I finally got my own way

[Muppity]

My BiL said "we invite you to our secret wedding". And then sent other people a little note afterwards saying "Surprise! We got married and are now honymooning in Queensland..."

They had immediate family and friends but not all the other people who would have "expected" to be invited. I suppose that there were about 40 people there.

[MrsBump]

Thats a great idea, taffylou... If only it goes ahead!!

We will see what the result is later, I have given up Im not stressing anymore!!