Lots of churches are more "smart casual" dress these days - you friend should be able to give you an idea of that Anything you'd wear to an engagement party should be ok - nice jeans or black pants with a nice top, or a simple dress or skirt, etc. Don't stress.

With presents, that's a little trickier as it seems to vary wildly depending on the guests!

With our boys' dedications though, I reckon about 30% of guests gave DS1 a gift, and maybe 10% gave DS2 a gift.

And of those, some were people who hadn't got around to giving him something either at the baby shower or when he was born - so it might have been more about the fact that they were seeing him, rather than it being a gift for his dedication per se.

The only time we gave a christening gift was for our godson.

We otherwise have just given a card with some special words written down for them.

HTH