I loved that from day dot we were working towards the same goal, that she was just for me and DH. Our midwives were great, but they had so many other women to care for too. Yes our doula had others also, but it was such a personal journey together. We had lovely long lunches and chats about birth and breastfeeding and babies that I just felt so comfortable with her. And her support of my DH was fantastic, gently guiding him when he needed it but never overstepping the boundaries (Plus he was stoked when she turned up in the birth suite with a hot curry dinner for him ha ha)
She picked the exact times to visit after our birth too, she walked in just when I was near new mother melt down mode and got me back together, then did the same at home later that week too and helped me with breastfeeding. I think next time we are pregnant I'll probably ring her before the Doc
I have just had a VBA2C. Wasn't met with much resistance at first either, but at 39 weeks they started talking interventions and I wasn't even at my due date!! It was great to have someone to keep me confident and come to my home who knew when it was time to go to hospital, and reassure DH that all was ok, so I just had to concerntrate on labouring. She also knew what i wanted in labour, so i didn't have to talk to anyone. When i tore and there was blood everywhere, she told dh all was ok. when dh had to walk away for a min, i wasn't left with strangers. she gave me all sorts of tips during the pregnancy about diet, mental prep, positions, what to be prepared for ...
i don't know if i would have succeeded at this vba2c if it wasn't for her -it definately wouldn't have been anywhere as easy. well worth every cent!!
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