Would anyone care to share how you stopped the bedtime feed?

My DD is only 9 months so I wouldn't dream of stopping the bedtime feed yet. I am imagining having to wait until she's 3 years old, and old enough to swap the breastfeed for a mug of warm milk or something.

It is just frustrating at the moment, because for the last month or so she's been fussy on the boob during the bedtime feed only. So she attaches, feeds a bit, then wriggles, cries, comes off, won't go back on, arches her back, doesn't want to lie back down, or sit up, or anything really.....
She fusses in my arms and after about 20 attempts, will eventually feed.
It is so draining! And disheartening. We have so many struggles... this is just one.