When we lost Mum the counsellors at mary potter gave us memory boxes, in which there was a pad and pen to write down feelings ane memories, there was a little booklet about children and grieving in it, a balloon (to blow up, and 'send' to the departed with happy thoughts), and a few other things. Find some great photos, or if you've kept cards from your FIL, put them all in the memory box, and whenever Miss E feels sad she can remember the happier times ;-)
Tan, I'm so sorry to hear you lost your FIL so suddenly, even though he was unwell it still sounds like such a terrible shock to you all. As much as you want to take away your family's pain and grief, you can't, all you can do is be there and be present to them, love them, and be present to yourself as well.
It may be worth getting in touch with a social worker from the hospital, the Cancer Council or even the Leukaemia Foundation. They may be able to help with some bereavement support for the whole family.
I'm so sorry for your losses, what a very sad time. Two years ago my children lost both their grandfathers within 3mths of each other. Children will sometimes surprise you, they are much stronger in grief than most adults. I agree with Leesa, maybe together with your DD help her create her very own memory box and I found with my children talking about their grandads helped them too .
Thank you
I actually had a box here I brought that I was going to do up to keep all the stuff from my grandparents in. I will pop out when I can and grab a few more then sit down with the kids and decorate them. Then we can sort out what they would like to put in them.
Even though the boys are still young . I want them to know their Poppa and have things to help remember him.
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