How long were you.....???

[BrightSparkles]

and your DH together before you got married???
DH and I were together for 8 years before tying the knot and knew so much about each other before doing so.

Curious to know what others opinions are. I have friends that have gotten engaged after 4 months together. While i'm over the moon for them, I can't help thinking it's too quick. (Yes I know....it can work) I haven't said anything to them as it's thier happy time.

[Olive]

we moved in after a month, engaged a month or so later, married after 2.5yrs. We've been together just gone 10 years!

[BrightSparkles]

we moved in after a month, engaged a month or so later, married after 2.5yrs. We've been together just gone 10 years!

Awesome work!!!!!!!!!!!!
It seems like so long!! I can't wait to say DH and I have been together that long!

[Ella]

DF and I got engaged 3 months after being together. He asked me to be with him for the rest of his life and have kids after being together for 3 weeks... guess he really really liked me lol

That was just over two years ago and we haven't tied the knot yet for financial reasons... damn expensive cakes and dresses!

[danniellabella]

Was with xBF for 1.5 years, got engaged, post poned the wedding, broke up after being engaged for 1.5 years.

Was with DH for 5 months, got engaged, got married 6 months later. We were married within 13 months of hooking up. Lived together for 1 month before we got married (unofficially). About to celebrate our 5 year anniversary in Jan. Tonight (NYE) was our 6th anniverasary together

[Arimeh]

DH#1 - he asked me to marry him a week after "meeting" him (we met online, and then he asked after flying to brisbane and meeting me in real life and spending the week with me) and then we got married uh... nearly 2 years later (and then divorced 2.5 years after that).

DH#2 - met online (its just what I do!), moved in a month later, suggested we get married 6 months after that (not engaged, just a suggestion - hence why I have no engagement ring) and married 9 months later. Still together - been married for 4 years now (and yes, we have been married for 4 years and have 3 kids. We're FAST movers.. haha)

[Tinks]

DH and I have been together for 14 years, we got married 2 yrs ago.

[BrightSparkles]

Only asking this because DH and I didn't move in until we'd been together for some time so I'm really not sure......

Is it different if you live together first then get engaged after a few months??? My friends don't live together (still living with parents - and i'm not judging them on that...i would too if i could LOL)

[kitten2b]

met DH at uni - same college - married 10 years later

[~Kim~]

i think it's one of those questions like "when is the right age to have a baby?" there just isn't a uniform answer for all.
My parents were married within a year of meeting and will celebrate their 37th anniversary in Feb.
For us we met then started dating 3ish months later then moved in 5 months after that. We got engaged 9months after we started dating and married 12 months after that. We've been married 5 years and together for 7.

[briggsy's girl]

umm, together a week when he unofficially moved in, (stayed the first night and never left!) - engaged 4 months later, married 12months 4 days after we got together. been married almost 3 years, weathered some pretty intense stuff in there (loss of his brother, family breakdown, miscarriages, IVF) and still very happy with our relationship

i don't think the amount of time you're together is a good indicator of how your relationship will last - it's how you weather the storms that arise as you go along. we have been very (un)fortunate that we've faced a LOT, including DH working away long term, him now facing a degenarative illness, both having major surgeries - we've been through a lot and we're still strong. yeah, we have issues, but it's not about how long we've been together - it's just part and parcel of a relationship (IMO). at the end of the day, we love each other, we're compatible and we're content.

ETA - DH told me we were going to get married the night we got together!

[Ella]

"umm, together a week when he unofficially moved in, (stayed the first night and never left!) - engaged 4 months later, married 12months 4 days after we got together. been married almost 3 years, weathered some pretty intense stuff in there (loss of his brother, family breakdown, miscarriages, IVF) and still very happy with our relationship"

Yep I have to agree. DF stayed over during our second date and he never left... we got a house together after about 6 weeks as I was living in a share house.

Doesn't matter how long you're together, like Briggsy we have been through some major stuff- cutting off my mum (not good influence at the time), huge family problems with his mother and many many more.

I think that some people are put here to have a pretty whirlwind experience, and I feel that we are some of them, at 21 I keep getting told that I've been through alot more life experience typed things than many people my age.

[BrightSparkles]

I think that some people are put here to have a pretty whirlwind experience, and I feel that we are some of them, at 21 I keep getting told that I've been through alot more life experience typed things than many people my age.

For sure!

Don't get me wrong. I'm over the moon for people when they are happy. and would do anything to support people through the happy times (and downs of course)
I was just curious to see what others experiences/opinions were. Just trying to get an understanding of other peoples points of view.

[sneakysparkle]

DH & I got engaged after being together 4 yrs - married 6mths later. In Jan we have been married for 7 yrs
We got together in high school though - I knew when I was 17 that I would marry him

[Just Me]

DH and I got engaged after 13 months (on Christmas eve 10 years ago), married 13 months later (we were 19 years old). We never lived together before we were married and learned a lot about each other in the first year that we were married.

We are celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary on 20 January.

[aussienic]

We were together for 4 years before marrying

[Glamourcide]

We moved in together after less than a month of being a couple (although he was practically living with me during that time anyway, we never wanted to be apart), then we got married five months after we moved in together. We'd been together six months lol Our third wedding anniversary is early next year.
And on the other hand, I know couples who were together for x amount of months/years before moving in together, lived together for x amount of months/years before getting engaged, were engaged for x amount of months/years before getting married, in order to determine whether they would make it last before making the official commitment... and then ended up divorced before their first wedding anniversary. So I don't think the success of a relationship has anything to do with the amount of time involved - for some couples, time will strengthen their bond, for others, it will wear away at the relationship and turn the cracks into shatters.

[mzcatieboo]

Met when i was 14 he was 19, lived together since i was 16/exspecting our first born, he asked me to marry him when i was 18, got married when i was 19 and exspecting our 2nd the same month as our 1 year wedding anniversary