I think in your case it's completely understandable that Saturday would be a very emotional day for you, and I'm guessing you didn't actually say these things to the bride. There's nothing wrong with a little vent!
DarkDreamer, we have a similar situation! In September last year DH was best man for his childhood friend. He put so much effort into it, we travelled the day before so that he could be with the groom that night and all of the next day, and put so much thought into his speech. So then this guy was our best man too. He couldn't make it to our dinner the night before, rocked up at about 1 on the day (wedding was at 3, so DH was left on his own with just the page boy and occasionally his parents for most of the day), and his speech was "I've known *name* for years now, I'm pleased to be his best man, thanks for coming, congratulations guys". That hurt DH a bit, knowing how much he'd put into his speech for this guy
i can understand that hun - given your wedding didn't work out exactly as you'd planned, it makes sense that seeing someone else's come together perfectly, it would tug at you
with your photos, have you seen any "trash the dress" photos at all? if you have your dress still this could be an awesome way to get some fantastic photos (on the beach no less) and have a great time. you can lose the extra weight if you want and go and have a blast. we've just had family photos done by a photographer who does a lot of these, and the photos are amazing. it's not something i could do, but it's an idea if you want different photos and a positive, enjoyable photo session with your dress kwim?
Yeah I have seen those BG, I love them!! That was behind my original plan to re-do our photos this November - go down the beach and really have some fun with it, get in the water and sand Unfortunately we likely won't be anywhere near a beach this year, and won't have the money for it, but still definitely something I wanna do
My Mum heard about that and was totally against it - thought I should keep my dress all nice. But I'm never gonna wear it again, it's just hanging in the wardrobe, and hers is actually rolled up in a garbage bag in the closet, slowly going yellow!! Lol
it doesn't have to be for your first anni though - you could set it as a goal for your fifth or something... redo your vows yourself on the day, and then have the photos taken - and the best bit - a stormy day on the beach would make for divine trash photos!
Mine was 2 weeks ago and I feel the same way! I keep thinking of I should have done this or done that so rest assured I bet the bride you just saw will be feeling the same as you in the future! We are always a bit more critical of ourselves than other people are. So while you think her wedding was the most beautiful perfect thing I bet there are things she isn't happy with.
Why can't we just be happy with what we have! ha ha ha x
I'm sure a lot of people regret one thing or another. I regret my choice of hairdresser, and our music playlist could have been a bit better. But whatever.
As for the first anniversary, I wear my dress every anniversary, and take it out for a bit of a walk. We have photos. This year will be tricky - 4 weeks after my EDD! So, yeah, nothing to stop you celebrating again, or renewing your vows in 5 years or something. It's a lovely idea.
Congratulations Joeve!! I think you're right, there'll be things she wasn't impressed with (the caterer's were late and they didn't dance), but to me it was great. My wedding was probably the same to her!
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Unfortunately we likely won't be anywhere near a beach this year, and won't have the money for it, but still definitely something I wanna do 
So, yeah, nothing to stop you celebrating again, or renewing your vows in 5 years or something. It's a lovely idea.
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