Thanks girls.
yeah my b/maid pulled out of the bridal party, wedding, and my friendship all together just recently! (long story... i wont bore you) nothing i did wrong at all, it's just her and her issues... but yeah sadly enough it happened and i was devastated, totally unexpected however i asked my good friend last night would she love to be my b/maid and moved my other b/maid up to MOH now and they are both sooo excited!! So i have a feeling it is all working out for the best anyway....
and i just have to hope the new b/maid fits into the other girls dress!!!!! (she should)
Anyway, the good news is i should get a bit more help now, that i have another new b/maid to help me as she will do a good job of helping me out (the other one well, her heart wasnt in it)