hi there divvy
you are a wonderful friend speading the message. Are your friends getting any support/counselling etc. There is a TTT contact with the AMBA- there maybe someone up there that they can talk to about it. Otherwise there is an AMBA forum that they can get specific infor about TTT and plenty of other mum's who have been there before and some that have had the surgery!
HTH and they will be in my thoughts!!
keep us updated if you can!
odette