We had a wishing well, people were coming from all over so it would have been unrealistic to expect them to lug toasters etc around in their luggage. We brought this little old chest thing, it looked like a treasure chest, and people just put money in that. It was pretty funky actually We used the money for our honeymoon and it was really lovely.

Plus DH and I had been together for a few years and had a habit of having massive garage sales and moving to new states/countries every year, so anything tanglible they gave us would probably have been sold for $10 later that year. We didn't put that in the invite though!

I've only been to one wedding where there wasn't a wishing well and TBH I really freaked out about what to get them. Wishing well is the norm for me. No-one else seemed at all surprised or offended.

Just thinking about how much work it would be to set up a gift registry, I dont think I could have gotten DH to come with me! It would have been a gift registry of shoes, lol.