... oh thank you Mak your beautiful words gave me some tears but happy ones

and your comment is so very true, i'm never one to invest in a friendship that is one sided ... i keep contact with her more so cause her & my DD are sweet little best friends and that being in a town it is a very hard situation to avoid someone so it's actually easier to just know them but what i do now is i don't keep the contact as frequent but it's still there and both her & my lives have gotten busier which has worked out for me !! (heartfelt thanks again Mak, i feel better now hearing i'm doing 'enough ' ) xOx