Any Doulas or MWs with experience with Shoulder Dystocia?

[Julie Doula]

I really get the feeling the 'real' fear is the fear of being sued - not the fear that your baby will have SD. May you be empowered to do what you truly feel is right and safe for YOU and YOUR baby - not what feels safe for these careproviders.

Just as a means of contrast, so you can find your parameters, it might be worth having a chat with an independent midwife - telling them your past history, and what your current cps are saying, then asking, "If I was your client, how would you manage my care and what would you be recommending?" It can create a different perspective and new confidence for you.

Take heart. Don't give up.

[smiley10P]

Hi muming,

this is standard dribble that Obs will tell you. I agree with Julie it is about fear of being sued. The shame and blame game or dead baby card is standard they must learn it at medical school if all else fails then resort to it !!! Sorry you find yourself in this vulnerable position. Not being able to trust your carers will not bode well for the birth. Please look at all your options, if you dont trust them then why arte you taking advise from them ???. Just because and Ob is a woman doesn't mean you will get woman centred care she is still an Ob and comes from the same background as all the male obs. I hope you find a solution your happy with

[muming]

Hi to all who have posted on this thread ages ago.
I just wanted to let you know how the birth went with my third. After all of the concerns and worrying I had an absolutely fantastic birth. I had the best midwife, she was an angel, and a very supportive doula too. I will go into detail in the birth stories section one day when I have time.
I am so proud that I went with what I felt was right. I gave birth naturally to a beautiful baby girl, 3330kg (7.4lbs) Meika Ruby. She came out on her own (the day before she was due to be induced 9 days early. It was a very healing birth. It confirmed what I felt went wrong with the second birth which ended in shoulder dystocia, as the same problem with the cervix started to happen again. However I had a fantastic midwife who new what she was doing and we managed the labor and overcame the problem. I am sure that if she had have been present at the second birth it definitely wouldn't have lead to SD.
Cheers to Alwyn my midwife, my Doula Relle, and me!! Yippee.

to the obs

[paradise lost]

Oh wow hun, i'm so glad you went with your feeling and did this! Well done! What a wonderful experience for you all. Congratulations - FIND time to write that birth story, think of the women you could reassure/inspire!

Bx

[Lucy]

What a brilliant result! I have goosebumps now! Well done to your supportive team, and well done to you! CONGRATULATIONS! xx

[Trish]

That's fantastic news. So glad you had a much more positive experience this time around. Great to hear that your doula Relle and your midwife made a difference to you too

Just have to second how fantastic Relle is too!!

[DoulaRelle]

As Muming's Doula, I just have to post and tell you all just how much of an amazing story this is.

From my point of view it was an absolute honour to be present to witness this amazing woman birth her beautiful baby girl. What Ing had to endure for her "care providers" was nothing short of bullying. The amount of angst and negativity she had to endure in order to listen to her body and trust her instincts was amazing.

It was finally after gaining a 2nd opinion from a very experienced Ob who supported her wishes that these so called"care providers" began to take her seriously.

Ing, from me to you, hun I am sooooo very proud of you for staying strong and true to yourself. You strength and determination was truly wonderful to watch.

An yes it was definately sweet revenge when the duty registrar could do nothing but stand in the corner and watch while you birthed her beautifully. Alwyn was an angel, if only we could duplicate her many times over. She was a wonderfully woman centered midiwfe.