I thik at the time I wouldnt have changed anything but now looking back cause i have grown up and changed I would have picked a better friend as a bridesmaid.
Just make sure your doing it all for you and not trying to please other people! And the main thing enjoy your day! It goes so quick!
Only 2 things,
The first was the photographer I was not impressed by him on the day he was so rude to us and to others.
The second I would have extended our reception time by another 90 min because I was sooo late to walk down the aisle because my gown got filthy before I got to the chapel it took 45 min to clean and we then had to rush every other aspect of the day.
make sure you don't sweat the small stuff - when the day arrives, it flies, so focus on enjoying it - it's the one piece of advice this stress head took to heart most and i had a fantastic day
#1 wedding - I should have listened to my gut and run far far away and not married him.
#2 wedding - I shouldn't have asked my Aunty to do a speech at the wedding. She crapped on for ages, embarrassed the hell out of me, my mother and my entire family. And not about good stuff - family secret stuff.
I would NOT have apologised when, on the phone to my mother's insurance company because my sister had written off her car two days previously, my flowers arrived. I would NOT say "I'm sorry, I'm getting married today and my flowers have just arrived, would you mind waiting two seconds?" We'd been on hold with them for 40 minutes, which was why I was alone in the house while Dad picked up Mum and Sis from the hairdressers!
I would have made sure the photographer gave us all the photos he took, which were many, not just the 50-60 he liked. But he did the photography for free: he's a nice chap and I wouldn't have changed photographers because we'd have blown half the budget on just photographs if we'd have done that.
My mum picked the DJ and he was RUBBISH. I'd have shopped around more. He didn't understand that if we couldn't have our first choice of song we'd swap. We DIDN'T want a different artist singing that song. So he gave us two first dances, one with the song we wanted and one with the song we had wanted but the version we certainly didn't. Then he didn't understand we wanted him to announce I was about the throw the bouquet - yes, early, but some friends are leaving. Turn the music off NOW, not five songs later after nagging. He annoyed me, but small fry really because we went to bed "too early" - btw, I think 10.30-11 is an OK wedding night bedtime as we didn't want to go straight to sleep, as I was forced to explain to my mother when she got cross about us leaving "early". Anyway, we missed him but not his stupidly loud music.
I'd have done something about that flyaway bit of hair that annoys me about the later photographs.
Things I am grateful for: everyone said I'd forget my wedding, so I set my internal camcorder to tape the whole thing. It was fast but I still remember 90% of it! Also, I spoke to EVERY guest (who didn't avoid me naming no names but only because it's a public forum). That creates really good memories not just for me but also for the guests: my favourite weddings have been ones where the bride takes just two minutes of her day to say hello and just talk for two minutes. It means such a lot to everyone. And it was easier to write the thank-yous then too because I could comment on what we'd chatted about. (My thank-yous were positive epistles, which they don't have to be!)
I would have chosen a different photographer. I didn't feel comfortable with her from the beginning and I should have trusted my gut. She couldn't look us in the eye and her photos are awful!I have much better photos from our wedding that were taken by guests.
Other than that, looking back I wouldn't have invited a certain couple but that's about it.
If I could change one thing about my wedding day, it would be to not have hired a photography student. I wish we had just spent the extra money & used a professional.
She took nice photos but lacked experience. Because of this I don't look relaxed in the pictures, eg stiff shoulders. I feel a pro would have made sure I was looking my best before taking any pictures. She also didn't make sure we were looking at her when she took photos right after the ceremony. So we're all looking in different directions!!
Other than that I loved my wedding day!!
It's a special day, enjoy it as it goes very fast.
I would have hired someone to tape my wedding, instead of just getting my sister to do it - her taping was crap, and I still haven't seen the whole thing! We have this photo from our ceremony that we love where we are all laughing, but no one remembers exactly WHY...
Actually, I half-wish I had Bridezilla'd. I'd have picked dresses for my bridesmaids that made me look prettier and not have been halternecks. I'd have put everyone on a diet and exercise plan - including the in-laws. I'd have told MiL to buy a new chuffing outfit because she's NOT wearing the same to my wedding as she did to her older son's wedding. I'd have insisted the ducks at the castle for the reception were put in top hats/girly hats.
And I'd have had about 10 hair rehersals, each with a different hairdresser. Although I do like the hair I had, maybe I could have loved it...
I would have stuck MIL much further in the back corner if I had know how much she was going to complain about where she was sitting
I would have checked my dress over & tried it on before the day if I had know the zip was going to break & need replacing on my wedding day.....making me late for church & made some photo's rushed of me!!! but we still got some great ones.
i really loved my wedding, it was a great day! looking back there is only a few things i would change..
1. i wish i wore a vail
2. i wish someone told me i was slouching in some of the photos - so remember good posture for the day!
3. i wish i choose a differant friend to be bridesmaid
4. i wish we hadnt given my MIL our camera, cos she left it in the taxi on her way home.
5. i wish i didn't drink so much! we were all so relaxed and having a great time, and the waiter kept filling my glass
sounds like quiet alot now i'm looking at what i've typed! lol!
all i can say is relax and enjoy it, make sure you steal 5 mins during the day, alone with your hubby too take a breath and pause, look in at everyone, and enjoy the moment together. the day will pass too quickly. the best thing we did was have a glass of champagne alone together before our guests arrived at the reception. bliss.
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i was too drunk
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