There is no issue with a 4 month old being at a wedding reception. I would speak to the bride directly, it could have been said in passing at a "bridezilla" moment, especially since you are making the effort and travelling interstate.
When we got married earlier this year it was a definate no children for us at the reception but we considered that from about 2 years & up.
My DH's rellies had to travel from interstate one with an 18 month old and the other with a 12 week old and there was no way that I would have even considered saying they had to pay a sitter or couldn't bring them to the reception.
I'd speak to the bride herself. & I personally don't think I'd go if they're going to be like that.
When DD1 was 5 months old I took her too my uncles wedding & reception even though children weren't invited.
His poor wife got a shock at my wedding, lol...bring the kids! The more the merrier! Let them all be feral together!!
To say we'd prefer no kids is one thing, but 'not welcome'? They should be taking into account the age of your DS & the fact that you have to travel so far. He's not exactly a toddler whose going to be running around sticking his fingers in the cake & skolling everyones drinks!!
I would speak to the bride or groom (whoever is your cousin) and tell them that travelling interstate, you won't be able to have DS babysat, and that he will have to come with you. If they can't accept that, then honestly, I wouldn't be going at all. No matter how old the child, if they want you to travel from another state, what do they expect you to do with the child?
the same thing happened to me at my cousins wedding...Ds was fully bf and all of my family was at the wedding so I didnt have a babysitter anyway..i just rang the bride and she said it would be fine...they didnt want kids there as the church part was important and they didnt want screaming kids around...not that any of the kids screamed. Ds was soo quiet you wouldnt have evcen known he was there and he slept the longest he ever had at the reception so it didnt matter.
If you dont feel comfortable going then dont i am sure the family would understand..plus 4 months is still a tiny bubba aho needs his mummy
I hate to be the negative one in all this... but we did this at our wedding - which was not interstate. We didnt invite children, and we had friends that RSVPed with their child's name. We told them that we would prefer they didnt bring the baby.
This had nothing to do with cost... it was simply because we hadnt invited kids that were a lot closer to us than them and their child, and we didnt want others to get offended when they saw their child there. They told us they werent comfortable leaving their 5 month old with a babysitter so they came to the church only and not the reception.
P.s. A few weekends earlier we found out they went to the AFL grand final together and left the baby with their grandmother...
I would talk to the bride, like the others have said. We've actually got a wedding next weekend and our DS is 4 months old. I asked the bride before we rsvp'd if i could bring him (I wouldn't have gone if we couldn't) and she was fine with it. It could just be that the message has been lost in translation iykwim? Personally, I can't see why she would be okay with the ceremony but not the reception - if anything it is the ceremony where a baby could cause a bit of disruption rather than the reception. Anyway, hope it all works out for you.
I dont see an issue with BF babies, I actually had 3 babies at my wedding 1 was 2 months old, another was 8 months and another 9 months. I made it clear to my friends that there babies were very welcome to be at the wedding.
However we had issues with someone cracking it as we wouldnt let there 5 year old come to the wedding!!!
Speak to the bride I cant see it being an issue at all, at our wedding we actually had a private room that they could BF in if they wanted (my MOH had 9 month old and no way could she BF in reception as needed to half undress to get boobies out of dress!!)
Usually it's the other way around! No babies/kids at the ceremony in case the make a racket... In saying that though, I have been to weddings with kids, and had kids at my own (albient ranging from 1 to about 14) and they generally get the idea that it's a big occassion and keep quiet.
I would definately go straight to the source! If the bride/groom says yes it's true then just let them know there and then you'll only be attending the ceremony...
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