Hi Sunshine. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter Angelina Marie. It sounds like your drs are taking good care of you, which should give you some peace of mind now that you can TTC again. I would suggest you don't tell your family that you are trying. I had people (not my family but random people) asking when we were allowed to start trying again and this was only about 1 month after we lost Nathaniel. I told people that we were waiting for a few months etc, even though we started trying 1 month after the D&C. It meant that when I did fall pregnant in Feb we didn't have people guessing etc, and we were able to keep it quiet until we felt comfortable telling people (which I found very difficult as it was so emotional for me). So if people are asking, just tell them you aren't rushing and are waiting a bit longer or something. It is very wrong for anyone to ask if you are pregnant no matter what your story is, so just ignore them and don't let the pressure get to you. Take care.
Last edited by Katiegirl; September 16th, 2008 at 07:28 AM.
Sunshine - I am so sorry. That must have been a very dark and difficult time for you.
I second what Katiegirl suggested about holding back from telling people you are TTC again. It is such a private thing that you should not have to explain to anyone.
Hi Katiegirl,
Thanks for the advice. I have told those who still dare ask the question that we are not even though we are.
I also found it very hard this month when we did not become pregnant. I knew deep down that of course there was no guarantee that we would become pregnant this month but deep down I also hoped and prayed. When I realized that I was not pregnant I honestly became very angry. I was in such a terrible mood I wanted to be around no one! All I wanted to do was cry and feel sorry for myself! I know this wasn’t right and was childish but….it was how I felt It also goes against the fact that I did not want to put pressure on myself and that is what I am doing
Did you go through anything similar? I do not know how to just relax and let it be.
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It also goes against the fact that I did not want to put pressure on myself and that is what I am doing
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