Hello Ladies,

Do I really need to have a doula? This will be my 3rd birth and I have thought about having a doula present but I don't know if I really need one. My last birth was very short and I handled most it quite well by myself. Although looking back there were little things that I missed out on for instance, it would have been nice to have someone get me a drink, help me get on the bed to actually birth.

Plus after DD's birth I had surgery and needed to recover but DH had to run home to DD1 so I missed out on having a shower until the next day. I had no one to hold bub so that I could get myself together.

The sticking point for me is that I like to do everything myself and I get really embaressed if I have a to rely on others..Even whilst in labour I find it hard to let others comfort me so I am not sure how much support I would actually let someone give me. I am that bad that I apoligise for making too much noise!!! Am I making sense?