Thanks Kimbles, that's the reason why I thought our guests would appreciate why we would prefer donations to charity. My DF lost his father to cancer 6 years ago, his mum has had and beaten cancer twice and I am currently receiving treatment for melanoma. It would mean so much to us to have this donation made but people really are not happy with it. One very close friend even said "bugger that, I will keep the money for myself" which is fair enough her choice but it did upset me.