Ok so i spoke to my other friend who we grew up with about why we possibly can't go, in turn she spoke to my friend (the groom) and he left a message for me today saying i am more than welcome to bring the girls to the wedding etc etc.
So i spoke to DP and he said i can go with Z if i really want to BUT what about car and carseat etc, i said i can hire them, i will check with Dad and see when their flights are etc and possibly go with them and split the cost of a car?

Ok so now my drama's are:

* DP's boss (the guy he contracts to) is getting slack with pays, we are behind by about 4wks and considering we just bought a house, DP a new car and we have 2 kids how the hell am i going to afford flights.
Have asked mum to give me cash for my b'day this mth to put towards it, might say the same to dad and maybe the IL's.

* The wedding is in Hervey bay and only 2 airlines pretty much fly in and the tickets are over $200 each way then i would have to pay for car, carseat, accomodation and food.

I so so so want to go and i wouldn't want to miss it for the workd but it's so much to ask for this much cash when i KNOW we really don't have it.. but on the other hand it's a life long friend and i would be so upset if i miss it.

Oh ladies help me see sense.