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Also just reading previous posts didn't you really want a baby? Did you end up going through IVF? Why TTC knowing that your husband or family wouldn't support you?
Ultimately given how much you wanted it in the first place I wouldn't be having an abortion.
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I think some serious counselling is something you should definitely do before considering termination/adoption/keeping the babies. But if YOU think that road will be best after everything, then do what you feel is right for you. Youare ultimately the one who will be dealing with it all.
Get all of the facts about how life will be with yourself and two children first. Find out what you are entitled to from centrelink, housing ect, support off your ex husband and any other sort of support you can get. Could you go and live with/near your family for support again? Would they come to you to help support you, even for a little while? There are lots of options for you.
It will not be easy, any path you take. I'm sorry you have to go through such a difficult thing
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We get pregnant through FET cycle. I only have one egg left to put back in. One is FET and one is natural.
DH was the one who really want baby but he said it hits him when he see the scan at 7 wks that he isn't ready to lose his single life. He didn't want to be waking up n have sleepless night or can't go anyway by himself.
I was devastated. He put me in trapped situation. I know I will have child support from him but will thatbe enough? The thought of raising two babies on my own is scaring me.
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Your H wont be able to file for divorce until you have been separated for 12 months.. and since if you decide to go ahead with this pg then you will also need parenting plans in place and child support in place.
Good luck making your decision, its a very hard one
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I'm so sorry you're in this situation. My children were IVF and the thought of putting yourself through it and to then be in this situation is heartbreaking.
I fully agree with what the others have said - consider adoption before termination. If you are at all hesitant about termination then I don't think it is an option for you.
Raising kids is hard enough with a loving committed partner, so you are right, it will be very difficult for you on your own. But that is not reason enough to not raise these babies. I'm sure every parent on these boards will tell you that they would never swap their role as parents, no matter how hard they may be.
Your husband sounds like he's just freaked out, which is not unusual. Is there any chance of you getting counselling together so that he can get some help processing things?
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I'm really sorry you are in this situation but your husbands reasons for not wanting the babies sound really selfish. Please seek some counselling before making your decision, there are many agencies that can provide support for you, maybe try first with your GP and he can provide some referals for you.
Regards,
Dianne
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