HELP!! sleep routine for large family

[Jas]

My DH has just started a new job which is afternoon shift, before that he always did the bedtime routine. our twins r only 10.5months so pretty easy as i just have to dress them and put them down. The older 2 I let sit and watch tv while i put the babies down. And then I put the boys to bed. Because I'm by myself to get them to bed at a reasonable hr it has to be pretty production lineish and i do prayers and talking to the boys etc but don't really read them books, i do that during the day though and i sing to the babies and sometimes give them a massage while doing pjs to make it nice. I think when ur dh works nights dont put too much pressure on yourself to do the books and every last thing, its important you get a rest at the end of the day and your kids get to bed at a decent hour, reads books etc during the day and give urself a pass for things at night

[~Kim~]

I don't have twins but my dh lives away so it's only me 24/7 99% of the time.

I have a fairly rigid routine, but it works for us, and thankfully dd2 slid right on in when she arrived.
I really try hard to get dinner organised in the day time or at least prepared.
5pm baths for DS and dd1. DS plays while I organise dd2.
Dd1 bathes while I feed dd2 and DS dresses/plays/watches tv
Finish getting dinner around 5:30
Dinner eaten by just after 6
Teeth for the older 2 - dd1 helps DS and I finish
6 ish put dd2 down
Sit with DS until he goes to sleep straight after (usually only takes 10 minutes)
6:30 dd1 goes to bed with a book. However, she's a fair bit older than your eldest. She's happy to hang out and do her own thing while I look after the littler ones.

I still have 2 extras in the bed somes nights. Even though I have slept with them all for at least 2 years each, it doesn't't mean I actually enjoy it. It has always been a purely convenience thing for me. Dd2 sleeps in my room anyway, but DS is getting better. Only now at 3.5 is he occasionally happy to be put back to bed when he comes in. Before that all hell would break loose if I tried so I just couldn't be bothered.
Dd1 used to be happy to sleep on a mattress on the floor if she came in in the night. Is that an option?