just called me to say there is an article on stillbirths in this weeks New Idea.
Tess, Congratulations....woooo hoooo!!
Oh and of course you can stay, hopefully there will be more preggo's in here soon anyway you should come up to Sydney for the next catch up, it's not too far.
Tommysmum - Can you believe cricket goes that long, that is longer than a test match!
Ha ha, I will come back in later, I have to go shopping!
I've been reading your thread for some time now and a couple of you have kindly asked me to step over and join your chat.
I am at a very low point today.
How do you cope when you get a BFN? AF arrived for me yesterday and for the next 12 hours I deluded myself into thinking it was implantation bleeding, but no, the gush came forth.
This was our first month of 'trying' after losing our son at 38wks last November.
I have been suprised at the depth of my sorrow today and have been in tears for much of the day (since 5am). I'm exhausted.
The idea of this sort of despair every month we fail, added to the grief of our son just seems too awful to contemplate.
How do you guys do it? Do you feel relief when you see a BFP? Do subsequent -ve results seem less painful than the first?
We did go to a lovely restaurant for lunch and I had a glass of champange - figured the previous weeks/months abstinance from all things alcohol and coffee related can go out the window on a day like today. (I was pleased DH had the day off).
I told him that every month we aren't successful he'll have to take me to a special lunch....I managed to not cry in the restaurant, but did as soon as we got home.
I'd just like to hear how some of you cope when this awful time of the month arrives.
I am so glad you decided to join this chatter Nicole... WElcome!
It gets a little easier each month. It has taken me 6 months after each of my Angels to conceive again. Those months of "going at it like rabbits" and then the are really hard... Then when you get that it brings with it a whole new set of stresses and concerns... It's hard.
One thing that I used to do was think okay - only 14 more days and we TTC again... It seemed to break it up some how. LIke you I would have a few wines, some soft cheese and a cry... I am glad you could have a lovely lunch... I hope that tomorrow you begin to feel brighter... I am sure you will find lots of loving support in here and I look forwaerd to getting to know you...
Nicole - I am so sorry to hear of your loss - you are very welcome to come in here and let us all help you through this very difficult time.
It is very upsetting seeing the BFN's - before I got pregnant with Thomas it took me over 12mths of BFN's and I was starting to become desperate. I don't really know if it gets any easier to be honest but with all grieving it will with time. I found that my milestone was Thomas's EDD and I was so depressed until that date when I felt things had lifted and i could get on - I hope that day arrives for you too soon.
You need to try to look at other things in life and not just that BFP - I know that is hard to say but that is what helped me.
I am glad you spoilt yourselves with a fancy lunch - that sort of thing is important to pick you up.
i am sure my post has not been very helpful but please remember you are not alone and life does get easier (I promise!).
T.
Hi Nicole,
I am sorry you are feeling so down. It is hard when AF arrives isn't it? I am in my 3rd month of TTC and I thought I would get pregnant first go, so everytime I get those horrible BFN's I am so disapointed. I guess I get through by telling myself that it WILL happen soon, I just have to try to be patient. Which is so hard, when you are TTC and still greiving. I think I have coped after each AF arrives by telling myself that the next one will be the one, I think that trying to be positive is the only way I can deal with it. I have been using the last few cycles to try to get to know how my body works and trying to pipoint ovulation etc, and even though I have crazy cycles I feel more confident by doing this. When all that fails, I just come in here and have a vent to the girls and that always makes me feel a little better.
Take care
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Tess Tess Tess !!! How far are you and when are you due ?
Again, congratulations!
you should come up to Sydney for the next catch up, it's not too far.
WElcome!
are really hard... Then when you get that
it brings with it a whole new set of stresses and concerns... It's hard.
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