Last year my DS2 had his first birthday and as he is #2 and we'd not long had christmas we too really had no need for much at all.

I sent invites out and when i thought about people needlessly spending money on toys/clothes (as you are) i put this together:

Since sending out DS’s invites I have been asked a few times of what he may like for his Birthday. Truth is he already has more than he needs and I have barely been able to give anyone an answer to the question. Should have thought of this before I send the invites out!! We have a mountain of toys, 3 shelves full of books and a cupboard full of clothes.
So DH and I have had a chat and have come up with a few ideas. Please feel free to choose one or none.

-Just come along and enjoy the day with us, your presence will be gift enough.
-Spend the money you would use to purchase DS’s present on yourselves. Treat yourselves to some yummy ice cream.
-If you have something special in mind for DS then go ahead and give him a gift.
-Or for those of you who know our close friend (name) and her partner (name) you will be aware of the challenge they have been presented with recently. We have had a chat with DS and he agrees that if you would like to donate $10 on behalf of him to them we can play a very small part in beginning to help them make their way to a happy future together. (This here was a friend of mine that many guests knew but you could possibly specify a charity if you wish also.)

These are just a few ideas and if you have anything else in mind please feel free to do as you choose.

Thank you

This may help you, as far as i know no one had a problem with it He still got some gifts but it just wasn't to the extent it may have been if i hadn't said something. Feel free to use this in any way you choose