Gabi, you sound like you've had a very tiring time. I remember the time with 2 under 2 as the hardest time of my life. It definitely does get easier as they get older though. Your 2yo is probably starting to show some independence already, and your 7 month old is not too far away from being past the real "baby" stage. Things really change as they get older.
I never tandem fed as my DS1 self-weaned while I was pg. I think in some ways only feeding one at once made things easier, but definitely not less tiring! In other ways though, not being to bf to calm an upset toddler was a disadvantage. There were sure days when I wish I had that to try! I am also grateful that both my DS's at least bf past the 12 month mark, as having to worry about making up formula feeds and washing bottles etc would have really done me in.
I don't think you are facing an easy decision, but I wish you the best with it. I think for me, the fog lifting from that exhausting time happened once DS2 passed the 1 year mark. I hope you find some light in your tunnel not too far away
It helped just getting it out there. If I do wean I want to do both boys at the same time (if I have to be a BF mother then DS1 may as well get the nutritional/emotional benefit). I think I now realise that I'm not willing to do it before DS2 turns one. In most ways I think I have it pretty good, I'm not too tired, I'm not sick of feeding, my sons like to feed together and apart so we have a great thing going. So I guess my current decision is to postpone the decision lol.
It's just my bust that I'm down about. Thanks for the advice Barb, but I am seeing a physio, I work out regularly, and I have tried on every bra in every specialty shop known to woman - large cup sizes begin in a size 12 which rides up my back. Is it likely that my breasts will be this large forever now? (please say no )I want to get back to my E cup - my breasts have increased one cup size with each baby I've nursed and I intend to nurse another four or more!
And no, DS1 is not even close to being ready to wean. While DS2 is quite independant and active and I could see him weaning early, DS1 is a very attached child and doesn't like to take the lead developmentally. DS1 still has an early morning feed, a nap time feed and a bed time feed AND once or twice during the day to reconnect. It is still definately a need on his part.
Gabi, it is likely that you will go down a bra size (or more) once you are no longer bfing. Unfortunately with a a few years and a couple of pgs under your belt they well might not be quite what they were before. It can feel really good to get some nice new bras once your babies have weaned, but don't get them straight away because it can take 2 -3 months for your breasts to settle down to their post-bfing size.
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)I want to get back to my E cup - my breasts have increased one cup size with each baby I've nursed and I intend to nurse another four or more!
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