I completely understand! There are so many things we'd change bout our wedding - one being one of the groomsmen. He rocked up for one vest fitting and didn't even rock up to the rehersal and knew nothing bout the place to stand and the other people in the bridal party.. He p***ed me off something chronic! DH said that he'd have chosen the person we got to do the video-ing that day if he knew the guy was going to stuff us around.