We have been together for 20 years in Nov this year....WOW I just realized that....first girlfriend/boyfriend for us both....We got married in Nov 1996 nearly to the day we met actually - not planned that way....I would say we are soul mates - even though we have had heaps of ups and downs

We got married for US, DH's family was a bit disappointed not to have a white wedding but they accepted what WE wanted.

Ultimately as others have said it is entirely a personal decision. Plus we didn't want the stress!!

We didn't want to go thru the spending spree and went to a registry office, spent all up $1000 on dinner for immediate family and the license costs etc....we had a bbq the next day with our friends and was still hung over the next day - they thought we would never do it. The only thing we never did was have a honeymoon.....but together for so long - no difference for us....one day maybe.....

It didn't seem to make sense to us to use all that money for one day. I sometimes wish that we did things a little different - maybe a simple garden wedding, but am glad that we had money in account afterwards.....

And we are still mostly happily married and I am keen to TTC...