but it seems to have upset some people. We live in a different town to all our family and friends, and they need to travel at the least 600kms to get to the wedding plus pay for accommodation.

I don't think it's reasonable to ask people to pay all that money and then ask them for/ make suggestions for gifts as well.

I originally told people that if they felt the need to buy a gift then to please donate to a charity in our name but even that has upset people.

We have lived together for 14 years, we have 2 children and everything we would want. We are not going on an expensive honeymoon, we own a top of the range camper and our plan is to go off on a family holiday for a couple of weeks.

So what else could I possibly suggest? I hate the idea of people giving money, wishing wells etc. as I feel like I am begging for money. if I did an online gift registry I fear other than a set of bed sheets there would be nothing else on the list.

People just are not happy being told not to buy presents, but then they want suggestions. Don't know what to do. We just want our nearest and dearest to come celebrate with us, that is what counts for us.