Just reviving this thread again - I've been thinking of it almost non-stop (when I'm not thinking of getting pregnant!) and it looks like we'll definitely need help with the headstone if we want it within a year. I'd love to have it up by his first birthday, but that might not be possible.

I also have heaps more questions:

  • How do you go about organising headstones?
  • Do you have to go through the cemetery,or do you approach the stonemason first?
  • If you go through the cemetery, do they choose the stonemason?
  • If you go through the stonemason, how do you shop around? I'd feel pretty guilty if I designed a headstone with someone then turned around and said "no, sorry, I was just getting a quote for this"
  • There's a company called "Life's Memories" that does glass inserts for headstones and plaques - but I don't think they do the stone part. Would I have to organise that and then the stone? How would I tell the stonemason?
  • Does anyone know of any companies/charities/whatever that help with this sort of thing? Some of you may know I've recently gotten involved with a UK charity along those lines, but I'm realistic and I know it'll take a while (and a hell of a lot of help) for me to start it all up here.
  • And... Really dumb question here... Do I have to go in person to organise it? It's nigh impossible for me to go cold into things like this. It's the same when someone's trying to sell me something - I can't say no, even if it's a bad idea (hence how I ended up with my wrist tattoo...)

Plus I'm still confused about cost I want too much for what we can afford, but I want the best.