Invitation confusion .. Help !!

[smiles4u]

thanks Phersephone1 for your input ... i don't get it either, i would never invited people to something in the middle of the week in the middle of the day and at a really expensive flashy place ... if it was something like you are thinking to do that's informal and on a weekend and that it was an opportunity to meet bub well i think that's a perfect idea

I want to send a gift purely to make up for not being there IYKWIM !!

I can email my RSVP ... so does anyone have any ideas as to what to say ?? Like do i need to explain Wednesday is a working day for most, i don't want to sound rude in anyway !! .. Should i say we have work commitments that day OR do you think it sounds like they expect people to take a day off work again like for their Wedding a couple of years ago ??

Also i'm wondering if their mention at the bottom of the invite in bringing no gift is an indication you will be paying for your expensive lunch for a family of our 3, which would be much more expensive than any gift.

My apologies that i sound like i'm whingy, i just wish sometimes people would think of what they are asking of people.

[Visitor7]

It sounds like a naming day celebration. I've known people to have birthday parties for their kids during the week, even though the parents work. It may have been that it was cheaper for them to have it during the week? I would assume by that invitation that guests are expected to pay for their own meal.

[smiles4u]

It may have been that it was cheaper for them to have it during the week? I would assume by that invitation that guests are expected to pay for their own meal.

hey i reckon too Jodi as i know from my Mum when she spoke with my cousins Dad couple of years ago that they had their Wedding at the same venue there on a weekday cause it was cheaper than a weekend ... but i don't get how they think whole entire families can make it on a weekday, i understand kids birthday parties during week days when SAHM or maybe WAHM's might be able to make it but i can't see how a whole family can ?? (thanks Jodi )

... i must be old fashion as i'm finding more parents have birthday celebrations for their children and expecting the guests to pay their own way which means to me we are paying for a party for their own kids that the parents chose not to do for their own child ... OMG i couldn't expect that of anyone but then that's me !!

**** ANOTHER QUESTION for you lovely helpful BB ladies - i want to post a gift with a card to make up for not being able to be there BUT what sort of card do i get ??? Maybe just a blank card with something cute or pretty on the front and mention in words i hope their DD has a wonderful day celebrating her name !! ... How does that sound to you all ?? ... I have a very pretty card with a 3D music-box with a ballerina twirling in it, Does that sound ok to send with a gift ?? ... Any ideas for a GIFT would be helpful too (nothing too heavy as i've gotta post it) !!! ... (TIA)

[smiles4u]

... just an update ; my cousin mentioned in the thread had visited my folks recently and my Mum informed me it wasn't a Name Day infact my Mum said they didn't make it clear at all what the day was celebrating ... my Mum said she is guessing from their response it was about people getting to met their DD whom haven't come to see or visit her since birth, and apparently they were disappointed that some people (such as myself) didn't make the very long drive on a week day at the expensive place for lunch