For my first wedding we did all the family politics and did our best to cater for everyone that we wanted to be there and spent a fortune. All the family members had a role to play, a uniform to wear and a natty title to go with it, it took two years to organise and deal with all the arrangements - the guests flew in from all over the planet, the wedding cake was in multiple layers to cope with different dietary intolerances, standby venues to deal with bad weather, etc, etc, etc...

My second wedding took place in a drive through wedding chapel in Vegas, cost $50, and we told the friends and family about it after the event.

Somewhat bizarrely the drive through wedding was about as close to perfect as you could ever hope to get - it was our day, and nothing else intruded. When we look at the wedding photos we can't help but grin at the craziness of that time.

But back to the topic....

It's your day, you can have it any way you want it to be....you are there to make a commitment to someone, everything else is just window dressing. Don't forget to have fun...