I never had a first one as I was new to a town and didn't know anyone, so when next bubs came along it was actually my DH who prompted it with a good friend of mine as he knew I wanted one the first time around.

As for gifts as I already had a bubs there was a bit on the invite about having all that we need but if you want to bring a gift how about something for Mum. This was great, I got a massage voucher, chocolates, body products....lotions etc. A really good idea.